Wanting another baby

I think that every mother gets the baby blues at some point after having children and after getting "fixed" as you call it, but maybe you are really feeling led to have another child and there are other ways besides natural childbirth that you could do that. You could either adopt or you could become a foster parent. Foster parenting for me would be difficult because eventually that child would have to leave. it takes a very special person to be a foster parent, but you could always look into the adoption process. I myself have really been having baby blues, but i really think it's because i just had a hysterectomy back in november and can no longer have children. my youngest one is two, so it's not like it's been that long. i do understand where you are coming from though. why dont you sit down with your husband and talk to him about the way you are feeling. he might even bring up adoption himself. you never know. good luck and keep us posted. God bless

Every women I think goes through this. I know my mom did. She had actually even called doctors and specialists to find out if she could have her tubes untied. Until we pulled her aside and asked her if she was nuts, lol. Not too long after that I became pregnant with my son. And it helped to fill her void, lol. All I have to say is "WOW" though, you's have 5 kids betweens you and you still have the patience to have another one.

Got to love the baby blues. One good thing about it, it will pass. I have 2 daughters ages 6 and 11 (soon to be 12) and with the way everything going on with our economy, I know it would be hard to bring another child into all of this. All it takes is for me is to see a baby. Then, I realise, they need diapers, formula, clothes, crib, etc, things that cost money and that's not what we have at the moment. My neighbor across the street just had a baby, luckily all I need is to hear my youngest whine and cry over nonsense to make me realise why I don't want any more kids. Plus I'm 31, I like to be able to enjoy retirement and not still have to deal with school costs and the joys of college. Besides the impossible, because that can be fixed with today's doctors. You can write a list of pros on having another baby, and the cons and see which out weighs the other. Most important one, your husband doesn't want anymore, and you have grandchildren to look forward to. My mom had 4 kids and has 6 grandchildren, and one great grandchild. Imagine how many you will have with 5 kids.

you are going through the baby blues. trust me i know. i got my tubes tied after my little girl three years ago, and every now and then i go through the what if have another baby thing. i have three kids and my oldest is 18. i know in my heart of hearts i don't want any more, but every one in a while i think, why did i tie my tubes.

I know we have talked about it before and that you have had the baby blues for a bit as of late. I was thinking on this while here at my "retreat". Yes, I was thinking of you! :D Have you thought about fostering children? It's a win win situation. The down side is eventually the child or children would be adopted or placed somewhere else or returned to their parents. However, you would be doing something good for these children (I know how much you love kids!), and you would feel less inclined to have the baby blues.

What about adoption? There are tons of babies and toddlers in need of a stable family. The other idea is if you are not sure if this is just a temp thing, register to be a foster parent for babies and small children. I am not making light of the responsibility of being a foster parent as if it is something you just try on, but you can get your "baby fix." Many of the kids that you might have may just need a temporary place to go and be returned to the parents, but you can also be a foster parent for longer depending. Some of the kids, like I say wouldn't be eligible for adoption because their parents are working on their situation but some might be. Also, on the other side of it - sometimes when people are in parent mode and the youngest starts to really grow up you forgot getting back to doing "adult" things now that the kids are more independent. For some people, socializing with more adults at adult functions cures the want for a baby. If you revolve around the kids 24/7 it would feel more natural to feel the want for another one when they no longer need you as much. I am not saying not to be there for your kids, but unlike having toddlers, you can get back to bringing more of your old hobbies that you couldn't enjoy with a baby on your knee again.

Well maybe because you both don't have a child of your own I mean with the husband you have now. I have 5 kids too and I sometimes have this urge to have another baby and we still can but we can't because of money issues. When I see a baby in the mall or someone carrying a baby I have this want to have another. My youngest is 4 yrs old. Well,I am not sure how you can have one if you are both fixed..can you guys be unfixed? I am not sure about that as well.Sorry if I'm not much help..I want another baby too.

I think its a mom thing. I'm going through it and my baby is only 7 months old. We have 3 and we're trying to decide if we want one more. I think I'm having a hard time because I love having kids and seeing that beautiful baby smile. I worry I'd just want to keep going lol. Maybe if you decide you really want to, you could consider adoption. It probably doesn't compare to actually carrying the baby yourself but you could give some poor baby a good home.

