My purpose in life

United States
January 15, 2008 8:30pm CST
I am only 16 and have more than enough responsibilities. It's hard living the life I live because all I do is take care of children that aren't even mine. My mom has seven children and I am the oldest. How would you feel if you were me and you can't go to the mall with your friends? You can't go because you have to babysit while you are babysitting your mothers out at the club. How'd you feel if you mom found a man who puts her down? How'd you feel if you got beat for not cleaning up properly? How'd you feel if someoneput a knife to your neck? How'd you feel if you weren't loved at all? Or appreciated? How'd you feel if you were only around because you babysitted?
2 people like this
9 responses
@CocHawk (84)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Wow, I fell really sorry for you. I would fell awful I these things happened to me. I have one question, though, do you fell like if you just left, that you would be abandoning your little siblings? Because that would make it worse.
• United States
16 Jan 08
Yes if I left them then they'd get beat. I would feel worse. I ranaway and was arrested and running away made things even worse
@florlei (47)
• Philippines
17 Jan 08
I say you better get help if you are really abused like you said you are. I understand you are still very young and at your age wants to have fun with his friends. That is just natural so is baby sitting your younger siblings. Maybe you should try talking with your mom, tell her all your sentiments. Maybe she will allow you at least a dayoff from baby sitting. If she doesn't listen, you can try asking for help from relatives who care. And if that doesn't still work, then ask help from agencies like social welfare, etc. I am sure they can help you. I suggest you also pray to lessen your troubles. I am hoping you'll get through all your sufferings soon. God bless...
• India
17 Jan 08
nakitalikely3617, my heart goes out to you dear. You really do not deserve to live that kind of a life. All I can say is that you should pray and trust in God. I will pray for you from now on. Please talk to some elders in ur place if you can dear.
@lilaclady (28270)
• Australia
17 Jan 08
Oh how sad, you should be out enjoying yourself at 16, maybe in the near future you can live your own life, I think it is a little unfair of your mother to put so much onto you if she is out enjoying her self at clubs, oh how I wish a better more happier life soon, you are 16 now and you will be an adult yourself soon, I hope you will be able to sort a better life out for yourself, I wish you all the luck in the world....
@youless (87456)
• Guangzhou, China
16 Jan 08
I think being the eldest child has to be responsible to the family anyway. My husband is the eldest and he has two sisters. When he was little, he had to help to take care of his sisters and he also wanted to go out to play. So he thought out a good way to make his sisters to sleep. He would have a game. Close the eyes and see which one would fall asleep sooner. The earlier one would win this game. This is how he made his sisters sleep and then he could have his own time.
@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
16 Jan 08
First off, you seem like a smart kid, so, you shouldn't be putting up with this kind of abuse. Call the authorities, talk to a teacher, there are people who will help and get you and your siblings out of this situation, if you talk to them. Discussing it here is fine, but none of us can do anything here on the internet. So, being the girlfriend of a cop, talk to someone, before it gets worse, and even though it seems like it can't get any worse, it can, so please talk to someone.
@Tetchie (2933)
• Australia
16 Jan 08
Your purpose in life is not to get beaten by your mom, or to babysit your brothers and sisters. Though this may be what's happening at the moment for you, it is up to you to not let it get you down too much but learn from what's happening. Have you heard the saying "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger?" Perhaps take your current experience as a life lesson on how to be strong and rise above all the s**t that's happening. You are not responsible for your mom by the way and you as a human being are not expected to put up with it. But how you deal with it is what's important. I wish you all the strength in the world to become an amazing person regardless of what is dealt you.
• United States
16 Jan 08
You should have to face all that at 16. I know how hard it can be when you are stuck at home watching your siblings while your parents are out and about enjoying their adult lifes not thinking about how they are affectings your childhood and teenage years, the best years of your life. I too had to grow up a lot quicker than I should have. My parents split up when I was about 5 and I went from place to place and never got settled. When I was with my father he would go out on dates with his girlfriend (my stepmom now) and leave me and my older sister at home by ourselves and we would have to cook, clean, etc. Then when my mom and dad both started having children with their new lovers then it was my sister and I who had to watch the babies. And that is how it happened up until I moved out on my own. Now with the other stuff, I don't have any experience and I am truely sorry you have been beat for not cleaning right and the nife to your neck but you have to know that there are people out there who do love you and appreciate you..Your friends, those around your community and the ones you meet online. Just hang in there and when you are older you will be a stronger person because of these experiences. Just remember that when you get the chance make sure you have as much fun as you can and enjoy everything possible.
• United States
16 Jan 08
this is not the life you should have at 16. I am very saddened by what you have said. I wish I could reach out and give you a great big hug. Just to let you know that you are wonderful. you should not have to deal with this kind of life. The thought that you are being abused makes me very upset. No one shaould feel unsafe in their home. No one should have to ever feel what it like to have a knife at their throat especially at your age. I have a child that is only a year younger than you and if this were to happen to her . Oh, the things I would do. I think you need to talk to someone other than us here on mylot. You need to talk to someone who can help you and your siblings. Please know that their are those that care.