It's not over til it's over!!!

no i have never been in such position but if i will ever in such condition i will try to talk with her and solve the problem as soon as possible before it become worst.

I usually just let it go until the next round. My husband is the world's worst at that. he says his peace and then everything should be fine from then on out. Drives me crazy at times, but i've just learned to deal with it until the next arguement. then i say my peace and it's done. LOL! God bless

lol..we have it all the time. My husband thinks if he shoves it under the carpet, it's solved. But I know it isn't...because it crops up again at the next argument. Funny thing is that he doesn't even realize we are fighting about the same thing AGAIN! I'm still working at working at it...so I can't help you with this one. But I'll watch other responses for some tips.

First of all we have had many small skirmishes in our nearly 11yrs of married life but we have never let it linger. We both are blessed in the fact that for one, my hubby acts as if nothing has happened and I cant hold on to my anger. Mostly he keeps quiet and I go on raving and ranting like a mad bull and then when I am over with all my energy spent, he will go about with his normal work which of course infuriates me all the more and I start all over again maybe an hour later. But by then, even I have started ‘seeing’ a liiiiiiiiitle of my own follies so the my tone is a bit softer and then he starts talking and we really don’t know when we are laughing together again.

I think we have both done that on occassion, but we usually dont revisit a fight once we're done. And we dont usually fight too often either, or for long if we do, Our daughter is always around and we dont want to fight in front of her. . Not good for her or us. So a lot of the times nothing gets resolved, but at least we know what is bothering one an other. and maybe we keep that in the back of our minds for next time.

In a word yes! Last year I went on holiday with my girlfriend and a male friend of ours to spain, first mistake 2's company and all that, my g'f and i have a passionate relationship and have fiesty discussions from time to time lol but are always resolved and forgotten, but then when someone else gets involved we got a whole different ball game! On the 2nd day they wanted to sit by the pool, which is fine and i wanted to go to the local bar where we are friendly with the owners (we go there often) anyway, i had a few drinks like you do on holiday and went back to the appartment and got it in both ears from my g/f, problem she has is its ok for everyone to have a drink as long as she is mmm... and then our friend starts at me lol, eventually i get if you havent left by midday tomorrow were going so its upto you!So what did i do, it was my holiday aswell after all? I called there bluff and left, went to say my goodbyes to our friends and got a taxi to the airport. So i get to the airport and go to buy a ticket and the guy asked where i want to go, well london is where i live i said but.....a one way ticket to Paris please so thats where i spent the rest of my holiday. I admit i was mad as hell but staying wouldve just been a disaster and atleast this way everyone had a good time, well i did, they spent 3 days trenching the streets looking for me, before i phoned her to say that "Elvis might have left the building, but i have left the country" lol

talk to your partner first. Ask what is it the he/she is trying to point out and making your relationship going cold or whatever. If your partner doesn't cooperate, let him/her go. That's it. Don't understand things in a relationship if you don't know what is there really to understand in the first place. people like that and the relationship they're in won't grow.

In some relationships I had yes, not at present though. You have to sit him down and say we have to talk and be persistent about it. If not it will eat you up and ruin your relationship. You have to tell him the truth about how you feel about the situation and try to find ways between you to resolve it.

I do not have any relationship. Nor I was into one either. still I think if that fight bugs me, i have to talk regarding it to my significant others. Actually some people are so taht they act that nothing has happened when they know they are the main culprit. so it can't be looked over.

when I had the signifcate other I would always try just to walk away from the arguing but he had always followed had kept it up so I learn just to keep my mouth shut and let him rant and rave ovcer the least little things

Oh my gosh, my husband and I have one that's been ongoing for quite a while and when I bring it up he gets really bucky about it. I tell him that I won't bring it up anymore if we can just discuss it honestly and then come to a compromise.

LOL Been there so many times! I tend to try and get him to talk it through but if he won't I bite my tongue til I can't bite it anymore and then I write it all down and leave the letter for him to find - including how bad it makes me feel, he reads it absorbs it and then comes and talks to me and we sort it out! I know it seems like a long way around but at least I can let him know exactly how I feel without either of us losing it or screaming at each other and in the end it works! xxx

Not really I think we both work diligently to understand and then let go what the other is having difficulty, realizing it is not ours to own. What you are saying, to me, is you gave in without allowing or sharing your viewpoint to the extent that your significant other never really understood what your difficulty was about. We all bring so much history and baggage to our relationships - the key is each of us learning to let go of those things from the past that were detrimental to our health and well being and focusing on the way we really want our lives to be evolving. This pertains to relationships as well. Many of us had difficult relationships with parents or other family members. Understanding how those relationships effect us and then letting that stuff go and really focusing on how you want your present relationship to be will free you from your past and make your present and future a much more enjoyable place to be for all concerned.

yes i've been in this position n in my opinion it is always in best intrest for both persons involved to sit n talk about it. i know it's a little hard to sometimes bring up the same topic that you dont feel good about n you fear that it might make the situation worse, in that case you gather a little courage, talk about it n make yourself clear n in doing so you must listen to the other person n try to understand. in my case i wont be at ease until i've resolved it.

Well, I like to have both of us calmed down before we start it back up so we can talk rationally about it or try to. I bring it back up slowly and I let him know that we need to talk..sometimes this works and sometimes not. But I think it is always good to have it resolved before bed time. I let him know I am not going to shut up till he talks to me about the problem that he can't bury the problem cause nothing gets solved then and he needds to stop putting his head in the sand everytime I try to talk to him about a problem and face up to it. It is best to get them out in the open and not let them fester, once festered..bad tings can only come of it..like someone moving out. or something similar.

im being in this situation a lot of times, if it is something im really upset about it or something i would make him understand how important is for me to discuss and solve the problem because you cant just forget about something and keep as nothing happened; thats when real problems come because you still feeling bad for what happened and you never resolved so u keep bringing the topic up to any other discussion.. problems need to be solved right away..

I think we all do this sometimes, just brush it under the rug like it never happened, but yet it always comes out because the other person cant let go of the issue. The only true way to get past it is communication. It has to be talked about!

You have to speak up! Communication is an extremely important part of any relationship and you don't need me to tell you that. Your partner is going to pretend that everything is okay for now but trust me sooner or later it is going to blow up and be a bigger issue than it ever was. So just sit him down and say "I need you to listen to me" I know its easier said than done. I communicate better through writing because I hate face to face confrontations.So I usually write down my feelings in a letter and give it to my boyfriend. Maybe your partner feels the same way. WHatever it is, you need to act now!