Oh I see that would be a little bit hard. I dont think there is possible way you could have a child of your own. but you can adopt if you really want. Yes maybe your kids are growing and it makes you feel bad since growing children started to have their life on their own. I believe that you should spend some good times together with your husband... go out for dates and enjoy life. At the same time enjoying being a mother to your growing children. Just dont look at something that you know you can never have. Be thankful for what is already there. Adn spend some good times with your kids just before they all grow up.

Well it could be that you want a baby with your husband, since you don't share a child or it could be because your kids are getting older..Have you recently seen many babies around? That will also trigger the mothering instinct to have another baby.. My youngest is 5, but he was born when my youngest then was 12, so I think as much as I love babies, I am through. I have thought about how I miss having a tiny little one around once in a while, but not strong enough to actually want one..Then again, who knows, in about another 4-5 years, I may feel the same as you...

I think it is normal to want another child! Since you and your new husband do not have any children that are both of yours, that desire will pop up more frequently. I think it would be possible for doctors to get you in that position, it is your husband who feels that it is enough to have 5 children between you! It is a good thing, either way!

It very well could be baby blues, but maybe you are being called to mother again. Have you thought about adoption or something like that. Maybe foster parenting could also be an option. Something to think about. God bless

i want another one too but maybe u love him so much u want kids by him

you know you already have a lot of cute kids ,i think should cost you lots of time to look after them! i think it's not big deal ,hope you can try !

My husband and I wanted 3 children and that is what we had. I did find myself wanting another from time to time, but it passed. I am way to old now for more children, but sometimes wish we had more. My baby boy just turned 18 in January and I cried several times that day. It just really hit me hard, I didn't have any babies anymore. Of course they all thought I was nuts. I feel so very fortunate to have had my 3 sons. I love them more than life itself.

This is not an uncommon occurrence, especially when you're at a stage in life when you know you can't have any more. I've been through the stage myself, many times, as I'm sure a lot of other women have. I had to resign myself to the fact that my daughter-in-law is a lovely, sharing person, and I knew when she and my son had kids, that I would be heavily involved with them. I got a lot of time with their babies, bonding, and such, but in the role of a grandmother, and I'll tell you something... it is so tiring when you haven't had children yourself for a while, and you are not sorry to be able to give them back and go rest up! Motherhood is a marvellous part of any woman's life, and I can see where you're coming from, but when you made the decision for you both to get "fixed", you did it for a reason. My advice is to enjoy the kids that you have... bring them up to share their love and joys with you, and you'll be fulfilled when your grandchildren come along. You'll get over this stage eventually. Brightest Blessings.

I always wanted to have kids.. I want another baby and i really can't wait to have one.

I was sterilised after having my 4th child, I would not have done it but I knew if i didnt then I would just carry on having babies. Plus I had a lot of health problems and the doctor told me that I should not have any more as I would not be able to carry full term anymore. So for my sake and any future babies sakes I chose to be sterilised. I too suffered with the baby blues, I wanted a baby so much it hurt. Knowing that my daughter was my last child ever, made me feel very strange like it was a part of my life that was over and now I just had to accept that I just had to watch my children grow up, and then I would grow older, I think in a way having children just made me feel younger too, I cant explain it properly, but it was just such a mixture of feelings at the time.

I know that I went through that for a while too, but now that my kids are grown it's pretty much gone away. Maybe you could just concentrate your attentionn on teh kids you have right now and find special things to do with each of them. If you're still wanting more, then perhaps you could sign up to be a foster parent. I did that for a few years and it was very rewarding. I got the mothering instinct taken care of, and the kids got a good home for a while when they needed it the most. It worked well for all concerned.

I think it is a natural feeling but if it keeps coming up you might want to adopt . well i have a son and 18 other kids and my boyfriend and I are really like wow! we plan to have another kid but at this point we are not having any because we have 19 kids to care for. Some times I get emotional about it. but he know s it is because I love having children. He does encourage me to stay positive and to think about the ones we have. So i think your husband should help you stay positive and keep thinking and managing those you have now. Again it is natural to want more kids.