When you are upset, do you try to hide it?

January 13, 2008 8:57am CST
When I am upset, I try to hide it. But for some people, they try to tell the other person about what they feel. So, how do you handle it when you are upset?
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23 responses
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
14 Jan 08
Well I am reading a book right now called "The Disease To Please." It says that we should not hide or supress our anger. But, we should find healthy ways to express it. It says that holding in anger breaks down the immune system and can cause such diseases as cancer. I am in therapy at this time, learning how to cope when I am upset. I tend to either hold it in or completely fly off the handle and neither one of these is working for me. There are plenty of self-help books that will help you along the way to emotional wholeness.
• Philippines
19 Jan 08
Thanks a lot for sharing this to us. :)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I generally just try to keep it all to myself. For me, showing emotion is like a sign of weakness so I don't like letting people see me cry or anything. I mean, I've let people see me cry on occasion but I try to avoid it at all costs.
• China
18 Mar 08
Everyone has differnt way to deal with their unhappiness. I'd like to choose to tell my best friends about what bother me a lot. And also, I will try my best to relax, then, all depressed mood will go.
@ruby222 (4848)
17 Mar 08
Like you I try to hide it...and carry on as though im not hurting...which is quite silly....and not good for you!!...but we all cope in different ways.
@chiyosan (29867)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
as much as i try to hide what i am feeling, it always will show in my actions and face, no matter how hard i try to restrain it, our coworkers are quite sensitive to such emotion and would immediately want tto talk with the priest.
@balasri (26554)
• India
23 Feb 08
When I am upset, I always try to hide it.But never succeeded in doing so.lol
@ebuckley (13)
• Hong Kong
7 Feb 08
When I am upset with someone, I usually have a chat with an impartial third party about what has upset me (usually someone else). If I get some form of feeling that my actions are justified, I will approach the person that has upset me and get it out in the open. No use in persecuting myself due to someone else being inconsiderate or foolish. Besides, it helps nurture the friendship and develop it into a stronger relationship.
• Philippines
6 Feb 08
sometimes yes, sometimes no.. there are times i want to hide my emotions because i dont want others to be bothered with th way i feel.. i think there are still things that you can keep only to yourself.. but most of the time, whenever im really upset, i tell others about it.. i dont want to wallow the feeling on my own.. but still it depends upon the situation..
@bandirae (16)
• United States
27 Jan 08
When i am upset i start cleaning franticly. I don't feel like talking at that point and i try to hide behind something. Then maybe later on or the next day i will open up and talk, but not always.
• Philippines
21 Jan 08
When I am upset, I try my very best to hide it especially if I am in the classroom with my students because I don't want my current emotions get into the way when I lecture. However, no matter how I try keeping my feelings to myself, people who know me best know that something is definitely bothering me. If I am upset about SOMEONE, I make sure he/she knows about it. =)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I don't get upset much, but when I'm upset I don't tend to hide it. It's a habit at times I start talking in tagalog when I'm angry so that most people around me here won't know what I'm saying. I don't stay angry long. I will laugh it off and just let go.
• China
15 Jan 08
yeah,i used to handle it in that way caz i am a man and i cant appeare to be so weak.but now are different caz that's too rough for myself to do that .now i am more likely to express myself and ask for help.i think everybody need comfort and we dont have to hide our weakness.we should understand each other and help each other.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
15 Jan 08
Hi dear when i am upset, i try to hide it as i dont want to distrub others cause of my mood. the best way when i am upset is to stay quiet, read some books or go out for strolling and if weather is not good then shut off lights of my room, cover myself with blanket and go to sleep take care
• United States
14 Jan 08
I definitely hide my feelings when I am upset. I guess I just feel like there is no point in burdening people with my problems, that only adds on to my worry you know? Yeah it probably sounds weird but I don't know, I try to take on as much as I can no matter how bad I feel and I just keep piling it on, stuffing it down. I know people worry about me thinking I'm going to ready a boiling point one day but that is the main reason I write poetry and stuff like that, that's how I release what is built up inside me.
@youless (92252)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Jan 08
I will try to hide it. It is no need for other irrelevant people to know my sadness as they can't help me anyway. And it may give me much more worries. When I am upset, usually I will talk to my husband or the friends who I trust.
@arkaf61 (10882)
• Canada
14 Jan 08
I don't necessarily try to hide it, but I don't usually tell people or show that I am upset. It's something that is personal and usually I only show it to someone that has something to do with the reason why I am upset. BUt this is not done on purpose it's the way I react. Sometimes I talk about what is upsetting me to a close friend and I feel better but not always . I do know that talking things over with someone is better than bottling it up but my first tendency is to do so.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
13 Jan 08
yes I guess I do hide it but I think I tend more to run I prefer to be on my own so I exit quick...
@rosema (1145)
• Philippines
13 Jan 08
Hi berry, for me i want to share with my friends when im upset, to lessen what i feel.
@rookiekan (883)
• China
13 Jan 08
it depends people who r i am with.if he or she was my trusted and respected friend,i will tell him or her what's happening to me.i will feel more upset if there's no persons around me for concerning me.so i u r same as me,write it or talk it to people instead of hide it
• India
13 Jan 08
Yes, my friend I also try to hide it when I am upset.I just dont like to share my problem with other people even with my family members.Instead of that I try to change my mood by listening very soft type of music.