Would you be happy enough if your friends congratulated you via text message?

@kiran1978 (4137)
Australia
March 11, 2008 6:40pm CST
I think it is pretty sad these days how mobiles have effected the way we communicate with each other. For example when I gave birth last week, alot of my friends sent me a text message to congratulate me. I would rather talk to them and tell them all about the news of baby via the telephone then through a text message. I am just glad that a couple of my close friends still made the effort to call and congratulate me or even better see me in person, it means so much more. How about you, has this happened to you. Where people have texted you on special occassions, such as birthdays, birth of baby, anniversary etc? Does it bother you, or are you happy with just a text?
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@fec139 (803)
• United States
13 Mar 08
these days, u have to be happy they congratulated you at all! Common courtesy seems to have flown out the window these days. I recently paid a condolence call on a woman who lost her husband. I was horrified by how many mutual friends, most of whom lived closer to her, said to me "oh, it's good you got over there. I never made it there. I was too busy".WHAT??? they couldn't walk over after work, and spend 30 minutes? I don't know what is happening with people!!!
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@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
14 Mar 08
Yes I agree that is shocking how people could not go over there to show their condolences. THe poor woman at a time like that you definately need contact with people to help you get through such a tragic time. I am glad you had the respect to see her personally. It is sad how people are losing touch with each other. Thanks for sharing your story.
@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
13 Mar 08
I can understand your situation how you would have felt. Sending a message is no substiute for talking to each other. I also send lots and lots of SMS to my near and dear ones on their birthdays, anniveraries etc., but I follow it by calling them. I make it a point to call them, after sending SMSs. Birth of a baby is a great occasion, I believe and one should call to congratulate you. Heartiest Congratulation from me and all of my friend here on mylot....I cannot convey my blessings to you through a call because I do not have your tele number....LOL! Hope you won't mind. Best wishes!
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Hey, good to hear you follow up texts with a phone call. That shows you really care. Thanks for your congratulations. I think we all understand here on mylot why you don't call lol. On this occassion texting is good!!
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@dpk262006 (56104)
• Delhi, India
14 Mar 08
Thanks for your comments! I can send you a text message, once I add you in my friends' list....am sending you the request. Pl. accept.
@katisaurus (1038)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
Well, first off. Congratulations on the new baby. If I knew you'd personally I would call or visit:P I try to atleast call people on special occassions. My Birthday was on Saturday and all my friends decided to text me, or leave me a message on MSN Or Facebook. Which was nice to atleast hear from them. But I'm usually busy all day of my birthday (I was this year, for sure!) So to atleast get a message from them since if they called I wouldn't be home or wouldn't answer my cell. Atleast I'm getting the message. But I think for bigger things like an anniversary or birth of a child, I would appreciate more if they were to visit me, or call atleast.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Hi Kat, great to know if we were friends you would call or visit me, lol. It's a shame you don't live near by, lol. Happy Birthday for last Saturday, how old are you now? I have my 30th this year, think I'll let this year slide, lol. Glad you got lots of birthday messages, i guess that was good since you would not have had time for their call as you were busy. I agree with birth of child, I think that is pretty big thing in your life and the least someone can do is pick up phone. Thanks for your repsonse, great minds think alike. :))
• Canada
12 Mar 08
I just turned 18. Kinda sucky. I'm all... old and legal now. Can't really depend on mommy too much more since she doesn't collect child support or baby bonus. And yes, great minds DO think alike. [:
@littleowl (7157)
12 Mar 08
hi kiran-i do agree with you-the other year my sister sent me a telegram via text to say happy birthday-that really upset me-i know we weren't talking but as it was a special birthday i would of thought she would of made an effort by calling me--it is a shame how mobiles have literally taken over with a text-it can be quite upsetting. technology nowadays is taking over from actually communicating with each other i would rather talk to a friend face to face or over the phone it shows they care--hugs littleowl
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Hi Littleowl, I knew you would understand, we seem to think alike on alot of topics. Sorry to hear about your sister sending you text for your birthday that is pretty sad. Hope your day was still special. I agree technology is taking away from actually communicating with each other. Thanks for your response.
