What do you think it must be like to live with people who hate you?

@vivasuzi (4127)
United States
March 2, 2008 10:06pm CST
So it's obvious Josh HATES Allison and tells her at every turn on the show, but then in the food contest everyone seems happy and having fun. So you wonder, let's say you do HATE someone in the house, you can't possibly be mad 24/7 because that would be no fun. Do you think sometimes the people who HATE each other get over it a little bit without the show really showing you that part? Or do you think they still HATE each other and just know how to hold back during contests and other important moments? How would you survive in the house if you knew someone hated you or if you hated someone else? I would just stay away from that person. I wouldn't be vocal about it and I would just do what I can to make sure the others like me. Being vocal about it has a tendancy to make more people hate you and blame you for all the trouble, whereas being quiet makes it a little easier to get people on your side.
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@raychill (6525)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I think living with someone who hates you is about the same as being in class with someone who hates you or working with someone that hates you. I think Josh, for one, definitely has an anger problem. He's the disgusting kind of angry person too. The kind that curses and insults you on a personal level and gets up in your face. I can't stand that kind of person. The kind of angry person I am...is to avoid saying incredibly rude things that I actually mean, I will just ignore someone I don't like. Eh. I work with My ex boyfriend who cheated on me. I think he hates me more than I hate him though Ironically. It's not fun. Especially because he's obnoxious and loud and annoying. But if you just keep your distance it's okay. Mind you. my ex's desk is one cubicle away from mine. we're in the same office area. he's only about 3 feet from me. and he loves my bosses so he's always at their desks, which are right in front of mine, being all obnoxious. You just deal.
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@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Yeah I can't stand that kind of person either. However ED did stuff like that and a lot of people loved him. So maybe Josh thinks he will be loved by being vulgar. Who knows!! Wow that would stink to work with an ex. No wonder a lot of companies have policies against dating. My company allows dating and I actually know a few ppl there who are married yet proffesionally you would never realize they were married other than their last name b/c they don't hang out together constantly or anything like that. Come to think of it, my friend works with someone she despises! For months, maybe even years, she told me so many stories of how awful he was and how little he did. Eventually the company had to schedule them so they never work together b/c they knew my friend was a good worker and they (for whatever reason) were unwilling to fire the idiot guy who did nothing. She just stays clear of him and when they HAVE to see each other to switch shifts, it's pure business, no chatting.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Yeah you are right, ED wasn't mad, he was just a jerk :-D Josh is actually really mad. I don't know why he'd avenge amanda unless he suddenly feels bad for her or something. Oh geez, your ex sounds like a winner. Hopefully that person isn't around you anymore at least. Good luck on finding another job!! You should make him quit since he's the cheater!!
@raychill (6525)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Well I liked ED. But that's because ED used it as a strategy and not just because he was mad. Not that I approve of that as strategy, but obviously it worked. Josh, on the other hand, is just angry and saying that stuff becuase he's angry. he told amanda she looked like a horse and that horrible comment about her dad. Now he's all avenging her leaving. Obviously he was just mad at her and cruelty is his anger. Where I work tons of people date each other and tons of people are married or related to others. So it's not uncommon. I should have also pointed out that who my ex cheated on me with was someone else who worked in the building. Nice. We pretty much steer clear and I've been working for months on getting a new job. it's just tough. but yeah I mean you learn to be civil and you learn to deal and you know eventually one day you won't have to anymore.
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@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
3 Mar 08
I actually think that a little bit of acting is involved during the competitions. I know that BB does a run through with the hg's before the competitions. The hosts do read throughs to get it right. And, I think they are given little instructions and told to look enthusiastic. I remember reading a little bit about it on Morty's TV a couple seasons ago. But, you are right. Josh is very vocal about his hatred for Allison. But, she is really a twit. That girl lies about everything and she tries to start little fires between everyone. So, I can't say I blame him. But, I am a non-confrontational kind of girl and try to avoid them. However, if someone starts something with me, I will defend myself verbally. I had a co-worker that would just piss me off every day and then he would say crap to get my goat. We had a few arguments. He just thought he was God's gift to everything and everyone and he thought that I was a lesser being both because I am a woman and he holds old fashioned antiquated ideas about how to be a woman and our roles in society. And, he also thought I was a lesser being because I am "just the assistant" as he put it and he was a sales rep. Anyway, I would have a really hard time living with someone I hate but, I would do my best to cope and keep it to myself. I would have to know for sure that I could trust someone to let any of that out. And, I wouldn't start fights with that person at every turn because, you are right...it build animosity towards the fight starter in the house. I would just try to let that person sink their own ship. And, without Josh starting stuff with her, she is doing a good enough job putting herself under. But, he is building hard feelings against himself. He should shut up and get off his high horse before he gets himself evicted. I liked him at first but, he is becoming one of those people that I waver on as far as what I think of him.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
4 Mar 08
I always wondered how the hosts say everything so perfect! But I don't know how they could run through the competition without it making it easier for them to do the competition. However, sometimes it does seem like the contestants know exactly what they have to do before it is even explained. CBS probably wants it to look like they are having fun so that people watching think "hey, that asparagus weighing contest was so fun!"... btw, I wouldn't have thought that was fun if I had to do it :) She's vocal too though, how she started arguments in front of everyone trying to get him to say what she did wrong. So it works both ways, both were loud and obnoxious about it. For me, I would only let it out with my partner b/c I would know my partner has no reason to spill it. If she would have just kept her mouth shut, ppl may have started to think Josh was going overboard. But instead she gave them reason to hate her more.
@cortjo73 (6498)
• United States
4 Mar 08
That is true! She did bait him.
• United States
12 Mar 08
I think that the way some of these people survive is to be in complete denial. If you don't think about it, and just keep complaining, then maybe you don't even know when the rest of the house doesn't like you. It's tough to understand how Allison thought that so many people in the house liked her, and after the tricks that she tried to pull, it really surprised me that she still felt that way all the way up to the 6-0 vote-out. Either way, it must be really tough to be in the position if you are really aware of how the other people feel. Would be very hard for me to do it!
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I don't know why Allison thought they liked her. The only thing that it may have been is that the people like Ryan so they dealt with her. And maybe by putting up with her at all, it made her think they liked her, but really... they only liked Ryan. I guess going into denial is the way to go though b/c otherwise you would probably be depressed and mad around every turn! ok, I'm sure ppl talked to allison friendly at times, and so she just said "they like me". But really those people were probably just bored and trapped in a room with her so they talked to her.
@mom4kids (657)
• Canada
3 Mar 08
I think they just put aside their hatred for eachother while they have to work together for a competion. It would be very hard to live in a house where someone hated you for sure. I agree with you, stay away from the person, try to be nice to others.
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@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
4 Mar 08
Yeah they must know that if they fight and lose the food because of it that the rest of the house will hate them both. So it must just be an understanding that during competitions, we mean business.