Where did you have your children?

United States
March 19, 2008 9:59am CST
I had a friend who had a baby at home with a midwife present. I always considered that a pretty scary alternative to having a child in the hospital where all the technology is available immediately if something should go wrong. However, some people feel more comfortable being in their own environment. Where did you have your children?
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@mummymo (23707)
19 Mar 08
Hospital! I think I would have been frightened to have my babies at home as I had complicated pregnancies! I couldn't have done it at home anyway as I had to have labour induced, waters broken and a drip put in to strengthen and speed contractions with them both! One was a month early the other 12 days overdue! xxx
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• United States
21 Mar 08
Your pregnancies sound just like mine. Each time I had to have labor induced, each time I had to have my water broken etc. With my daughter I went in at 6 in the morning, they induced labor, at noon they gave me an epidural. By 7 she still hadn't come and the epidural had worn off and they finally suctioned her at 8:30. I guess she liked just where she was at amd shes still stubborn to this day.
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@mummymo (23707)
21 Mar 08
And we still had more! lol with my eldest I had a forceps delivery and it was very scary as i was minutes from an emergency c section and the youngest was very like yours and then when she decided she would come out she really forced the issue - my other half said if the bed had been a few inches clser to the wall she would have blasted through that too! lol xxx
@gemini_rose (16193)
19 Mar 08
I had all four of mine in hospital. With my fourth pregnancy from the start I was determined to have a home birth, the reason for this was mainly because with it being my fourth I knew that it would come quick. Unfortunately my daughter had other plans for me and things went really wrong in my pregnancy from around the 20th week and so I had no choice but to have to have a hospital birth.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
I'm sorry that your wishes were thwarted by complications in your pregnancy, but I'm glad that you were able to find out early enough to take the precautions you needed to.
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
19 Mar 08
Sorry, I'm not yet a mom. But if I were to give birth, it has to be in the hospital. Otherwise, it's not only me that I'm risking but also my baby.
• United States
21 Mar 08
Are you planning on having children in the near future or is that a long way off for you?
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
21 Mar 08
I want to be a mother now but God may have other plans and I simply couldn't conceive despite the efforts. I just hope that I may be blessed with a child before I reach 40.
@stvasile (7317)
• Romania
19 Mar 08
I don't have any children, but I was born in a hospital. Two of my cousins, 36 and 27 years old, were born at home.
• United States
21 Mar 08
If you did have children, where do you think you would prefer to have them?
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@stvasile (7317)
• Romania
21 Mar 08
At the hospital, of course. My two cousins were not born at home because their mother didn't want to go to the hospital. The access to a hospital wasn't so easy back then, and the mother's education level wasn't one of the highest either.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
19 Mar 08
In a hospital and glad that I did. My sister had her first three children in a hospital and then her fourth child at home. I wasn't present but it seemed to have worked out well for her.
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• United States
19 Mar 08
I guess for some people it does work to have them at home. I just know that I couldn't personally do it. I'd be to afraid to take that chance.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Me too. I don't know what it is but I need to see the machines, the doctors around and about, and sorts, makes me feel that I am being taken care of properly and if anything happens, then they are there to fix it LOL
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@MsEddie86 (236)
• United States
19 Mar 08
i had my daughter in the hospital at the time i was a teenage mother and couldnt afford to have her at home which i would have loved to do. but if have another child i am gonna save so that way i can go to a birthin center because there they do have a comfortable setting too and a bit more technology than i would have at home. do you happen to know the prices of having a midwife and things like that?
• United States
19 Mar 08
Unfortunately, I can't answer your question as it was not me that had my children at home or at a birth center. I stayed within my comfort zone and had them in a hospital. I can't imagine having them anywhere else. I guess I'm a big scaredy cat, but either way its no longer an issue. Whew!
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• United States
19 Mar 08
oh well thats okay u cant answer i jus thought you may have known because it was your friend who had the baby, but no its not being a scardy cat at all you felt safe. i know i did, but the experience is what has me wanting to have my child outside of a hospital. how many children doyou have i only have one right now i want more but how many kids is enough to have? i know my grandmother had 7 boys no girls and shes one of 8 five girls and 3 boys so i do come from a big family but i dont know if i want that many kids
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@Modestah (11192)
• United States
19 Mar 08
I had mine in the hospital, with high risk pregnancies all of them it seems it was a necessary in convienence...heh. I do admire those who can have them at birthing centers or at home and think the experience of a water birth must be a wonderful thing.