@littleowl (7157)
12 Mar 08
Hi Kiran-my birthday was fine even though my sis' just gave me a text, didn't think about it after, but it is nice just to hear a friend or relative over the phone on special occasions guess its cos it's a little more personal. Hope Shanae is well hugs littleowl
@asgtswife04 (2482)
• United States
12 Mar 08
I totally understand how you feel. I absolutely hate text messaging. it's so impersonal. i don't understand why people would rather sit there and text when it's so much easier to press a button and call. my brother texts me all the time and it drives me insane. i'm always texting him back telling him if he wants to talk to me than he needs to call otherwise stop texting me. LOL! I'm sorry people text you congrats on your baby from your phone instead of calling. by the way, congratulations on your new arrival. that is such an exciting time and i know you were disappointed when all you got was a text. good luck and God bless
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Thanks for your understanding, glad to hear some people still prefer to call friends on such a special event. I was not sure whether my expectations were too high. Texting is definately impersonal. Thanks for sharing your opinion.
• United States
13 Mar 08
your quite welcome and no they weren't to high what so ever. having a baby is a big deal, not just texting someone to tell them something is on sale or something like that. God bless
• India
13 Mar 08
Ya dats the saddest part of life these days..pppl do remain in touch but it isnt dat pleasing than meeting them personally and having blast with them on days such as Birthdays which comes once every year....Yes it has happened with me too...when i happened to score good in my term exams(I actually topped)...but still my closed once happened to just message me...never had a talk with them....Yes it does bothers a lot...u miss those feelings dat u should have got.....
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
14 Mar 08
Hey Big congrats for scoring top marks in your exams, that is such a good feeling. And no a text message congratulating you just doesn't cut it. I too miss those feelings that you get when you talk to people about good news. Thanks for your response.
@Britelite (149)
• Singapore
13 Mar 08
It definitely means a lot more if one makes an effort to visit or at the very least call personally to congratulate if it's a "big" event like birth of a baby. If it's a "smaller" event, text message is ok... Still that personal touch meant a lot more...and by the way,..hey CONGRATULATIONS!!!
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Thanks for your congratulations!!I agree it is alot more personal to call someone or visit. Thanks for sharing your views.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
13 Mar 08
No one has texted me. In Canada, texting costs a lot, but I do not want telephone messages either. Just send me an email, write me a letter, send me a card, and if you telephone, tell me the news and when you will be in town. It really does not bother me how they contact me, as long as they do. I guess it takes a long time texting and it does cost them money, at least where I live.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Hi Suspenseful, did not realise texting can be so expensive in other countries. It cost about 20cents per text her in Australia, so it is a cheap way to communicate. Which is good, if you have friends that live far away from you, cheap to get in contact with. Thanks for your respone.
@secretbear (19466)
• Philippines
13 Mar 08
a lot of my friends greet me during my birthday, or other special occasion mostly through text messages. it doesn't really bother me, in fact, i understand them because we are so busy with our own lives and often, we don't have the time to talk over the phone for a long time. because when we do, we talk for at least half an hour. and then, most of my friends prefer to send text messages because it doesn't just save time, it also saves money. ^__^
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Hi I can understand that friends get busy in their own lives. And texts are great way to catch up on day to day or weekly basis. However I feel for special occassions it would be nice to chat over phone. I am sure friends can spare 10 minutes or even 5 minute call to congratulate you or say happy birthday. But thanks for your views, I guess we are all different.
@dierdre (2213)
• Philippines
12 Mar 08
i dont really mind if someone greets me thru txt instead of greeting me personally, coz the mere thought that they remembered me is good enough for me. well, with the exception of course of your special someone,if he/she has the time, of course, he/she shouldnt just settle for a text message.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Thanks for sharing your opinion.:)
@di1159 (1580)
• United States
12 Mar 08
Hello, I guess I'd be happy with a text since I am not proficient in texting and it takes me so long to write one! I also think that maybe some people might not want to disturb you as with a new baby you probably have some odd sleeping hours. ( I know I did!) I appreciated the calls but I hated the fact that the telephone rang when I was fast asleep! I suppose in this day and age its acceptable to text, at least they were thinking of you! P.S. Congratulations on your new addition!
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Hi, I did think that some people might be worried about sleep patterns with new baby. Yes i guess in this day and age it is acceptable to get texts, I just think it is sad as I think it effects how close you can become with a friend. How can you clearly express your emotions via text. Thanks for sharing your opinions and thank you also for your congratulations.
