Are casual conversations important in a relationship.

Guam
February 24, 2008 12:13am CST
I love talking about anything and everything. I used to have this boyfriend whom I can talk to about everything. We'd start off about our day, and later on talk about the things we want to do in the future and the things we've done as a kid, teenager and in our past relationships. But with my current boyfriend, we can't talk about anything, if I talk to him about my friends, he would say "It's not my business/I don't care/ If its not about us, I'm not interested..." So, I find it hard to talk to him. Sometimes I get really bored and feel that I am not growing in this relationship, because I'm not learning anything about my partner, he doesn't want to talk about things in his past and h doesn't want to talk about the future. A person like me needs intellectual simulation through experience and conversation. And I ain't getting any. Is it just me or casual conversations are essential to a relationship...
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
24 Feb 08
Well I think that one way of keeping a healthy relationship between the tow of you, as it also builds a foundation to keep your love for each other grow stronger. That's what I also do to my partner, we start a normal conversation from out of nothing then we'd get to know more as the conversation goes longer. This is where you'd also get to know and understand more about your partner, you get to share and allow them to know the real you..
• Guam
24 Feb 08
that's what I want to have. But then I committed to a non talker. I'm having problems with that, cause I feel stagnated at one part of my life, as if I am not improving with him, rather I'm regressing, I feel that its so unhealthy...
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@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
24 Feb 08
I guess it's your partner's problem, just hope that he soon realizes what he's missing. And as for you, just give him some time and never lose hope..
@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
24 Feb 08
I think conversation or communication is important in any relationship. This is one way of learning and knowing about the person especially if he is your boyfriend or partner. A person who is not so open to a conversation might have some problems or might be hiding some mystery.
• Guam
24 Feb 08
maybe that's why I can;t let go of him, he is so mysterious... he's like a puzzle just waiting to be solved
@bishu_sinha (1459)
• India
24 Feb 08
Nice discussion. Nice experience. It should not be so, but usally a casual conversation can destroy a serious relation. So, we should carefull in share our conversation.
• Guam
24 Feb 08
But sometimes you like sharing with your significant other right, lie about family and childhood experiences, my partner has no interest at all...
@scrawl (374)
• India
6 Apr 08
There are two types of relationships...one where just about everything is role-play, dramas and growth in line with stimulation.. The other where you exercise total control over your partner as he or she is not interested in mind games, as it is a total emotional relationship... Personally, i would opt for the second one and play the submissive role... However, there are problems when you do decide to play a bit of mindgames during parties and your partner is at sea... so be careful...