please and thank you!!

No you are right, manners seem to have gone right out of the window! I am a mum, I have a young daughter who is still in a pushchair, no one ever opens the door for me, it is always me that opens and holds the door for others, while at the same time juggling with a pushchair! People will not move out of the way for a pushchair they will expect you to move out of their way and very often people will push past me and never say excuse me. I always say please and thank you to people when they help me out and I always say excuse me and I get so cross when the same courtesy is not extended to me.

Yeah, people these days don't think to teach their kids manners. It also depends on where you live I think. People say that the south is more mannerly than the North. But THANK YOU for posting, and PLEASE make a discussion again!

sometimes these days it's shocking how incredibly rude people have become and can be. It's almost like some people think they can get things by demanding them and then don't say thank you because they feel this sense of entitlement instead of gratitude. I mean it takes less than a split second to say please and thank you and I don't care how big of a hurry people are in I think we all should be able to spare that second to use those words.

Hi there. I have often helped people out, held open a door for them and Ive only ever had one person just walk off without saying nothing, which at the time, made me feel like a door person. The rest Ive helped are usually appreciative and polite, which can leave you with a neat feeling of being appreciated and able to help... Have a great day yas...

Some people just act like that.But I believe most of people are polite,let's not blame everyone for that.But you are right,we should say please and thank you more often.

It is true, manners are more and more seeming like a thing of the past. I always thank and smile at anyone who makes even the smallest gesture to do something nice. I have noticed to that when I buy something sometimes the cashiers don't even say thank you, I realized that it was me the last couple of times that thanked the cashier. Both times right after I said it I was thinking to myself, "Aren't they suppossed to be thanking me the customer for spending $150.00 on groceries? I don't know why I thank them, it is just habit I guess, and they have done something for me, but do you think I could get a Thank you back, or at least a your very welcome have a nice day? I don't know I guess I will just keep on being polite and hope it rubs off on at least a couple people.

Younger people just don't be thinking, maybe the person might of had something on there mind. that happens some times. Young people have a habit o doing this.

I have low tolerance for it myself..and actually so do my kids! Being Canadian its common to say please, thank you, have a nice day etc etc, hold doors and so on...and I've raised my kids to be that way too and they are amazing with it but since moving here to NY i noticed (and my husband is noticing it too since moving back here) that its NOT common in fact just the opposite and the LOOKS we sometimes get just blows my mind!! For example here is my 12 yr old or my 14 yr old holding the door for someone lets say my age (37) and its bad enough they dont say thank you but on top of it they give my kids a NASTY look!!! MIND YOU the ELDERS ALWAYS comment on it saying things like "oh thats so nice..children just dont do that anymore" and of course thank the kids....I noticed over here you can't even smile and say good morning to a stranger without getting a dirty look more often than not...Its crazy

I agree! There are those people who dont seem to appreciate any of the simple gestures shown to them i hate to have encounter with such rude people. I mostly see this common in some older people. they are always like that, well at least most of my experiences, like when i stand up and offer my seat, or if if i let them go ahead of me in the line, or if i assist them in picking up things they have dropped... i wonder if they think that it is our responsibility to actually do things for them.. it gets irritating.. no wonder, my brother said, no one offers their seat anymore cause some don't even say thank you or at least give you a bit of a smile!!!

It does happen a lot. I can't tell you how many times I've held doors open for people and they don't bother to say thanks. The one that gets to me the most though is when I'm driving. If I'm nice enough to let you merge into traffic, I'm going to expect some kind of wave, because we all know you didn't HAVE to let them over. Sometimes I just feel that manners aren't existing anymore in people.

Thank you yasmin for starting this discussion. I was taught by both my parents that manners and respect take you through the world. Words like thank you, please, yes sir/ma'am,excuse me and sorry are words that make a difference.And unfortunitly not only youngsters have problems with manners. It's as if good manners are becoming extinct. I say put it on the endangered list lets bring it back.

[b][/b] I think it's quite natural these days,to behave in an ill-mannered way.But I don't agree with the whole blame thrown on younger one's.Ofcourse,there is no doubt that the younger generation is tumling down in maintaining human relationships, in discharing social duties and it has become a trend to be rude, hard and tough.But we cannot ignore much older generation, who I think are no better, in being courtious.Infact, I found out that most of these so called wise people, who tend to give long lectures on what's right and not, themselves don't follow, when their turn comes. I think it's all in one's upbringing, and social conditions in which they live. But I don't really wait for any response from the other side.I do it as my duty, expecting the least from the other side.

I know how you feel. I wonder what is wrong with those people. If the parents don't teach this to their children, school should do this. My mom have taught me to be grateful when someone helped us. There is nothing to be lazy or having as an excuse that you in a bad mood or bad day. It doesn't even take 5 seconds of your life to say 2 words: THANK YOU. It just takes one second only!! I am glad you have post in this topic. I hope people who don't say thx will read this and will change a bit. have a good day :)

You are so right. Peaople nowadays are just so rude they think they own the freakin world or something they expet you to move out their way while they are being snoty with you and dont say thank you when im pritty sure they expect others to b polite with them. I have 2 kids a 1 yr old and a new born when i go to the doctors office people be standing at the door when i say excuse me they make a face like oh brother.

i think its still there with few people. i am not saying i am perfect one. but i very often use these words. i think its polite way of communicating.

I feel the same way. Oh whats wrong with saying Hello, Hi, when walking into someones else house!! I can't stand that. We were raised to so respect to other you better say hello hi cat dog or something when in entered into someone else home or just in there presents. Oh & let them here us NOT say Thank You, Your Welcome, Please anything to that nature when that is required of you(boy that was your head)But now days its like a crime if you utter these(those) words out of your mouth. I'm old school let me catch my kids any of them disrespecting anyone that is their butts. Model as long as you have respect for yourself and others you'll go faurther in life. I branded that in my kids and myself. PS oh and you better not shake your head or say yea instead of yes or no boy. I hope one day these words will raise again. And I'm making sure I start with my kids first. Thank you for letting me reply to this discussion.

Oh I know exactly what you mean! It's disgusting! My 2 boys are taught to be polite & say please & thankyou or they don't get anything. My oldest is 2 1/2 & even asks "can I please leave the table" after a meal before he takes off - a lot of people are surprised at how polite they both are & think I may be a little too strict but I believe good manners are very important!