disagreement?arguements?!!!!
By BYOLA2871
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
March 2, 2008 3:58pm CST
i have often wondered how it happens that people who are normally friends will have a little disagreement or an arguement and they will suddenly become bitter enemies in the process even minor disagreements have been know to result in some kind of war that has claimed many lives.i heard of two friends who went to a bar to have a couple of beer they were joined by some other guys.midway into the merriment an arguement broke out regarding who was the bestdresser amongst them it resulted in alot of hot arguement and ventually one guy was dead at the end of the day.how do you cope with disagreements or arguement?
4 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
3 Mar 08
That is awful. It is so unreal these days. you cannot even look at someone wrong or they will kill you for it. I try to avoid arguements at all costs. If someone starts something with me, I just stay away from them. I don't have time to sit and argue with them becuase most of the time they will always claim they are right and it will never end and I don't have time for it.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
3 Mar 08
its great wisdom to avoid arguements at al;l cost,i personally dont believe i need ti prove to anybody that i know or dont know i will never be good friends with people who argue too much cos in the course of the arguement abusive words will come out and it will definitely have a negative effect on both person"s emotions
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I agree with you on this. I won't argue with people either. I do not have friends outside of my marriage because of this. they say rude mean things to me and that doesn't help my self-esteem at all. I would rather just stay away from them to avoid it.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
3 Mar 08
yes i agree with you but is there really a need for you to prove anything to your friends ?i thought the basis of riendship is simply friendship and connection between both parties?
@klaudyou (501)
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2 Mar 08
Disagreements happen.
Only they are touching self-esteem, when the matter should stay at the level of ideas.
For me this is the big mistake: when people refer more to the one in front than to the idea they are arguing on. Once you discussed an idea, you take conclusion, see what was wrong, establish the right and move on, but usually, when fights are triggered, one feels his self-esteem hurt, and attacks back, with no real arguments.
In case of real wars...the thing is more complicated...it's about country interests...
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
2 Mar 08
you see i think most of the things people argue over is just something trivial but because or eventually
@nomsyd (69)
• Nigeria
3 Mar 08
i think self discipline is very important, you control your temper and not the other way round. if you have a friend you should know their weak points and their strenghts, i have always told myself i wont be the one to start an argument with my friends in other otherwords i always look for peace. i always tell myself he/she is human and is bound to misbehave but when everyone claims to be wise it always result in disaster so why not play the fool and let peace reign, if not for anything for the sake o the good old days.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
3 Mar 08
its sometimes the best to be a full so that tomorrow you acn end up become the wise most of the time i have heard that never argue with a man with a hot temper why?because anything can happen,even the bible says"anger resides in the bossom of a fool"it is wise to just listen and not get involved in arguements
