What are your 'gifts'?

@owlwings (43915)
Cambridge, England
February 16, 2008 10:53am CST
We have skills - 'gifts' - which we have achieved and honed through hard work and dedication to goals: skills which we usually feel justified in having reward from. We also have skills - talents which are things we seem to be naturally good at or things we have a natural inclination for (we may be good at singing or swimming or crosswords or dealing with people). Those may strongly influence our choices of what we study or work at but they are INNATE - faculties we seem to be born with. Another kind of 'gift' is the quality that we may ask for (wisdom, forbearance, strength in adversity, the ability to win or love, for example) ... things that we realise we are short on and ask [whoever] for more strength in those things. If you have ever asked for something like that, were your prayers answered? Yet another kind of 'gift' is the gift of something like money (when we needed it), a particular job (that we desired), or the fulfilment of a dream (perhaps something we had longed to do or an ideal partner or friend). Sometimes we don't consciously ask for such things but when they happen, we regard them as a gift [from heaven/God/the gods/fortune]. Jesus said, "Ask and it shall be given unto you". Does that, for you, imply that it only works if you love and follow Him or do you think of it is a universal rule? Jesus also has several parables about 'hiding our light [under a bushel = a pail or bucket or some such cover]' and of investing talents (or using them) in order to 'show a profit'. What do you think 'gifts' or 'talents' are? How should we regard them - as things which we were somehow given at birth, as something 'earned' by our (relative) goodness or worthiness, or as things which are there, freely, for us to take as we need them (or as we recognise our use for them)? I believe that there are two parts to this. First, that we have many talents or 'special skills' that we are born with. We may or may not recognise them until somebody else points out or we feel ourselves that we are especially good at something. Then, maybe, we act on that opinion and make that talent into something that benefits ourselves and others. Second, there are 'opportunites' which are flowing past us constantly. It takes a certain kind of mind to recognise the ones that are useful to us and to grab them and act on them as they fly past. It is the people who have that kind of mind who we perceive as 'lucky' or 'good businessmen' or 'entrpreneurial'. Do you think that it is 'good' to develop our sensibility or skills (as is certainly possible) to behave in the second way?
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• United States
16 Feb 08
This is a great discussion. I certainly agree that it is good to develop our sensibility or skills in all aspects of our lives. I was never a really good athlete when playing with the neighborhood kids but in 6th grade I tried out for soccer. I was the goalie and our team finished the season 11 W 1 L. I took a test in 3rd grade to determine if I had any musical ability. I scored very poorly but I so wanted to play the flute. By 6th grade I was second chair in our school band. I believe that anyone is capable of doing anything that they set their heart on and put their mind to. Life, love, wealth, success, anything. I was told by my doctor during my last pregnancy that I should not go through with it because I was DEFINITELY going to miscarry the baby or she was going to be born with some kind of defect. I could not do it. I had to try. I tried so hard that not only did I NOT miscarry but I had to be induced because she was 18 days overdue. And she suffered no birth defects at all. So at least for my own life on this planet I have proven to myself that I can and I have done everything I was told I couldn't do just by setting my mind to it.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
16 Feb 08
Thankyou, CAOS, for these great affirmations! They really bring tears of joy to my eyes! Yes, you are right. We CAN be and do whatever we want. It is only knowing how to want it properly that is the problem. Sometimes it is being told that we CAN'T do something that is the kick up the backside that spurs us on!
@Jemina (5770)
17 Feb 08
I think the best gift I have is listening. I am very good at listening. Maybe because I hate talking really LOL! I want to have the gift of speaking though. I want to be confident when I speak in front of many people.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
17 Feb 08
To be able to listen is one of the most valuable gifts you can have. More people are helped by simply having someone to listen to them than by any amount of advice and counselling (as a matter of fact the best counsellors say very little!)
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@Jemina (5770)
13 Mar 08
Thanks. I used to believe I'm a loser because I'm not the talker type. But now that I have matured I understand better how important listening is.
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• United States
16 Feb 08
I believe that all people are born with these abilities, it is just that many people do not try to use and improve on these inborn abilities. There are many gifts that we (as a whole) probably have, but do not know how to bring them out. As far as the talents that I possess, I am able to stay calm in most situations where most people would be running around like chickens with their heads cut off. I try to use this ability to help keep other people calm when they need to stay focused and think clearly. My talents include putting together native American crafts, keeping and breeding tropical fishes, and helping people using hypnosis.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
16 Feb 08
I understand the one about being calm. Often just the existence of a chicken with its head on leads others to go look for theirs! I wonder how you discovered a talent for hypnosis. I imagine it was because you became interested in the subject yourself and had the confidence in it to be able to introduce it to others. (A 'learned' gift or a talent that you have built upon.) Do you have any thoughts about asked for gifts? Qualities that you desired and requested (or decided that you would train yourself in).
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
17 Feb 08
This is a good disscussion. I have always imagine that what is my gift? Do I really have some kind of gift. Until now, I have never got an answer. Some people think that I am a good student. Therefore my gift is study. However, I do not think so. A lot of people do much better than me. I am not good at singing. At least, just I just sing a song for fun. Also, I run fast sometimes, but I never get a good resut in a race. I eat a lot, but not more than my sister. I am nobody. Notwithstanding, from today, I will think it more carefully, may be tomorrow, I will find an answer, at least a poor gift.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
17 Feb 08
Many people assume that their 'gifts' are what is *given* to them. Try turning that on its head and ask yourself "What do I have a burning desire to give to other people?" That is one of the ways, probably the best, of finding out your gifts ... or your vocation or calling.
@elite19 (52)
• India
17 Feb 08
you are right that we all have certain gift that we are born with but it dose take great effort to find that gift in us for most of the people,and those who sucess are truly blessed one as not all people can find what they are good at or someone to recognise their talent so again i would say that its something that is ruled by highest authority that god and what i can define as a luck
@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
17 Feb 08
Luck, genes, Divine benificence - call it what you will, everybody has something that they are especially good at and can use for the benefit of others. I have realised, on reflection, that a 'gift' may, indeed, be something that we are given or endowed with but it loses the quality of being a 'gift' unless we give it - or give of it - to someone else.
@rombus (13)
• United States
17 Feb 08
My "Gift" is being likable by everyone. By saying this it makes my seem shallow, but that is not the case. Once you get to know me in person you will instantly become at ease. I am personable. My many friends are proof of this fact.
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@owlwings (43915)
• Cambridge, England
17 Feb 08
Your secret is very likely that you are a good listener. It is amazing how quickly people take to someone who just keeps silent and listens. I have heard people praised many times by others with the words "He/she is SUCH a nice person!" and I know full well that that person has actually said very little themselves. What they have done, however, is simply to show respect and to LISTEN to others.
@shoumik12 (176)
• Bangladesh
17 Feb 08
Maybe, I don't know but I think you maybe right about all this.