Body Language
By Modestah
@Modestah (11179)
United States
January 13, 2008 10:40pm CST
do you pay attention to body language when speaking or listening to someone in real life?
It can tell us a lot... one thing that I find interesting is that body language can reveal a fib.
When a person is remembering his eyes will go upwards and to the right or to the left.
when they go to the upper right the person is recalling a true event...
when they go to the upper left they are recalling or thinking up an untruth.
another thing is when people are telling a lie their body naturally rejects it - and needs to express that - so they are betrayed by their head, which will shake "no no no" this is especially humorous when the lips are saying yes yes yes!
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14 responses
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
14 Jan 08
I work with old people with dementia and the body language is very important to learn when working with such an illness. This is because they hardly can not tell you how they feel when the illness has gone so far that the speaking language has been forgotten or disappeared. You have to rely on your eyes and listen to their body to know certain things they need or want. I use this language often in my job so it has come to be a common thing. I have great use for it to learn about others to.
God topic to express.
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@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
15 Jan 08
Well it take some time to learn this language. You have to teach the signals.
Let´s say the person with dementia starts getting nervous, going around, picking things and get aggressive. You have to find out what the problem is, because there is when they do things like this.
It is most of the time anxiety for no longer function properly.
Not knowing where things they need are, not knowing how to say I am in pain, not knowing what to do, when you see some one who talks to you as they known you all their life and not recognize who this person is.
It can be various things and as a person taking care of people with dementia you have to use your mental skills, your eyes, your creativeness for solving mysteries as this illness have.
What I do is to teach my self about this person. Learn about their earlier life, what they use to do, how they was grown up, what they did like and do like, Use this knowledge to solve problems coming up during the illness progress. Learn how the person act in different times during the day and keep this knowledge for other times to use for problem solving.
But most of all, try to understand that this illness do change a persons personality. That is the most difficult thing for the relatives to accept. And also have to take care of him or her. I wish your mother the best. But when she no longer can for some reasons take care of him. She should really give him to people who can. She should not weep her out trying do it her self. I for one know she really need help with this.
Take care
Anette
@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
14 Jan 08
well ur absolutely correct. body langauge speaks a lot. u can know abt a person with his body langauge.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
14 Jan 08
wow..!! you did a good study in on this topic..!!
But I have experienced many people who starts staring in the eye while to talking to me ...and they open their eyes very widely ..this is when they are actually recalling something!!
While we are in chat in some one I have always noticed that usually the other person becomes a statue for some seconds and if he is looking in our eyes then he continues that too whcih becomes a stare!!!
How can you answer this behaviour.
:)
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
15 Jan 08
well ..not exactly ..!!
but it usually happens with me .. when they try to recall something in there mind.. it becomes like a stare.
It do makes me quite uneasy too!!
@AmbiePam (85604)
• United States
15 Jan 08
I'm pretty conscious of body language. I've heard and seen so many things about how to tell if someone is lying, and so on. So at church, or like my last job, I was/am very careful to not do certain things. I cross my arms a lot, and that is known to be a defensive gesture. However, most of the time, I really don't feel defensive. But because I know how it is perceived, I take great pains to never do that in those kind of environments.
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
8 Feb 08
In my former line of work having to interview people for positions within the company, yes I have had to pay attention to body language. It is true, it can tell us alot! Even in social settings knowing this information makes a big difference in how you view people. If you know the language of body expressions, you are less apt to be fooled!
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
8 Feb 08
I don't always look for body language when I am speaking to people. However I do notice some people's body language when they are lying. I find if people are lying they cannot look you in the eyes. Or they will touch their nose.
Other things I notice with body language is if someone is interested in what you are saying they will usually have eye contact with you and sometimes have their finger on their chin. If they are defensive towards you they will cross their arms.
I am very interested to learn more about body language it definately does tell us alot about the way someone is thinking.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
14 Jan 08
Body language is quite a science isn't it, and a great talent to have! Just by someone's body language you can tell if they are interested in you, I am useless at interpreting body language! And never know if someone is giving me the nod or ready to reject me. It's like another language! I know some people that study body language and are very proficient at it. Thank for the lie tip, I will try to remember that.
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
•
26 Jan 08
I think we all pay attention to body language, even if at just the sub-conscious level. It is argued by psychologists that we form an impression of someone within 15 seconds of meeting them. With this in mind we can see that those who understand and control body language are at a massive advantage
blessed be
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 Jan 08
I pay attention to body languages,. But all that you have posted here really ionteresting and very informative. I also can understand from the body language whether the person is telling lie or truth. thanks for this post.
@crazynurse (7482)
• United States
16 Jan 08
I have read that before and it is very interesting to watch a person's eyes when they are speaking! There is an entire mental health treatment based on eye movement...called EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) that is fascinating! It utilizes rapid movements of the eye to help with psychological trauma and other psych issues. It is really fascinating to read about. YOu can read about it here: http://www.emdr.com/briefdes.htm
@islandrose (686)
• Philippines
14 Jan 08
Am trying to understand body language too, like, when kids are very energetic and joins to activities drinking hard liquours, jumping over the fence, shouting inside the classroom, for sure such kids have psychological trouble, either in their homes or by themselves. That's why, I always talk to them, share with them or lead them to the guidance counselor.
@luanakent (794)
• Brazil
14 Jan 08
the hands also speaks...
When people lie increases the stress on the body and it is common moves the hands because nervousness.
Already eyes dont needs to move for denounce get a felling..They shine when we are more passionate. lololol
@golechashrenik (55)
• India
15 Jan 08
I carefully observe the body language, it really talks alot about the person I am with.
Its not always the case that his/her head would have a no sign, its only when they are guilty but not in all the case. Cant be generalised.
@angieang (262)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Body language is a very good give away to a liar if they don't know these rules and thoughts! At times I'll find this popping into my head when I give responses to questions, and wonder if you can tell the truth and look to the upper left. When I look up and away I naturally look to the left, yet speak true words...so would that mean if I look up to the right then I'm telling a lie? Maybe I'm backwards!LOL
