dealing with a spouse that snores

United States
March 28, 2008 1:10am CST
For those of you out there that have a spouse that snores...how do you deal with it? For a long time, I grinned, grunted, tossed and turned and just lived with it. About a year ago, my husband and I started sleeping in separate rooms. Sometimes it makes me sad but I just wasn't getting any sleep and it was getting too difficult to make it through the day without enough shut eye.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
there medical devices he can wear to stop the snoring and there are those new strips out they may help. My boyfriend snores to, it is hard, we don't usually sleep together because we live in separate houses.
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• United States
30 Mar 08
He has tried the strips and sprays with no luck. He won't go for a sleep study to determine if he needs a CPAP machine for sleep apnea because he knows he doesn't want to wear the big CPAP mask...
• Canada
28 Mar 08
When my husband snores, I just give him a little shove, and he rolls over. He told me to make sure to do that, and if he snores too much, I should just wake him up.
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• United States
30 Mar 08
I tried that and unfortunately, it didn't work. He rolled over and continue snoring!
@youdontsay (3497)
• United States
28 Mar 08
It is frustrating, isn't it? They are sleeping and you aren't because they are making a racket that they can't even hear! I do the punching and "turn over" routine. But my spouse snores in any position and with their mouth closed! I don't know how they can be so loud when their mouth is closed. There are snore strips by Breathe Easy that they dissolve on the back of their tongue that helps a little. And the Breathe Easy strips that widen their nasal passage help a little. But so far nothing helps completely. I'm hoping the doctor prescribes a sleep study or an ear and throat specialist to see if there is any antidote for snoring. I wear a CPAP, which makes a soft whispering sound creating a kind of white noise effect. And with my spouse facing away from me I'm usually able to get to sleep. Of course I take a medication for my insomnia that helps me get to sleep. Still, snoring can't be good for anyone's throat can it?
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@dfinster (3528)
• United States
28 Mar 08
About 6 years ago my husband went in and had a surgery to tighten the back of his throat and fix all of his sinus problems and after that it was heaven because he didn't snore. Now he's back at it again. I have a really hard time falling asleep and when I do I'm a really light sleeper so his snoring keeps me awake. I can nudge him to roll over but that doesn't stop it so I end up going out to the couch and sleeping there a lot of times. I don't get the best sleep out there but it's better than no sleep at all.
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@deepti15 (1190)
• India
28 Mar 08
Well ... I'm sure you've read everything from strips, to doctors to ear plugs to nudging ... but come on who really wants to wake up nudge the person over until they stop ... that's the part that kills me ... he's on his back in a few minutes anyways & I'm stuck awake all night pushing and shoving his body over ... lol ... ! I've learned to pick out his " bad " nights & sleep in the other room ... I also have ear plugs but it makes me nervous because I like to hear what's going on at night with the house, my daughter .... etc ... if he hasn't tried the strips yet I'd buy a few of those ... if that doesn't work - maybe a doctors visit is necessary ... other then that ... I also see why my grandma & grandpa slept in separate bedrooms my whole life too ... lol ... !
@busta1baby (1230)
• United States
28 Apr 08
i think its cute..lol..
@lucy02 (5016)
• United States
28 Mar 08
My husband snores. I use earplugs. I did go to the spare bedroom but my mom lives with us now so I put in the plugs or sleep on the couch.
@whittby (3072)
• United States
29 Mar 08
My husband snores too. If I get to sleep before he does, there isn't a problem. If I wake up during the night and he's snoring, that's it for me. I'm off to the couch. Before we moved, we had more bedrooms and I had a better choice of where to sleep. I know everyone tells you, be glad he's there sleeping with you, be glad he's still around...but I can't take it. I wouldn't feel guilty or sad about separate sleeping rooms, what good would you be to your family without sleep? As long as things are okay between you and hubby dealing with the sleeping situation..if not, has he had a sleep study? My husband did and won't wear the apnea machine. Well!
• United States
28 Mar 08
Earplugs... great invention. My husband snores, grinds his teeth and makes the most unusual sounds. I started wearing an earplug in the ear that wasn't against the pillow. I don't wear both b/c I'm still afraid I won't hear the alarm clock or phone in case of an emergency. It works great!
@p_vadla (1685)
• India
29 Mar 08
Its not a problem.One can have a normal sleep even when one's spouse does snoring.When our body really needs sleep, it would have it for its own sake. preoccupation with a spouse's snoring means definitely some other problem with non-snoring partner.It has to be sorted out.
@JHEZ924 (119)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
My husband also snores but it only happen when we were already in ou 6-7 months old of our marriage. It bothers me at first not because I can't sleep hearing snores, but because I am afraid he might have any health problem (I read it before in one article). But according to my husband, he feels fine and nothing to bother about it. So from then, I stopped worrying and instead, I make his snores as my lullaby... It really makes me fall asleep!
@wy2008 (185)
• China
29 Mar 08
i usually sleep with my brother in the same room , and he snores loudly , at first , i throw books , pillows and so on to wake him up , but when he fall asleep again , the snore come back . now i just put on earplug , and that works .
28 Mar 08
I tend to find that if I poke him and ask him to roll over onto his side that works pretty well. I guess I can sleep through the noise and if it is really bad I just switch on the TV!
• India
28 Mar 08
hey frankly when i goto sleep i dont hear no nothing be it snoring or an erthquake.but in my opinion u should just pok the nose when u hear someone snore he she wakes up or stops snoring .
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I do snore too when Im too tired..lol, What we're doing is to wake up each other if we start the annoying sound! Change sleeping position will help in a minute..well, we have to be too tried before going to bed so that no matter how irritation the noise is, we will not hear it! lol
• United States
28 Mar 08
My husband and my son are both really loud snorers. I got some tei fu oil and would just put it on the bridge of his nose every night and it seems to help. A small bottle for like 8 dollars will last a really long time. For my son it worked really well because he would snore because of his sinuses and allergies. My husband not sure why but I put it on him and it helps not completly but does help a lot with him.
@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I always roll my hubby over when he is loud an my girls told him they found another use for tampons they threaen to stick them up his nose yes he is that loud
@CanadaGal (4304)
• Canada
28 Mar 08
My ex husband was the WORST snorer! I swear the windows rattled it was so bad! Normally, I would deal with it by beating him up in his sleep. I'd body shove him or take my fingers and squeeze his nostrils shut. It never got to the point where I'd sleep in a different room, but I do recall that I used to sleep with one pillow covering my eyes, then drape my arm on top, to help cover my ears and muffle the sounds of his snoring. When I left him over 5 years ago, one of the first things I noticed was how much better I was sleeping. It was great. My current lover snores a bit, but it's nothing in comparison to what the ex did. I'm not used to it though, and find I wake up numerous times in the night when he's here. I don't know if it's the snoring, or just sleeping next to someone again that is the cause for waking up. But it's a lack of sleep I don't mind at all.
@julievy (593)
• United States
28 Mar 08
My spouse was one of those window rattling snorers too. But, this past December he had a lung tumor so the doc removed 1/2 of a lung and the tumor. When he first got home after the surgery, the snoring was even worse, however after a few weeks of healing the the snoring has stopped almost completely. We're not sure if perhaps the tubes and drain in his throat throughout the long surgery dialated his larynx, or if it's because he's quit smoking. Either way, we had 2 miracle cures - the tumor (which was non-malignant) and the snoring. Sometimes at night now I have to reach over and touch him to make sure he's still there!