@wickedangel (1637)
• Dominican Republic
12 Mar 08
People use this form of communication as a feeble excuse of actually talking to you. In this day and age of communication, that is precisely what people are NOT doing... communicating. They are using other forums to let them say what they feel. I wonder if it just that they don't have enough time..... that's the usual excuse! I'm sorry your friends couldn't pick up the phone. Birth is such a miracle, so many people can't share your joy. They should be ringing you, talking to you and letting you express your emotions (which are probably running high with excitement), sending you cards, flowers and in a couple of weeks visiting you! By the way, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Thanks wickedangel, good to see you understand where I am coming from. I agree with you birth of baby is a miracle and my emotions are running on a high and it cannot simply be expressed through a text message. Thanks for your congratulations, it means alot, even though I do not know you. Have a great day.
• United States
12 Mar 08
I guess it is sufficient is some cases. I have friend over seas that communicate via text message since long distances charges aren't feasible. But if a friend is close, then a phone call is in order. Additionally, with the times, text messages is the new means of communication. It's like chatting on instant message.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Hi, yes texts are definately good cheap way to communicate with people overseas, just not good on special occasions with close friends that live near by. Thanks for your response.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
Hi kiran, I feel that it is too bad that our society has come to this. It is so much better to hear a friends voice, and even better to see them in person. Congratuations on your new baby, and I hope all your friends come and visit. Blessings.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
13 Mar 08
Hi Pose, thanks, I agree it is much nicer to see people in person or talk to them on the phone. I actually had a visit today from one of my friends it was much nicer then the text message. Thanks for your response.
• Indonesia
12 Mar 08
it depends,,if it's an old friend who i don't meet often send me an text msgs to congratulate me, i would be very happy that they still remember me. But If I see them often, why would they have to congratulate me through text msgs?
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Hi, I agree if it is an old friend or an aquantence then text message is fine. However if it is friends that you have known for years, then a text message does not quite seem that good. Thanks for your response. :))
@Courtom (288)
• Canada
12 Mar 08
well it depends, My BF and i don't live together, he has unlimited text, and a lot of our communication is via text. On my b-day and especially our anniversary he calls first thing in the morning before work to wake me up, it is nice to hear a voice, much more then to read a text. Then he always makes sure to see me after. Other family and friends text me, and my closest friends call, get presents, cards, or pop by. I think it is much more responsible to take care of the friends and family you hold close to your heart
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Good point take care of friends and family that you hold close to your heart. I think like that too, you should treasure your friends and family. Glad that your bf calls you for special occasions, I don't see problem with texts when not special day especaially if you are getting unlimited texts. Thanks for your response. :)
• Nepal
12 Mar 08
It's good to send message, but going to congrulate with telephone make more effect.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
I agree good to hear expression and excitement in people's voices rather then text message congratulations. Also it is good to talk on phone to discuss the baby. Thanks for your opinions. :)))
@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
11 Mar 08
my happiness is less so i consider it much...although much better if they see you in person sometimes we consider also the distance...some of my friends are far from my place so the only way to reached me through, text, call and less want to see me because they fear of the transportation cost. LOL...anyway, congrats my friend for having a baby.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Thanks julyteen, how you going? I agree if friends are far away text is ok I guess, but still not hard to pick up phone lol. In person for friends who live near by is always so much better. I am lucky I have my best friend, the day my baby was born she drove 2 hours to come and visit me in hospital then drove 2 hours back home that same day. Now that is showing you care, I would have been happy for her to call me as she lives so far away. But she insisted, nice feeling to know that you mean so much to a friend. Thanks for your response. :))
@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
11 Mar 08
It all depends on why they texted you. I can understand if they were excited and at work and couldn't do anything except text, but I would still expect them to call me as soon as they had a free moment. I know a lot of my friends work during the day, and couldn understand, also me and my friends are more the texting type then actually talking. lol.
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Yes I can understand if people are at work and they text first then call later, that is totally fine with me. But when they have free moment would be nice to have call. I have some close friends that I have been friends with for nearly 10 years and all I got was text messages, still no call a week later. Thanks for your response. :)
@5mayday (1054)
• Norway
11 Mar 08
I am happy with just a text, ofcourse is it great if they call. but for me is text much better then nothing at all. Atleast means that ur friends REMEMBER that day, and that is the point ^^ Can always share your thought in another day, when you actually meets face to face
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
12 Mar 08
Thanks for your point of view. :))