Military Love

@katkah (235)
United States
January 24, 2008 2:03pm CST
My boyfriend - soon to be fiance, joined up with the ARMY National Guard. He graduates from Basic Training the first week of February, then stays down in GA for his AIT until June. He left Nov. 2 2007, got to come home for a couple weeks over the holidays, and now we won't see one another for 6 months, and that's only if they don't deploy him when he's done! Is anyone else in love with a military man? Please share your experiences. How do you keep your relationship going strong with so much time apart? He and I write to one another more than anyone else in his platoon! The post office is getting rich off of how many letters we send...lol He calls me once a week & we talk for those few minutes he's allowed, it should be more once he starts AIT. I send him pictures of me & the kids, and he draws me pictures & writes me poetry... stuff like that.
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palonghorn
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Keep the lines of communication open. I'm not married to military but my daughter is, and she has gone through 2 deployments since they got married 3 years ago, each deployment was for a year. If he does get deployed, when he does have the chance to call home, do not rant about anything, bills, price of gas, kids acting up, nothing. Keep the conversations light, it will be hard at times, but paying bills, and stuff means nothing when they are in Iraq or anywhere over there. They don't want to call home to a wife or girlfriend who does nothing but complain about stuff everytime they call. Keep sending pictures, and when you can get him a laptop computer to have with him when he's gone.
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katkah
@katkah (235)
• United States
25 Jan 08
He says he wants to know about all of that stuff. He's still in training though, so I can see how if he was in the war it might be different; but he's always writing & asking about the bills- do we have enough to cover it or should he send more... he writes all the time about different ideas with what we should do with the kids & stuff, I mean we have 7- they aren't going to listen all the time... he knows that. I tried to keep it light & not tell him how upset I was with him, but I couldn't take it anymore & had to write a letter to vent about how things went during his visit home for the holidays. He was happy about the letter. He wants me to be as open and honest as possible because he wants us to have a healthy & honest relationship.
tamararacine
@tamararacine (268)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Well tell him Congratulations!!! Once he gets to AIT is gets easier and they let you out more to use the phone or other personal stuff. I was engaged when I went to basic and it is hard but you are busy all the time you barely have enough time to think!! Now that was awhile ago it is easier at basic now. Good luck and if you have any military questions or just support I am happy to help!