how far would you go?

United States
March 24, 2008 8:59am CST
I have a friend that I know that when his brother got married they were at the church getting ready there was about 45 minutes til the wedding was to start. He tells his brother I have the keys we can be in virginia before they even notice we're gone. Before his brother could answer they heard the music and the bride was at the alter before the groom. To this day they think someone in the brides family heard my friend say this to his brother and started the wedding over an half hour early to avoid not having the wedding. LOL!! So how far would you go for friendship if you thought they were making a huge mistake ? Or just plain how far would you go for your friend in any situation?
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@vera5d (4006)
• United States
24 Mar 08
what a funny story! I have known a lot of people who shouldn't have gotten married (some as predicted are already divorced!) but I never got into it because i think they should be able to make their own decisions...
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yep I agree with you but I also wish my friend would have been able to sneak his brother out of the church and to virginia.. Because his brother has been neutered. LOL!!!
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@skinnychick (6907)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I would go as far as I needed to- in the name of protecting a good friend. I would tie them down, take them away, and just plain tell them that they are making a huge mistake and this is the reason why I feel that way. My friends are generally smart and don't get into too many predicaments and they do listen to advice I give them. I'm not sure it's always good advice, just what seems right at the time and for the particular situation.
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• United States
24 Mar 08
To bad my firend didn't knock his brother out and sneak him out of the church and then explain it to him LOL!!!
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• United States
24 Mar 08
That would have been a great story for years to come!
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• United States
24 Mar 08
I so agree with that. That would have been priceless.
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• United States
24 Mar 08
Thats crazy! My best friend and I both offered to help the other one get out of their wedding if necessary. I think its just something people say to be supportive. Very funny story though, I enjoyed it.
• United States
24 Mar 08
Thanks but if you met the wife you'd know it wasn't a joke it was all seriousness and the brother now wishes there was time to have done it. LOL!!!But he'll never divorce her.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
24 Mar 08
For a true friend. One that I loved and trusted like a brother or sister (or more) I would do whatever it took save encouraging them to break the law or going to jail for them. I have certainly given friends money, with no expectation of repayment. I have driven miles to take them places, pick them up from car breakdowns etc. Standing at the altar is not the time to get cold feet though. Smart move in behalf of the bride's family if true. Are they still together?
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
24 Mar 08
Sounds awful. When my daughter was about 8 we went to a party and she and the son of the house were sliding on a polished floor. Which they shouldn't. A woman, small, opinionated, and built like a bulldog caught them both and walloped them. I had to be restrained. Funny thing is, we have become quite friendly since. But I don't put up with that from anyone.
• United States
24 Mar 08
Trust me it was by the grace of (insert diety of choice here) that I didn't give her a tongue lashing or whallop. But if she would have laid a finger on my daughter I would have had her leaving in a body bag and her husband would be a happy man. LOL!!!
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
24 Mar 08
You either see red or move to immediate violence in those situations. Even me. Your poor friend. Must be awful to be stuck with someone that treats you like that.
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Mar 08
brothers talk - Run or stay bro?
I would've said something a few days before the wedding to the person who was the closest to me and then I'd leave it at that. My husband's family thought I was marrying him for his health insurance and security. lol Because of my past experiences, I told my dad before I met my husband that I was going to marry for money because love hurt too much and here I met and married my husband! LOL I've gotta love him for he surely doesn't have any money!! lmbo!
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• United States
24 Mar 08
Isn't it funny how people always think money is the first reason. LOL!! I can never be accused of being with my SO for money. LOL!!!
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yup or insurance such as in my case. We've been married almost 17 years come this August so I don't think the insurance was the reason. Maybe it could've been because we loved each other and STILL DO? Oh no, too good to be true for them to believe such a thing.
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• United States
24 Mar 08
yep I know what you mean if it's to good to be true then it can't be right!! I hate that people can be so judgemental.
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• United States
26 Mar 08
I tell my friends a dozen or so times when I think they are making a mistake. But ultimately I have to accept that all of my friends are adults (at least in body if not in mind) so if they need to learn their lesson for themselves then so be it. Besides, I get tired saying the same thing over and over again. I'm sure they get tired of hearing it.
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• United States
27 Mar 08
yep I think until you are blue in the face actually. LOL!!!
