Liking someone else?

United States
February 26, 2008 2:06pm CST
Do you think its okay to like another guy/girl outside your current relationship? What if you partner wasn't being a good boyfriend/girlfriend? What if they were convinced they were 100% in love with you but you didnt feel the same way back? I'd like to know your opinions on this matter. Personally I think its okay as long as you don't cheat on them with him/her.
6 responses
• United States
26 Feb 08
This is very interesting. I'm going through the same things. Mylittle girls dad is in jail but I love him but I dont know if I am in love with him anymore. since he's been gone the last person I dated , I always had strong feelings for him and he left for the army... So now I'm confused.. Is this right probally not, but at the same time you cant control how you feel about someone *sigh*
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@terri0824 (4975)
• United States
27 Feb 08
Just take it slow and easy and don't rush into anything. Be cautious! Just be sure your not trading one bad apple in for another one!
@slavezero (835)
• Philippines
29 Feb 08
For sure there would be someone better than your girl if you will look around you. There would be someone prettier, sweeter, smarter etc. And you are only human not to notice it. Are you a saint? But that is not the question here... the question is that will you use that as an excuse to tolerate your feelings for the other? Its ok to admire other as long as you know the limits and you wont make your girl insecure. Focus on your relationship and make the most out of it.
@eleache (83)
• United States
27 Feb 08
I am not sure what to say about that.... That happened to me with my current "boyfriend" "fiance" or what ever you want to call him, I don't even know any more. Any way... last year, he told me that he was still in love with his ex, "and old love" and left me to see her, but wanted to see me at the same time. The reason for that is because I told him I was pregnant with the beautiful little boy we have now. Since he didn't want to be with me, and preferred be with her, I didn't want him around me while I was pregnant he hurt me and it was too much emotional stress for me, cuz I was in love with him. Then he felt threatend by that thinking that I wouldnt let him see his baby when he was born, and dumped her and got back with me. It made me happy at the time, but in hind site I should have said no to him. I am afraid now he is still talking to her, and found out he was...and confronted him about it and threw the engagement ring at him, and havent worn it since. I am pregnant again, and we are not going to be living with each other when our lease is up here at the end of the month.... So I dont think it is ok even if you dont cheat... It severely screws up the relationship, your attitude will change if you think you are interested in someone else when you are in a relationship and it will show, and the other person WILL find out one way or the other....trust me..
@soulist (2987)
• United States
27 Feb 08
everyone is going to be attracted to other people other than the one you are with. What matters is that you are completely committed to the one you are with and love them and don't cheat on them in any way. I have his standards on what I consider cheating also.
• United States
26 Feb 08
Like someone? We are all human. We like people. If you mean have romantic fantasies about someone, that's a different story. If your partner isn't 'good' to you, then leave them. After you've left, you can start looking for a better deal. If you are 'out looking' and still 'in a relationship' then it is you that isn't being a good boyfriend/girlfriend. What if they were in love with you and you didn't love them back? Well, if your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you and you can't love them back, you have to be honest with them and leave. Shopping around while stringing someone along is just cruel. I think that relationships should be done honestly. If someone's attractive and you notice, that's one thing. But if you start trying to get closer to this person, I don't think physical infidelity is the only way to hurt your current boyfriend or girlfriend. Emotional infidelity can hurt, too.
• Philippines
26 Feb 08
It's very interesting feeling. I don't know. But i've been in that situation BEFORE. I can't feel the love that he is talking about anymore. Maybe because i kept on hearing that words everyday and everyday and everyday. I got used to it. Until one day, he broke up with me just because he had found somebody else and he told me that he don't love me anymore. Wee! Lolz.