The Boss From Hell

@dfinster (3535)
United States
February 29, 2008 4:41pm CST
As a lot of you know I went back to school full-time after all these years. We thought we could financially get by until I finished. Christmas was very tight but with the help of some friends here at Mylot it made for a nice Christmas. Anyhow, back to what I came here to talk about. Money has been so tight the last 2 months that we were worried about not making our house payment. So, I took a job waitressing. I love doing that and usually make good money at it. But last night was so bad with the owner of the restraunt I had to walk out and quit. I had only been there for like a week and knew the owner was not very nice to the employees. I thought I would be alright as long as I did my job and steered clear of him. That didn't work. Last night he just went crazy on a highschool girl who waitressed there because she layed down the check on the table before all the dishes were picked up. I felt really bad for her. He called her all sorts of names during the time he was screaming at her. Like an hour later it was my turn. I was one dish short for my table and the chef told me to take what I had to the table and come back to grab the last one. The owner then lost it because all the food wasn't served at the same time. He started yelling and asking me if I was stupid and incompetent. This went on for almost 10 minutes. Now I'm not one to quit anything ands like a challenge but his language and abuse got so bad that I walked out and quit. I thought no job is worth me giving up my dignity and self-respect. Has anyone else ever been in this situation? What did you do? Would you let someone treat you that way?
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13 responses
• Singapore
1 Mar 08
Hi dfinster, Sorry to hear about this awful experience you have just had. If I were in your situation, I would have quit too. I don't think I would have lasted half as long as you. I think it is wrong for that boss to be so rude to his employees. We are all fellow human beings here and we should treat one another with respect. Whether one is paying another or whether one is another's superior or not is a moot point. In fact, if someone is a boss, he should behave like one. You have to respect others before others can respect you. The bad thing though is that you probably need to find another source of income. I wish you good luck.
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@dfinster (3535)
• United States
1 Mar 08
I'll be pounding the pavement every day until I find something to help out while I'm in school.~D
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
29 Feb 08
Oh there is nothing worse than working for a boss who is a rude pig, I was lucky in my work as I worked in a big telephone company with a strong union and because I was a long time employee I had been there longer than most of the bosses and when they started hiring casuals who they could stomp all over , they used to come to me when these pigs would treat them bad and I would bring the union in, I was always in the office fighting with the nmanagers usually on behalf of other people...I hate to see this sort of thing happening, we all deserve to be happy in our work as we all have to spend so much time at the job and these people in charge can't seem to get it that a happy employee works better anyway.
@dfinster (3535)
• United States
1 Mar 08
You're right about happy employees being more productive. I guess some people are just so busy being complete a**es that they don't even think about that.
@callarse1 (4793)
• United States
2 Mar 08
Hm, that's terrible and I definitely would have quit as well. No one is going to yell at me, and in fact I was going to quit over something much less severe: basically I was giving a warning for something they never told me about, and they never told me how to correct the situation. After some reflection I was fine with it, but I think my boss was just having a bad day. Sounds like that boss was having an attitude. Pablo
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@susu22 (25)
• United States
1 Mar 08
you have a right tobe trated with respect from your emplyer.sign up for unemployment.if you have earned enough credits.tell the unemployment office how you were treated and open up a claim.apply at temporagy services.you did the right thing ,and you will find another job.no one needs to be verbally abused on their job.your boss is under a lot of stress and is taking it out on his employees.if you had told him you were going to quit if he does not stop treatd you with disrept,maybe he would have shut his mouth,but not very likely.you will find a job where you are treated with respect.hang in there.i found a job as home health companion and the peole were so good to me.the work is vey rewarding and the pay is not bad.the work is not as tiring.hope this helps.susu22
@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
1 Mar 08
There was a time when I would have tolerated that kind of treatment. But no longer. I'm sure there are other places that want a good waitress. You don't need to put up with abuse like that. I'm glad you walked out. I'm sorry you had to quit but I hope you will look hard and find another job.
• United States
1 Mar 08
It happened to me twice. Oct 2007,my ex officemate hired me with another old lady (65 I guess) doing the same job. After 3 days she told me not to hum and not to talk to myself because it annoys her. The rest of the girls (5 of us) talk all the time so I wondered why she imposed that on me and not to them. Maybe becoz I am new. The next time she called my attention (take note, I did not hum or talk to myself)..I talked back and told her that I will never let anyone like her treat me like that, I'd rather lose my job than being in her control.I was fuming mad and demanded for a company policy that says so. In 3 weeks, I lost my job for no reason. She is white, my ex officemate is white, the owner is white and I am brown. I noticed she befriended him bcoz 1 morning when I passed by them talking and I greeted, as if I was invisible. I wanted to file a suit for termination without just cause.. I guess she wanted the job so much...Poor she...I was happy I got out because I can't stand looking at her everyday..At least before I left, I was able to tell her that she has no right to make me unhappy...
