Can you hide who you are

@IceMagi2 (102)
United States
February 2, 2008 5:07pm CST
So now I have people asking me how I managed to live with a homophobic stepfather for 6 years. I tell them that I sure as h*ll didn't do it for him I did it for my mother. What I am asking is could you have hidden who you are for so long just so that you could keep a relationship together? No matter how you felt as long as your mother was happy in her life.
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• United States
3 Feb 08
This still makes me mad that my dad treated you the way he did for so long. It makes me thankful every day that he didn't raise any one of his own kids. I could never have done it. I don't know how you did do it. I'm just glad that you can finally be yourself now that you are away from him.
@jhl930 (3605)
• United States
2 Feb 08
I have never personally hid who i really was from anyone because sooner or later their going to find out who you are and they could be upset that they really havent seen the real you for as long as they have known you! But if I had to hide who I really was from someone than their probably not worth trying to thide something from in the first place...because you don't want to have to appear to be someone else infront of other people..because the people who are worth being around are the poeple who like you for who you are!
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
2 Feb 08
For most of my marriage I hid who I was. because I had been taught that your husband is the most important person in your life and you must do what ever it takes to please him. So for many years I did, but I grew to hate and resent him because I had submerged my personality to please him and he didn't like me even then. So I guess the moral of the story is be your self if people don't like you that is their problem, not yours. I no longer have any tolerance for bigoted people and have no problem telling them where the bear went in the buckwheat.