Grown children taking advantage of thier parents

United States
February 21, 2008 6:11pm CST
I wonder how many up in age parents are out there who still one way or another support their children. This lady I work with is around 55 yrs old, she told me her daughter and 2 children have been living with her for the last seven years. WOW. I've seen her daughter she is around 38-43 yrs old, and she said her daughter has not worked for a year.Her grandson was working with us for awhile until they wouldn't give him one saterday off so he quit the job. This lady in my opinion should even have to work if her daughter would stop using her mom. This is so sad to me. I wonder how many families are out there with grown children who rely on they parents who can barerly afford to take care of them selves.
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@asgtswife04 (2483)
• United States
22 Feb 08
You know it's really sad how many children take advantage of their parents these days. My ex mother n law still pays my ex husbands bills and mortgage because he drinks all his money away and he is almost 30 years old. there is something so wrong about that, but it won't stop until the mother has finally had enough and stops doing everything for him. she even pays his childsupport every other week because he won't pay it cause he says he doesn't have the money. it's absolutely insane. i don't ask my parents for anything. they raised me and took care of me until i was 16 and then i started working and took care of myself. it is so disrespectful of these children or grown adults to do this to their parents, but if the parents continue to support them then it's just as much the parents fault as it is the childs in my opinion. thanks for posting and God bless
• United States
22 Feb 08
The panents are feeling sorry for there grown children, When the grown children should be helping the parents, If he didn't have mom and was about to be arrested for not paying child support I wonder if he would get his act together and work hard to take care of his responsibilities. hum...
• United States
22 Feb 08
does make you wonder. I think more parents need to let go of their children and let them deal with being adults so that they can see how life really is without mommy and daddy bailing them out. makes me sick sometimes to see how my ex takes advantage of his mother. i get mad at her just the same cause she just sits back and hands the money out for him. ridiculous
• China
22 Feb 08
Well,It is not a news anymore,I have heard mostly in China,especailly in recent years.Youngers have many pressures than youth years ago.I have a classmate who stil stays at home,He plays games everyday,do nothing for his parents.I just wanna to kick him.I think he will try to find jobs in this news.anyway.I still hope youngers should find his/her jobs,Please do not take advantage for your parents,cause they do much for us alreay,right?
• United States
22 Feb 08
Yes. Parents work your whole life trying to make a good life for you until your old enough to start working and start your life. Not keep working and die young from exhaustion. but to relax in there later life finally enjoying it, watching there children work hard for there new families.
• United States
22 Feb 08
Sounds like this woman's daughter is setting her children up for failure too. They see what their mother is doing and mimic her behavior. Your friend should give them a specific timeline to get back to work. Even a part-time job would help the finances in the household.
• United States
22 Feb 08
Yeah thought the grandson was different until I heard he quit. It makes me think maybe she's complaining but at the same time I think she likes the company. Iforgot to mention in the first discussion which made me talk about this, at work to day I saw her come back in after getting off the clock to go home she asked the boss if he seen her car, Well he said your daughter came in and asked about you and left. Her daughter took her car without asking or telling her, well she made a phone call and I thought that was it, It was time for me to go 2 hours later and she was sitting there in the back waiting for her daughter to pick her up. Well I left thinking you need to kick her @#S!
@Trace86 (5043)
• United States
22 Feb 08
I have a 21 year old high school dropout mooching off of me. He can't get a job and when he does, he can't keep it. He now claims he has panic attacks when he leaves the house. So what does he do all day? Sleep, play on the computer or video games and eats all my food. I would love to pack his crap and put it on the lawn, but his father won't let me. He feels like his poor kid just needs a break. I say he has had a break for over 3 years mooching off of me and it is time to stop. And if he knocks any girls up, his butt is most definitely out of my house.
• United States
22 Feb 08
I feel for you. Sounds more like an excuse, but a job is cool people respect you when they know you work and it brings money to shop and look good, What else could they want? Well I hope he will help around the house thats the least he could do for your supporting him :)
@wisedragon (2331)
• Philippines
22 Feb 08
I think it depends on the attitude of the child. If he/she is very helpful and supportive of the parents then it would be a mutually beneficial arrangement, like if he/she pays some of the bills. But "taking advantage of parents" is a totally different thing like being lazy, deliberately being dependent, not even helping around the house or paying some of the bills.
@ellie333 (21030)
22 Feb 08
I never had any help from my parents, financially or otherwise, in fact the first time my mum actually helped was four years ago and I was very ill after having my youngest son and couldn't do anything and she flew over to UK and looked after me. I told her how much I appreciated it and it bought us a lot closer, but there are so many out there that have no independence at all even at an older age. In fact there is a guy I know who at the age of 46 stills relies on mummy to provide everytime he needs money and mummy does it, usually without his dad knowing too. She is to blame for his dependency though as she has kept him as mummys boy and never allowed him to grow up. I am very lucky with my older children as even though one is at university they both work and at times it is me asking for help from them bless. I feel for the woman in your question though, but she does herself need to be tougher with her daughter. At the age of 55 she should be able to relax a bit and enjoy not struggle to keep an extra 3 mouths. I think there are many families out there like this. Not saying as a parent you shouldn't help your children out now and again, but don't do it for them or let them take the pee. Ellie :D