Who would you laeve your life to?
@histechnoangel (356)
United States
February 21, 2008 1:34am CST
So, I was thinking the other day about a nightmare I had about my husband and I dying somehow, and our 10 month old son was left alone. I was thinking about the ensuing battle that would rage for custody of him, between my parents and his parents. My husband and I don't want our son to go to either!! We have things we don't like/disagree with for both sets of parents and can't see either of them raising our precious, amazing son. Yes- they raised us, right? Still- we know what we went through as a child and yes, we love our parents... but we know how we want to raise our son and it's pretty different than how they would raise him.
Also, I couldn't leave him with my BIL because he's 3 years older than my husband- yet he's unemployed, lives at home with his mom, has no car, and no license... just plays on his computer. So, yeah... raising my son is out of the picture for him. Besides, he doesn't believe in hygiene.
My brother is 3 years younger and though he's great with my son, he's just not financially secure. He has a job, a car, lives at home- but thats because he just cant afford to move out. So, raising my son is out of the picture.
My sister is 8 years younger and is in high school, and I love her to death but she is way immature and well- in high school.
....... See what I mean???? So, do you know who you would leave your child to?
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8 responses
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I would trust my parents, my sister and my brother to raise my children. My husband and I were just talking the other day about who we would leave our baby to if we were to die. We came up with the decision that my younger brother and his wife will probably be the ones we would choose first. They have two children of their own, don't plan on having anymore. We also like the way that they raise their children. My parents and my sister would definitely want her too but they would respect our wishes.
@skysuccess (8858)
• Singapore
22 Feb 08
I think before you ask the question who your son will be left with - you will need to ask yourself if you have made enough preparation if you were to face with the unexpected.
I think there is no point judging for your son and it would be best to learn from him who he is comfortable with should the both of you be absent from him. Ask him.
As I had mentioned earlier, how prepared are you both as parents for him and that would mean in the aspect of finances. Please remember that his upbringing may mean extra burden for the other party and I sure hope that you have taken up sufficient insurances and financial plannings for him.
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
21 Feb 08
My sincere suggestion would be not to have any related morbid thoughts. You and your husband would live long enough to take care of that precious little one.. Your subconscious fear may have surfaceed as a nightmare and why meet troublehalf way? God is great,He would take care of us.
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
21 Feb 08
wow! that's a tough one. we don't have a kid yet, and this question is already making me wonder about what-ifs... yep! it's pretty hard. i don't have a big family. my parents produced just two offsprings. and i cannot possibly entrust my kid to my brother because my brother himself is having responsibility issues towards his kid -- much more if i leave my kid with him.
@kiran1978 (4134)
• Australia
22 Feb 08
I guess I have never actually thought about this question before as the thought horrifies me, I would hate to leave my child without a mother or a father. But if this was to happen I would be happy for my mother to raise my children as she sees them on a weekly basis and she always has their best interest at heart. Even though I don't like everything she does in her parenting, I know they would be well looked after and she would keep my memory alive.
@xangelfacex24 (6)
• United States
22 Feb 08
i am not so sure how to answer that but i do know that it is a very hard question to answer knowing who to trust with your son or daughters life. it would most certainly have to be somoeone who you could trust with your life and some
@carlaabt (3504)
• United States
21 Feb 08
In our will, we have that one of my older sisters would raise our son if we were to both die. We've considered changing it, because we aren't really sure what kind of parent her new husband would make, but so far we've left it alone. We know my sister would take good care of him. She has a decent job, a reliable car and is buying her first home. We also have large enough life insurance policies that our son would have a trust fund that she could use part of to pay for his expenses. One of my other sisters would be in charge of his money, to make sure that it would be used for things that benefit our son, and not just whatever my BIL wanted.