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@winterose (39918)
• Canada
1 Mar 08
i would report him to the proper government authorities, I would never take it, and I would probably quit too.
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@Hatley (164506)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Feb 08
Oh my it does sound like the boss from hell. what an insensitibe jerk. I was in a situation a bit like yours .I worked as a page in our local library.we all got along like one big family but we got a new second in command. She had a lot of really odd ways and was overly friendly which sounded a tad insincere. but weall tried to be really nice to her. okay. She was very slim. which I do not knock. but her lunch always was an apple and almost all of a jar of peanut butter and that was all. she looked at me and frowned. I was,because I am a diabetic. very into good nutrition and had some veggies,a piece of fruit and half of a roast beef sandwich.She said are you going to eat all that?" It was not the words that irked me but the tone of her voice which implied I was a fat.old pig. I said' I have to be really up on nutrition as I have diabetes. Then I said. which I should not have. arent you missing on nutrition with only an apple and all that fatty peanut butter? she did not answer. but from then on everyday she added more things to my worklist until I had to complain that I really could not get all that done in four hours. she did not give me an answser. the next day I had to ask my supervisor. first in command . for a two week leave of absence due to having some surgery done. She told me it was the hardest thing she had ever had to do,but she had to let me go as the work was too much for me. after all you are almost eighty. then she went on to say you are my best worker so I am so sorry to do this blah blah blah.I had a hunch that she did not want to do this for herself but the skinny second in command told her either fire Mrs Hatley or I quit. My hunch was confirmed later that day when i overheard Emily. the first in command.,telling the skinny second in command I think I just made the biggest mistake of my life. so and so, I should never have listened to you. she is my best page. I left before they could realize I had overheard. I had a big going away party from the staff the next day and was sick inside as the rest of the staff had been told I was retiring not that I had been fired. I wanted to blurt out the truth but kept my mouth shut.To this day I do not remember the name of the second in command. only that I can see her clear as day as she frowned at me every time she saw me.I think she resented the fact that I was nearly eighty and a diabetic and overweight. she just plain did not like me and Emily let her push her around. The ironic part of all was that neither of them lasted more than another month and both quit. By that time even if I had wanted to try and get my job back I would not have been able to do the work as I had a bad fall that resulted in a badly broken shoulder. surgery. bionic parts and sadly most of the loss of motion in my left arm. Now I have bitter sweet feelings towards the library.
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@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Wow! I don't think I've ever experienced anything quite like that, and hope I never have to. Was this a restaurant chain or a private company? If the former, I'd definitely be making a major complaint to corporate or franchise headquarters or someone. Totally unacceptable. Everyone can have a bad day and go off a bit, but if that's the way he always is, and doesn't try to make things right, something needs to be done. I hope you find something else not so troublesome.
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hi.dfinster. If it was me, I would have walked out in a heartbeat! I once worked for a plant company. My boss was very mean to me. He had no respect for me at all. He was nasty and he did not know how to talk to me. I got so tired of him treating me like crap, until I walked out on my job. My unit manager said that she would move me to another department, but I refused. I was just done with my supervisor's attitude. He was very mean and hateful to me. I have never had a supervisor that mean. I had another one, but she was not that nice to me either. I would not let anyone treat me nasty. Money or no money!
@oldboy46 (2132)
• Australia
8 Nov 08
Unfortunately for most of us at some time of other we all get "the boss from hell" and just hope that we can cope with it until we can find something better. At the same time none of us should have to put up with abuse of any kind from someone just because they are paying our wages. Any person who feels they have to verbally abuse someone has big problems and generally is very insecure. To abuse someone in front of other employees, or any other person for that matter, has major self-esteem issues. It is a shame that you could not stay there but at the same time it is understandable that you are not willing to accept verbal abuse from some intellectual pigmy. Although this topic is very old now, hopefully you managed to find a decent job with an employer or boss who respects the employees.
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
13 May 08
Yes I definitely have had to deal with people like this in the past; and no, I most definitely will not allow people to treat me in this manner! You definitely did the right thing in quitting as no-one should ever have to put up with abuse like this. I certainly don't see a situation like this as you turning your back on a challenge! You hit the nail on the head by maintaining your dignity and respect. Some people should not be allowed to be in charge of others and this idiot sounds like one of those people! What kind of business can he possibly expect to grow if he treats people this way? Maybe someone should slip some Prozac into his drink? lol. Life is too short to have to deal with people like this. I hope you find a great job in another restaurant. That is your best revenge!
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
13 May 08
I knew it, there were just rich people who does not have self respect and so they want others to loose their own too. they are afraid that people working on them or lower than their financial living have greater ability or great vision in life than them. And you are right, they are the boss who break loose from hell. Cheer up good friend , you can find great job ahead that will respect you as a person and will never loose your dignity as well. Goodluck and God will Bless you!!!