please and thank you!!

March 31, 2008 3:12pm CST
What happened to these words....seriously i find it so rude when you do something and you get no thank you but i notice nowadays poeple just dont use it that much why......I held the door for a young lady in the superstore while she steered her pram in and she just walked by....how rude i was so tempted to say something but i left it.....but its so common.
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@gemini_rose (16194)
31 Mar 08
No you are right, manners seem to have gone right out of the window! I am a mum, I have a young daughter who is still in a pushchair, no one ever opens the door for me, it is always me that opens and holds the door for others, while at the same time juggling with a pushchair! People will not move out of the way for a pushchair they will expect you to move out of their way and very often people will push past me and never say excuse me. I always say please and thank you to people when they help me out and I always say excuse me and I get so cross when the same courtesy is not extended to me.
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• United States
31 Mar 08
I do have to say I find it annoying when people are being polite just to get a reaction out of you, I think its alright to leave a thank you unspoken from time to time and still have it understood, I think it gets tacky wearing out the please and thank yous and becomes insincere--like when people are having a bad day and lash out because "I said thank you!" I wish intentionally let that go if I sense that kind of tension. Or when people do a favor for you, you didn't even ask for it, and they go crazy when they do not get a 'thank you', dude calm down.
31 Mar 08
oh thats real terrible i think being curteous to someone makes you actually feel better, its a shame really because its just nice to say thanks and please as i honestly think these too words are one's we will commonly use in the future.....thanks for your response i feel ur frustration i really do..x
31 Mar 08
Hi i do understand there are some people who just dont use the word that often and this is the way they are but other's dont see it like that.....i have beem brought up to think manners always takes you further and gets u respect.........i get what ur saying as it can be igknowledged un spoken but only if your expression make's it obvious.....i think these too words can never be used too much...thanks for your response.x
• United States
31 Mar 08
Yeah, people these days don't think to teach their kids manners. It also depends on where you live I think. People say that the south is more mannerly than the North. But THANK YOU for posting, and PLEASE make a discussion again!
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31 Mar 08
Oh bless ya Creative_angel.....Yeah its true but you just cant please everyone hey!!
@dfinster (3535)
• United States
31 Mar 08
sometimes these days it's shocking how incredibly rude people have become and can be. It's almost like some people think they can get things by demanding them and then don't say thank you because they feel this sense of entitlement instead of gratitude. I mean it takes less than a split second to say please and thank you and I don't care how big of a hurry people are in I think we all should be able to spare that second to use those words.
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Hi, I just ran acoss you, How are you doing today? that Weather is nice here. I hope you have a wonderful day!
31 Mar 08
You are so rite its takes no effort at all.......its so sad to think that maybe in years to come will this word ever be used.....i think its so important to drum it in our kids heads to say it but they pick up things from others that teaching basics like manners is even so hard......i really hate rudness there's really no need!! Thank you for your response
@gxnfly (1147)
• China
1 Apr 08
Some people just act like that.But I believe most of people are polite,let's not blame everyone for that.But you are right,we should say please and thank you more often.
1 Apr 08
Oh i know certain people are naturally like that and the majority do say it but its still important i think to always say it. thanks for your comment. x
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
1 Apr 08
It is true, manners are more and more seeming like a thing of the past. I always thank and smile at anyone who makes even the smallest gesture to do something nice. I have noticed to that when I buy something sometimes the cashiers don't even say thank you, I realized that it was me the last couple of times that thanked the cashier. Both times right after I said it I was thinking to myself, "Aren't they suppossed to be thanking me the customer for spending $150.00 on groceries? I don't know why I thank them, it is just habit I guess, and they have done something for me, but do you think I could get a Thank you back, or at least a your very welcome have a nice day? I don't know I guess I will just keep on being polite and hope it rubs off on at least a couple people.
1 Apr 08
Thans for ur lovely comment, i feel you cus i still do it all the time in the hope that really will see and respond but it does work thou, Well also after spending that much money off course you deserve a thanks.......you have a good day!
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
31 Mar 08
Hi there. I have often helped people out, held open a door for them and Ive only ever had one person just walk off without saying nothing, which at the time, made me feel like a door person. The rest Ive helped are usually appreciative and polite, which can leave you with a neat feeling of being appreciated and able to help... Have a great day yas...
31 Mar 08
Thats really nice to know, I do generally get a thanks but i can count many time where i dont get a response but it just makes you think these people will one day have another generation and will it carry on...Well atleast i know i always say it!! You have a good day too and thanks..x
@marciascott (25554)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Younger people just don't be thinking, maybe the person might of had something on there mind. that happens some times. Young people have a habit o doing this.
31 Mar 08
To be honest everyone has things on there mind but there is no excuse for bad manners i honestly believe that.....i think youngers are only this way if they havent been taught manners!!
