what can i do with my 4 month old boy ...........

February 28, 2008 10:18am CST
4 years ago I had my first child who was a little girl, when she was a baby she was so easy to do things with she used to love going swimming with me or even going to baby groups to see some other kids. I now have a 4 month old baby boy who is so different from my little girl I dont know what to do with him. You can see he is eager to do things but nothing I seem to do with him works, I take him swimming and he crys, he hates being around lots of other people and does not like sitting with me playing with toys. Does anyone out there have any idea of what I can do to keep him busy all day as I love my kids and keeping them busy and active is important to me?
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6 responses
• United States
1 Mar 08
Every child is different, just as we like some quiet time so do children. The earlier babies learn to entertain themselves the better, because though we want to we can't always just throw everything down when they want us to. I would put him on his belly, make things available for him, in his reach, and let him have some "me time". Sometimes we mothers think we are more important, than we really are! Just kidding.
@kiasexy (18)
• United States
28 Feb 08
ok i dont have kid but ive raised a lot of kids get he into sports or video games if he do wanna be around people its cool its a phase he is going through you can also get a lot of book and read to hem bu i really prefer some type of sport or karate they take them at that age he will open up moer to people as time go by good luck
@eden32 (3978)
• United States
28 Feb 08
Some babies get overwhelmed easily. My daughter was like that, too many people, too much noise or even too many colors on her infant toys & she would just get so upset. My daughter loved being read stories, loved visiting the library, walks through parks on weekdays when there were less people there. There are lots of quiet activities you can do with your son. And chances are this will change as he gets older. My once quiet & shy daughter is now 14, and she is very out-going.
@Sillychick (3283)
• United States
28 Feb 08
All babies are different, and it sounds like your son just has a different disposition than your daughter did. Some babies get overstimulated very easily, so maybe some quiet time is what he needs. I understand that you want to keep your son happy, but some time for him to be by himself is good for him. Maybe get a baby gym and put him on the floor with some toys suspended over him, and let him play by himself for a little while. Tummy time is great for him too, so put him on his tummy on a blanket on the floor with some toys in his reach. Also, you could lay on your back and put him on his tummy on top of you for some tummy and face time at the same time. Just a few minutes at a time is good. Put him on the floor with some pillows around him and let him practice sitting up. He will probably lean forward on his hands at first. Put some toys where he can reach them. If you notice him getting upset at any time, just remove some of the stimulation by dimming the lights, make the room quieter, or take away some of the toys. Let him be by himself for a few minutes- while you are in the room, but not interacting with him.
@lala766 (243)
• United States
28 Feb 08
I say keep it simple. Before you know it he will be a rowdy little boy into everything and that is fun and tiring. For now just sit with him and talk, read big books that have lots of colors in them to him, and simple toys in time he will be ready for all the other stuff.
@deebomb (15348)
• United States
28 Feb 08
You sound like a wonderful mom. But maybe you are rushing your son. Boys develop later than girls do. Maybe he just isn't ready for all that interaction with other people yet. Just slow down and let him lead you as to when he is ready for being all that attention.