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@casita (237)
• United States
26 Mar 08
That's really kind of funny. In my offline life, I am a church organist. I don't even arrive until 1/2 hour before the service. And I start playing soft organ music as soon as I get there. And the cue to start comes from the priest or minister. It in no way comes from a family member nor from a member of the bridal party. So, unless the officiating minister was ready to start. . . . . .I just find this scenario hard to believe. And, to be honest, I think at the altar is a little bit late to intervene. Where was this brother during all of those months preparing for the ceremony? Why didn't he say or do something before that moment??? If I thought a friend or family member was making a mistake I would surely say something. But in the end, it is there mistake to make and learn from. I wouldn't push it too much. And if the mistake were made I would be there for that person when it all begins to unravel. But as one who makes a living as a church musician, I really have to say that this story is farfetched.
• United States
27 Mar 08
nope true story groom will back the story and the brother knowing the brother made comments through out the whole relationship. I also have to say each church is different and I know of churches where when the family members that are pivotal in the arrangement of the church and what not say it's time to start they start. If her sister went up to the priest and sad start the music it started. Sorry but different states and churches do things differently. This is not a story of fiction it happened and both the groom and the brother will back it. Sorry to disappoint you.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
25 Mar 08
That is funny. I would never do that to my friend or for my friend. I have thought that my friends are making mistakes when getting married and they thought the same of me. right or wrong...it is a personal choice. If I thought my friend was making a huge mistake I'd be there for hugs when they figured it out and until then, I'd be hoping that I was wrong.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
We always want what's best for our friends.
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@s2a2n2 (1732)
• India
25 Mar 08
it really depends on the situation and how worse and important the situation is? Manytimes I prefer going hard at friend if he is doing wrong no matter he hurts of my words, but that is for good cause and understands later for sure...
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• United States
25 Mar 08
Honesty wether it hurts or not ... I have done that a time or two.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
I would do a lot of stuff to help out a TRUE friend that has or i know for a fact would help me in a bad situation. The limits i would have to follow would be not hurting others by any means; i am a christian man and i don't know if i could live with myself if i did a major sin. So to answer the question simply i would help them as long as it wasn't a sin/breaks the law.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
Thanks you for your response It's good that you stick to a certain code of ethics.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
I actually tried to talk a friend out of marrying so soon after meeting the guy. She's my best friend so I know she took my opinion into consideration but I knew she'd make her own choice. I'm not going any farther than that. If a friend comes to me with an issue, they're gonna get the blunt, honest truth. Take it, leave it, love me, hate me-- I'm telling you the deal. But hey, I always say, you can find anybody to commit murder, but a true friend will help you hide the body. That's all she needed to know.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
That is so true.. You can always find someone to hide the body but you true friend will help you hide it. LOL!!!
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@jeseravi (338)
24 Mar 08
I would go as far up to when my friend would stop listening to me. I would only consider a person my friend if they would take into consideration my opinion before acting on somehting so important. but that was funny how he just left lol
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• United States
25 Mar 08
He didn't leave though they started the wedding early and he ended up going through with it. LOL!!!
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
I would go very far for a Friend But I have to say running away would not solve it I would talk to my Friend and if they know well enough they would listen to me as I will never interfere unless I am very Certain about something and most of my Friends know that
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• United States
24 Mar 08
I know what you mean I'm not one to interfere but I also won't stand by silently if it's something that will harm my friend. I do believe to an extent that you have to let them make their own mistakes and just be there when the pieces fall but most of the time I want to stop that from happening.
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@chileman (969)
• Australia
25 Mar 08
It's a tough one as we so many couples marry and then get divorced not long after which if they have kids, ends up affecting more than just the couple! Not forgetting the costs of divorce but more important the affect it may have on each of the two that went through the marriage thinking it was the right one or maybe thinking it would work even if they weren't the right one.....very tough decision in life!
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
hahaha, well.. i really think that it depends on the situation ur at, if you know that what your friend is making you do is bad, then don't do it, but if its just for kicks and no one's gonna get hurt, then why not try, ryt? ^_^
• United States
1 Apr 08
Oh this wasn't for kicks it was for protection of his brother. .LOL!!!
• Canada
29 Mar 08
If someone in the Bride's family did hear him say that, I would hope they'd start the cerimony early, because it would serve the idiot right. It was not the friend's business to interfere like that, and if that is what happened, then he got what he deserved
• United States
29 Mar 08
Actually it was his friend's business because the person who suggested it was the grooms brother.LOL!! and he was right the groom is now in a miserable marriage that he won't leave because of principle and she'll kill him LOL!!! But she actually makes the wicked witch look like the good witch.
@mummymo (23707)
25 Mar 08
LOL That was one bride that definitely wasn't getting left at the altar! I would stand by my friends through thick and thin though if I thought they were in the wrong I would tell them so - that is what friends are for isn't it? xxx
• United States
25 Mar 08
yep that was one bride that was definitely getting married and one family that was definitely making sure to marry her off. LOL!!!
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