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• United States
21 Mar 08
Its not that I don't admire people with that kind of courage, I just don't have it myself.
@Ldyjarhead (10157)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Both of my sons were born in the hospital, one a military hospital, one civilian. If I were still of child-bearing age and could have another, I might consider a home birth. Easy for me to say now, though, because it can't happen!
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• United States
19 Mar 08
I'm glad I can't have anymore. I love the ones I have, but would never want to go through it again. LOL.
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@ersmommy1 (12600)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I had my daughter in the hopital. Good thing to. I had to have an emergency c-section. What was that you said about readily available technology? Good thing I wasin a hospital huh?lol
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• United States
20 Mar 08
My son was born in a hospital in Minot. It was a quick labor. They had to give the other women a shot to keep her from having hers at the same time that I had my son. They said that they had never seen a women with it being her first pregnancy deliver so quickly. They wheeled me into the delivery room and in a very short while I was holding my son in my arms. I don't think I would have been comfortable with having my child at home. There is a lot of complications that can come about and I like the security of knowing that if a problem does arise I have medical staff that can take care of it.
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@youless (91541)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Mar 08
I delivered my child in the hospital. Here almost all the women had their babies in the hospitals. There is no an extra choice in this aspect.
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Mar 08
I had both of mine in the hospital. My mom had me and my sister at home with mydad as the doctor of course he was the one and only doctor in my small home town. I always thought that was really brave of her and am just glad she had no complications. I had a block so there was little pain with my first baby but had some problems with high blood pressure so was glad to be where help was close by. my second birth was a diseaster. i had gone over time so the doctor did an induction and that dragged on and on and I overheard a nurse suggesting to my doctor that I would need a caesaeran section as my baby was in trouble well he vetoed that and it went on and on and finally I had her by forceps delivery and she was black. I was frantic as they took my baby off and did not come back or tell me what was going on until I made such a fuss that they did send the doctor back to tell me. She was without oxygen for so long that she was born brain damaged. I was furious with the doctor since he knew lisa rose was in trouble two hours back and he could have done a section and saved her from that damage. oh I loved her in spite of that as she was just as sweet and loving as any child could be and we only had her for eight short years.It was all because he did not think that my blue cross insurance would cover that and he was so wrong.I am sorry to have injected a sad note in here.
@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
21 Mar 08
I had both mine at the Hospital and I would not have been able to have them at Home if I wanted to as there was a lot of complications with both Pregnancies and Birth But I have heard of People having them at home and I think they are taking risks doing that what if something goes wrong
@ruby222 (4848)
20 Mar 08
Mine were all born in the hospital...I think like you state if there is a need for any emergency trewatment you are in the right place!! Though i would imagine it would be lovely t o give birth in your own environment....
@kiran1978 (4137)
• Australia
20 Mar 08
I had all three of my children in a hospital. I would not ever have my babies anywhere else after what happened to me in my last labour. I had my third child two weeks ago and I am glad I was in the hospital as she had the cord wrapped around her neck twice. I was happy that I was in a hospital as they quickly called in a doctor and another midwife. They saved my baby's life. Also after that I had blood clots, I had to go to theatre straight away, if I was at home I would not have been able to go there right away. Plus I also lost alot of blood and had to have blood transfusion. So I personally think it is alot safer to have your baby in a hospital where all the technology is and extra doctors if the need arises.
@ellie333 (21029)
20 Mar 08
I didn't have a choice as I had to have all my children by preplanned general anaesthetic ceasarian so had to be in hospital, but think I would have chosen the hospital anyway even if I didn't have problems for the reasons you state above about if anything did happen to go wrong the professionals and equipment are all on hand and available in an emergency. Ellie :D
• China
20 Mar 08
I 'm not married and have no child yet, but if i have my baby, i'd rather to do it in the hosptial.it's more safe.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
20 Mar 08
Hi there... I had our son in hospital and our daughter at home in the lounge, actually it was in a portable birthing pool, in which I thoroughly enjoyed... If I were ever pregnant again, I wouldnt hesitate to have another home birth... It was better then the hospital experience and plus I felt so comfortable and more relaxed in our home, had a great midwife on stand by too...
@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
20 Mar 08
I had all 3 of my children, at the hospital. It was a good thing, in my daughters case. She was a blue baby, the cord was wrapped all around her neck. Scary. I had natural child birth with each one,just in the hospital. My last one came 45 minuts after we walked in the door. So fast, they called it rapid birth and had to put him under a heat lamp. So I think the hospital was a good choice for me, at home would of been to scary I think.