when people close to you shouts at you....

United States
April 3, 2008 2:10pm CST
how do you react and handle it? I really dont like to be shouted and there are cases maybe that I irritate them or I just dont understand when they are explaining something but shouting isnt the solution for me to get it! Well..just want to know about your view about this!
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11 responses
@minnie_98214 (10572)
• United States
3 Apr 08
Im a pretty girl I just cry. Just kidding but i am sensitive to yelling. I usually will just tell the person to find me when they have calmed its wasted time to deal with a yelling person.
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• United States
3 Apr 08
I also ended up crying here i was thinking Im the only one who is emotional and sensitive but there are cases that I will also shout back!
• India
4 Apr 08
same here even iam sensitive and emotional. my previous boss use to specially take care before talking to me. Even my close friend know how sensitive iam. But now i have lots of control on it. Now i dont dry often. : )
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• United States
5 Apr 08
At least its wonderful to know Im not alone!lol
@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
its ok its part of you closeness to each other you cant do it to others that you dont know right so i know its part of loving loving ehehehe... dont you like that loving loving uuuuyyyyyyy.....
• United States
5 Apr 08
loving? in what sense when someone will shout at you become loving? are you like that in your gf carinio98? lol hope not!
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• United States
15 Apr 08
of course I do! anyway, I got your point but shouting for me is not the best way to show your love carinio! hahhaha...its just very unsweet!
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@carinio98 (2935)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
lol... coz im not your husband why should you care for me if i shouted you?... if i wear your husband aaahhhmmmm dont know lol....
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
5 Apr 08
well fortunately it never happened to me but if it did happen i will just stay quiet and if possible , will leave the place i will not shout back relations are more important and i do want to save them May be in future can discuss it What u think Take care
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• United States
5 Apr 08
I admire your patience in handling it..Im just very aggressive maybe. since I usually shout back or just cry!
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
7 Apr 08
well some one has to be
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
i just feel humiliated. and stay silent. but usually my classmate, he feels so superior to as. and i want to erase his face out of this world. he thinks that he is the most coolest guy in our class, but the truth is he's just so desperate to catch girl's attention.
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• United States
5 Apr 08
lol..that suck! he needs to be slap so he will wake up..joke
@AmbiePam (50378)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Sometimes my silence wears on them worse than if I shouted at them in return. Other times I happen to think of a great comeback that I calmly deliver that really hits them right on. And yeah, on occasion I have shouted back.
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• United States
5 Apr 08
same here...thanks!
@gemini_rose (16194)
4 Apr 08
I do not like being shouted at either, I never have, as a child I think the worst thing you could do is shout at me. It just makes me really sad to be shouted at and I will sulk about it for ages. Sometimes there is just no need to shout, and I sometimes get cross at my hubby as he sometimes shouts at the kids for no reason, and I say to him you will not achieve anything by shouting at them for nothing, they will just lose respect for you in the end.
• United States
5 Apr 08
exactly right....I thought its part of the culture here that one has to raise the voice at least now I know..thanks!
@vera5d (4006)
• United States
4 Apr 08
i always ignore it...i hate being shouted at too but i've found it does little good to shout back...sometimes i will try to see what i can do to help them or something to make them stop shouting... other times i think to myself things that aren't very nice about that person, lol.
• United States
5 Apr 08
true, in my case also I tend to shout back to release my bad feelings towards it!
• United States
4 Apr 08
I remember it happened to me too. Once I was asked to speak in about a certain topic to a group of teenagers. And you know, giving talks to them really has to a little invotive or they'll put what you say in their ear's trashbins (know what I'm saying? lol) Anyway, I tried to be as passionate and lively as I could, leaving me tired and really thirsty after almost three hours of talking. Not to mention it was a bit warm in the room. So I went to a nearby cafeteria (since the venue of the talk was at a school, a Catholic school in particular) and saw a jug of water by the side. You can bet it looked like an oasis in the middle of a desert. Then I figured there was not a glass avaiable for drinking. So I got to the kitchen area and politely asked an middle-aged-beginning-to-be-gradma lady, "Ammm, excuse me, I just would like to borrow a driking glass. I'm really thirsty..." And before I can even finish what I was saying, she yelled at me and said, "YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO BE HERE. THERE IS NO GLASS." And I was like, 2 to 3 feet away from her. I was red mad when I left that cafeteria, went out of the school premises and bought myself a cold Coca-Cola and a donut eclair. I was trying to cool myself down because I did not spat back at the lady. And then came back, poised relatively, ready to begin my afternoon talk. But yes, I think I handled myself. I was polite to leave silently, sans any grudging, and was able to regain my proper comportment to start my thing as if nothing happened. I mean, I could have asked her to tone down. I could have yelled myself. But I did not. It broke me, I should have gotten back. But what is nice, when I look back at what happened, is that I accepted the humiliation, and do something appropriate after I was already pacified: I REPORTED THAT OLD GRANNY TO THE SCHOOL ADMINISTRATOR. They told me it has been handled. They told me that had the lady known that I was the speaker invited in the school she would have treated me more nice. Beyond my point. lol
• United States
5 Apr 08
wow...thats also hard since we have to consider their age sometimes before talking back to them!lol I adore your patience..lol
@Hatley (164450)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Apr 08
When somebody shouts at me I get really bothered and will often just run from the shouter unless I know him or her andif I know them I just might go up to them and say I am not deaf if you want to talk to me youlower your voice or I am out of here. i may get fired but I hate shouters and think its very rude. I do not shout at others and do not want to be shouted at either.
• United States
3 Apr 08
thats me too Hatley..I am relieved I thought im just too sensitive and overreacted when it comes to this!
@rhane7315 (5673)
• Philippines
19 Apr 08
i also don't want to be shouted whenever i misunderstands them or something. they know that i don't like it that way so if sometimes i misunderstood them they just talk to me calmly lol
• United States
19 Apr 08
'Yea..It's a common feeling here, I was thinking I was just too sensitive, great to know I'm not the only one who doesn't like to be shouted!
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
It depends on how that people will do his way on shouting. Some do it as a joke and some really mad. But when my moms shout on me but she didn't notice that she was already shouting, i really walk out and go to my room and just cry. I don't want my mom to be mad at me or even so, she is not shouting.She has a different way showing that she doesn't like what i did. But when other people will shout i just answer, hey slow down your voice i can hear you or i hold my ear and said ouch, that was too loud.
• United States
15 Apr 08
thats true, I agree with you, when someone closed to us shout, I will also walk out and cry but when its just friend or acquiantances, I will also shout back!but, I have tried also to shout back to my husband when I feel like he has no reason to shout at all!