Will you be lucky not to be sent on a home when you're old?

United States
March 6, 2008 8:19pm CST
One of the biggest question that always crossed my mind is where Im gonna be when I grow old. I was born and raised in the Philippines with the value that my parents means everything and they really do. I've been here on U.S for like 10 months and I've noticed a lot of difference when it comes to living and treating their parents and being sent to a home plays a big part of how most people do to their parents when they get old. Are you one of those who would just send their parents on a home? or the one who would take care of them till their last minute on Earth?
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@djmarion (4901)
• Philippines
7 Mar 08
i will never want to send my parents to any home for the aged when they reach the very old age. i grew up in a conservative family and my parents took care of me since birth, they showed us the value of love and and respect and so i intend to give back that care for them, i will take care of them when they grow very old until their last breath. they are my family and i should be the one to take care of them not other people who will not care enough to show compassion.
@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
7 Mar 08
When I was a kid my Parents took care of their Parents and raised us kids at the same time. We had no electricity and used oil lamps at night, we had no running water, everything was done by hand. Life for my Parents was Hell on Earth during that time. When my Mom was 90, she arranged to have a room for 2 at the local Nursing Home. She didn't ask anyone to look after her. She went into the home first and shortly after, my Dad followed her. They liked it right away. The meals were good and my Mom didn't have to prepare them. The company was good. Many of my Parents Friends and Neighbors were in the same home. They played cards, and had singsongs together. Life in the Nursing Home was fun, and my parents lived there for 5 years before they packed it in. I have nothing but good things to say for our local Nursing Home, and I hope to live there some day! I would Never Dream of Asking my Kids to Look After Me in my Old-age! Indeed I would Not Allow It!
• United States
7 Mar 08
There is only my Mom alive now and I would take care of her before I would put her in a home if I am able to take care of her. She has gone through a lot medically but she is still able to take care of her. Now let me explain what I mean by if I am able to. Sometimes a person can't take care of their parent and has to put them someplace where they can be well taken care of. But if I had to do that I would make sure the place takes good care of the people there and has activities going on to keep Mom busy. Then I would make it a point to come and see her often. I don't think there is anything wrong with nursing homes but all too often the parents are put in there and then it seems they are forgotten. That is the reason I don't like nursing homes. But if I had to do that I would be visiting my Mom and taking her out on a regular basis.