equal love for the children

I try to plan a special day for each one of my kids and do things that they like to do. All my kids have different personalities and different likes so I do stuff they like and are into. Its hard for me because my three year old Logan is retarded so he takes up alot of my time. But my kids are very understanding and realize that Logan is special and needs a little bit more of mommies attention. I also will cook their favorite meals or snacks just for them and I also make sure I tell them everyday how much I love them and how special they are in their own way. I have started a scrapbook project for each of my kids and when my husband is home on the weekends then I work on the scrapbook with one of my kids. They love it and it gives me quality time with them and its way to make them feel really special.

Do you have any children? I am pregnant with my second child and I beleive the best few things to do is to not treat one better than the other or choose favorism. Also, spend a day out with both of them together sometimes and have just as much fun with both. Another way is to take them out individually so they can all get the individual attention that they will naturally want and need from you as a parent. And love them very much of course!

Well I don’t know really as I am a single child. Whatever I have seen has been mine only. But from an Indian point of view, I can say this much from personal experience that here in India, the eldest child gets a very raw deal from the parents. Middle-class India doesn’t have much money to spend on each kid and so while they all grow up learning the values of sharing and tolerating each other, the onus of looking after the family falls on the eldest child. So from a very early age, it is ingrained into him/her that the sole purpose of life is to look after the younger siblings and parents and though the younger children are taught to respect and ‘listen’ to their elder brother/sister, they generally have it much easier. They only dampner for them are the hand-me-down clothes & toys of elder siblings.

My girls are older, 14 and 17. I've done my best their whole lives to not make either one of them think that I love the other one more or less... Mostly I do that by making sure that I spend quality time alone with each of them, either going places or just talking with them alone in their rooms. They are very unique and different, and I think it's very important that they realize I love them for who they are... and NOT compare them to each other. They hate that!

i have only one daughter this time, and maybe soon if i will become married and have lots of of children i would definitely make an equal love for them..for me, i will give the all of my best to love them all, to listen to all of them, to share my thoughts to them, to say that i love all of them, that they are so much special to me, that every one of them are equal in my love, my attention, i dont want to give them depression when they see that all of them are not equal children..also it can lead into not having a good understanding to each other because it can form a jealous between one of them and i dont want to have a children like that..

I have two daughters, my eldest is 2 and my youngest is barely 5 months old. Right now, my focus is on the baby since she depends on me all the time but I see to it that I attend to my eldest or have my husband assist her when I'm busy with the baby. Providing quality time to each and everyone in the family would make them feel that they are worthy. Also, accept your child as they are. Never compare because they are uniques even if they are all of the same genes. Know your child well since they have different attributes and one parental technique will not apply to all.

I make shore they have their special time with their parents. I have some issues with my daughter and some issues with my son. I do special things with my daughter that make her feel special and loved by me, and I do other special things with my son that make him feel special and loved by me. It is important that you give both the kids their time with you. It is also important to give them time together.

I do try to convey to each of my children that they are loved but in individual ways. I cannot love them the very same because they are all very different people but I do love all of them. I do not believe in equal love because people are not the same. If love is given the same to all, then what is special about each will go unnurtured. Love should be as special as an individual is.

Other than saying how much I love them every day. We have mother daughter days, and mother son days, and family days. They have different personalities and you just have to adjust to that.