When you are talking to someone do you see that person in the eyes?

February 20, 2008 8:37am CST
I hate people that don't do that. This is I think disrepect to the person they are talking with.I like to have conversation with somene that looks during the conversation in the eyes.I do it always by myself
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I hardly ever look into someones eyes the whole time I am talking to them. It makes me feel really weird by staring at them. I am sincere in my words but I do not want them to stare at my eyes either because it makes me very uncomfortable. I'm sorry if you hate me for that but I think alot of it comes from my backwardness and shyness. Some people look at me weird as it is and I don't want to see them looking at me strange when I talk.
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21 Feb 08
Ok thanks for your sincere response. I've said that I hate but in the meaning that I don't like and don't agree with people that don't look me in the eyes when we are talking together. I don't want to say that looking in the eyes is a must all the time 'cause as you mentioned, it makes people uncomfortable but at least during conversation you can have some eye contact.
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
21 Feb 08
Your welocme. Yes. I agree with you. I do make some eye contact especially if I feel it needs to be done at the time of something that I am sincerely saying. I know what you mean though. Alot of people will speak and not mean their words or look you in the eye because they are lying.
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@elsoft12 (1825)
• India
20 Feb 08
Thats right.An eye contact definetely brings that part of energy to the conversation,which can otherwise be just dull and uninspiring. However,when you dont like talking to someone then its rather difficult to look into their eyes and speak....may be because one doesnt want a long conversation always...hahahaha
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21 Feb 08
Or maybe he has something terrible to hide and don't want you to look at his eyes 'cause he is afraid that you can fint out what it is hahahahahah just kiding .Thanks for response
@youless (91494)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Mar 08
Most of the time I tend to look at others' eyes when I am talking with them. I think it's a polite way. But sometimes I will look at another place and look at this person again. As it seems it's not so suitable to look at others' all the time. Others may feel shy to it:)
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@shakeroo (3990)
• Malaysia
11 Mar 08
You'd better do that so that you can catch that person if he or she is trying to lie and atthe same time, looking at the eyes shows that you are serious with the conversation that you are having.
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@manya_pearl (1905)
• Singapore
23 Feb 08
When i am talking to someone, i always see his/her eyes. Its like weirdo, talking to a person and you look at his chest or hands... ahahah... For me its ok if that person that i talk to do not look at my eyes, anyway, its his eyes, whatever object he will see, i don't care at all...
@suehan1 (4355)
• Australia
21 Feb 08
yes i agree that it is annoying that people can not look you in the eye when they are speaking to you.my son is shy and he will not look you in the eye unless he knows you well enough and i have to constantly tell him to look at me or someone else when you talk to them.its not that i am nagging him ,but i want to build up his confidence when handling people.cheers sue
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
21 Feb 08
i do all the times. it also enhances your confident. you are right, if somebody does not look at, its the disrespect i guess. i try to do it as much as possible.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Yes, it bothers me and some people do this because they are not confident. But the ones that REALLY bug me are the guys that look down. They are not lacking confidence, they are just rude..(and that is putting it nicely..lol)
@Bev1986 (1427)
• United States
20 Feb 08
I always try to make eye contact... but I don't want to stare either... so if I feel like I'm staring, I'll casually look away, then look back at them. But if someone is telling me something very important, I make sure I look them in the face and give them my full attention.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
20 Feb 08
Yes it can be frustrating to talk to someone who does not have eye contact. But as a person who used to be very shy when I was younger, I can understand why some people are unable to do that. For some people it is very difficult to meet someone in the eye because of how shy they are. It's almost equivalent to having to stand in front of a thousand people and having to look them in the eye and speak to them. It's very unnerving! So try to be more understanding to them.
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