I am becoming Obsessed

This is a very common thing when one really loves someone, sometimes when someone loves someone they think everyone in the world wants them too, its just feeling a litle insecure, plus I think sometimes partners sometimes become so relaxed with their partners they forget to keep that feeling of being secure alive, its sort of taking the relationship for granted, the sad part about this sort of thing you can't help how you feel it just happens...I hope he wakes up to himself and spends more time with you and makes you feel the way he should make you feel secure and loved...goodluck

Hi dear Well obsessiveness and jealousy is natural when your boyfriend is not giving you time. All I can suggest you is -- confront him and tell him what is bothering you. Ask for time from him .. make him remember all the good days you spent together .. make him realize how important he is for you, tell him to get time for you. In a relationship time is a very important thing and he should get time for you. Let him know that you are going into depression all because of this. If he realize this -- he will definitely take out time for you :)

Dear friend, You need to do something to get over this obsession. You must get comfortable in knowing in your heart that he loves you and appreciates spending time with you. That does not mean all his free time. Each person is a person in his or her own right. You should develop your own interests and hobbies and pursue them. Do you work? if you have time on your hands maybe you would like to volunteer at a place of your interest. If your sole focus in life is your boyfriend and if all your thoughts and time revolve around him you are bound to lose him. The happiest people in life are those who remain individuals in their own right, but come together for joyful and fulfilling times.

i think only you can correct yourself. the situation is only like this.try to understand taht he has to be well settled in his career. so if he has to spend a lot of time there, give him space. otherwise you can engage yourself in some good activities taht will keep you away from these thoughts.

wen love begins we wait for hours for our partners....during the next stage its like "i cant live withou u"....next stage is possessiveness.... that is trying to control ur partner through love...."Happiness is the price of love" why u shed that with these type of possessiveness....

Oh hon, you do need to get a grip. You are right...you will drive him away. You'll appear needy and controlling and that is not what you want, i know. I am a woman but I am very independent and need lots of space. I am very faithful and honest but I will tell you this....NOTHING is a bigger turn off to me than a guy that clings and hangs all over me and is very demanding of my time. I have a job,friends and a child to attend to. I do my best to fit him in. If he starts complaining and whining then it just starts to feel like more pressure. You need to find other things to do when he isn't around to occupy yourself. Don't spend your life just sitting & waiting for him.

I don't know how long you have been with your boyfriend but I can tell you this for sure, jealousy is not a good trait and your behaviour will definitely push him away from you if you're not careful. Men hate to feel like they are being controlled and there's nothing worse than a gf ringing you up every 5 minutes asking where you are and who you're with when you're out with work colleagues relaxing after work or meeting with friends. We all need to have our space and you should try meeting your friends and enjoying some of your own hobbies. It's not good to want to spend all of your free time with someone, I know you might feel that you can't live without him but you will end up losing him if you keep obsessing and then you'll never have him in your life. You don't want to end up acting like a stalker do you? People like that are irrational and one step away from being locked up for having mental health issues! Take a big step backwards and see how your behaviour must be coming across to him. The more you obsess, the more time he will want to spend away from you so think smart and show you have a life of your own and make him want to come and spend time with you when he sees you are getting on with your own things and enjoying other people's company. If this doesn't work, it will mean you weren't meant to be together anyway and better to find out sooner rather than later! Good luck :)

how sad...i've been that situation..it's too tired waiting for someone who dont even know to give enough time. Just open your feeling towards him..Express sincerely.. Or dont communicate or see him in a period of time, let him miss you a lot. Good luck.

Eh, this is a difficult situation. It all depends on whether he spends any time with you at all. If he divides his time between you, his job, and his friends, well then he has a right to have fun with his buddies as well. Guys need this at times. As long as they are not going to strip clubs or things like that.... However, you should have the majority of his time. Well, you and his job that is. That's what happens when people are in a relationship. Friends take third place to the job and GF/BF. At the same time, you don't want to be too clingy because this will only scare him off and make him run in the other direction. However, he needs to make time for you because if he isn't, then that's wrong as well. It all comes down to finding a balance. Sometimes this is hard to do, especially for men...