• Bahamas
1 Apr 08
Thank you yasmin for starting this discussion. I was taught by both my parents that manners and respect take you through the world. Words like thank you, please, yes sir/ma'am,excuse me and sorry are words that make a difference.And unfortunitly not only youngsters have problems with manners. It's as if good manners are becoming extinct. I say put it on the endangered list lets bring it back.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I have low tolerance for it myself..and actually so do my kids! Being Canadian its common to say please, thank you, have a nice day etc etc, hold doors and so on...and I've raised my kids to be that way too and they are amazing with it but since moving here to NY i noticed (and my husband is noticing it too since moving back here) that its NOT common in fact just the opposite and the LOOKS we sometimes get just blows my mind!! For example here is my 12 yr old or my 14 yr old holding the door for someone lets say my age (37) and its bad enough they dont say thank you but on top of it they give my kids a NASTY look!!! MIND YOU the ELDERS ALWAYS comment on it saying things like "oh thats so nice..children just dont do that anymore" and of course thank the kids....I noticed over here you can't even smile and say good morning to a stranger without getting a dirty look more often than not...Its crazy
• United States
1 Apr 08
It does happen a lot. I can't tell you how many times I've held doors open for people and they don't bother to say thanks. The one that gets to me the most though is when I'm driving. If I'm nice enough to let you merge into traffic, I'm going to expect some kind of wave, because we all know you didn't HAVE to let them over. Sometimes I just feel that manners aren't existing anymore in people.
@ladysakurax (1163)
• Canada
1 Apr 08
I know how you feel. I wonder what is wrong with those people. If the parents don't teach this to their children, school should do this. My mom have taught me to be grateful when someone helped us. There is nothing to be lazy or having as an excuse that you in a bad mood or bad day. It doesn't even take 5 seconds of your life to say 2 words: THANK YOU. It just takes one second only!! I am glad you have post in this topic. I hope people who don't say thx will read this and will change a bit. have a good day :)
@jmr201 (183)
• United States
1 Apr 08
You are so right. Peaople nowadays are just so rude they think they own the freakin world or something they expet you to move out their way while they are being snoty with you and dont say thank you when im pritty sure they expect others to b polite with them. I have 2 kids a 1 yr old and a new born when i go to the doctors office people be standing at the door when i say excuse me they make a face like oh brother.
@mariah_5 (97)
1 Apr 08
[b][/b] I think it's quite natural these days,to behave in an ill-mannered way.But I don't agree with the whole blame thrown on younger one's.Ofcourse,there is no doubt that the younger generation is tumling down in maintaining human relationships, in discharing social duties and it has become a trend to be rude, hard and tough.But we cannot ignore much older generation, who I think are no better, in being courtious.Infact, I found out that most of these so called wise people, who tend to give long lectures on what's right and not, themselves don't follow, when their turn comes. I think it's all in one's upbringing, and social conditions in which they live. But I don't really wait for any response from the other side.I do it as my duty, expecting the least from the other side.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
I agree! There are those people who dont seem to appreciate any of the simple gestures shown to them i hate to have encounter with such rude people. I mostly see this common in some older people. they are always like that, well at least most of my experiences, like when i stand up and offer my seat, or if if i let them go ahead of me in the line, or if i assist them in picking up things they have dropped... i wonder if they think that it is our responsibility to actually do things for them.. it gets irritating.. no wonder, my brother said, no one offers their seat anymore cause some don't even say thank you or at least give you a bit of a smile!!!
@subha12 (18453)
• India
1 Apr 08
i think its still there with few people. i am not saying i am perfect one. but i very often use these words. i think its polite way of communicating.
• United States
1 Apr 08
I feel the same way. Oh whats wrong with saying Hello, Hi, when walking into someones else house!! I can't stand that. We were raised to so respect to other you better say hello hi cat dog or something when in entered into someone else home or just in there presents. Oh & let them here us NOT say Thank You, Your Welcome, Please anything to that nature when that is required of you(boy that was your head)But now days its like a crime if you utter these(those) words out of your mouth. I'm old school let me catch my kids any of them disrespecting anyone that is their butts. Model as long as you have respect for yourself and others you'll go faurther in life. I branded that in my kids and myself. PS oh and you better not shake your head or say yea instead of yes or no boy. I hope one day these words will raise again. And I'm making sure I start with my kids first. Thank you for letting me reply to this discussion.
@toosh21 (800)
• Australia
1 Apr 08
Oh I know exactly what you mean! It's disgusting! My 2 boys are taught to be polite & say please & thankyou or they don't get anything. My oldest is 2 1/2 & even asks "can I please leave the table" after a meal before he takes off - a lot of people are surprised at how polite they both are & think I may be a little too strict but I believe good manners are very important!