Energy Vampires - Do you believe that certain people can drain you?

@ellie333 (21030)
April 4, 2008 4:56pm CST
I know I am physically well as I have had a recent MOT. I have been known to have anemia in the past but fine at the moment. I am usually quite lively but for some reason this week I feel totally drained. I actually feel worse when I am around a particular person, its not their mood that affects but I feel as if they are drawing my energy some how and I can't avoid them as they are a close neighbour who also helps with childcare etc. but within minutes of being around them I feel tired. I probably sound crazy, I know I am tired so will post and go to bed and answer each response when I wake. So do you think people can drain your energy in this way or places even? Or do you think I probably just need a good rest LOL? Please share. Ellie :D
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4 Apr 08
i work with such a person and they are so negative! i hate negativity at work as it can be hard enough to get through the day. then you go on a downer and your heart sinks as soon as you see them as you know what is coming! lol! do not worry, carry a tazer!
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
LOL and zap them with the tazer before they zap me of my energy, like that idea. I am lucky I don't work around anyone like like which is a good thing, this one person is hard enough to deal with. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
• United States
26 Dec 08
Hello, I feel better now. Knowing I am not the only person with this issue. The sad part is, it's my sister who drains me and her daughter seems to drain my daughter. The two them together at once can be a bit much. Just talking to her at times sucks all the energy out of me.
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@ellie333 (21030)
26 Dec 08
Hi Jenny that must be so difficult whenit is a family member as you can't just avoid this person as I suppose I am able to eh! I hope some of the advice I have received has indeedd helped you with this issue. Huggles. Ellie :D
@tessah (6650)
• United States
4 Apr 08
as crazy as you may htink you are.. yer not. this occurs more often than most realize, or will acknowledge. there are alot of people that can make you feel drained just by their attitudes and negative behaviors.. so that you feel exhausted by just simply talking to them for a little while. but there are, in some instances, people that will purposefully suck the life out of you.. quite literally. known more widely as "psy-vamps" (there are actual websites that school people in doing this if you can beleive that chit) they can make you feel very tired.. even confused and scattered thoughts.. it can even cause physical illnesses ie headaches, nausea, dizziness, and even sometimes much much worse. there are things that you can do to protect yourself, your aura, and your "life-force" and theyre rather simpley done, but semi detailed, and too much for a post. if yore interested in learning, please feel free to private message me, id be more than happy to help.
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Thank you so much for your input and advice. I have felt all of these things around them, but the really strange thing is that after posting this I did go to bed but before that asked to be given extra strength and energy and guess what upon waking this morning I learnt they they had gone away until Wednesday and then I am off for a few days myself so I have been given the chance to recharge and learn how to deal with this. I will request as a friend so that I can PM you as I feel I need some extra help. Ellie :D
@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
5 Apr 08
"it can even cause physical illnesses ie headaches, nausea, dizziness" yep...and its a nasty feeling if you dont get a handle on it pretty quick..It WILL linger not just in you but in your surrroundings as well if the draining person has been in your home for example...
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@jillhill (37358)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Yes there are those who suck the life right out of you! I have a daughter that way (I love her dearly but she is needy) and a couple of friends that way. They really only come around when they need something and that usually is something that demands alot of my time and energy! So I really know what you are talking about! Hope you get rested up!!!
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Thanks Jill, after posting this discussion went straight to bed but upon waking I discovered that they have gone away until Wednesday so I am really being given a chance to recharge eh! Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@jillhill (37358)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Good...you'll have to take advantage of your time without them! LOL...
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@emeraldisle (13160)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Yes I do believe in this sort of person. They just seem to drain you physically and emotionally. I don't know how it happens or anything like that but there are some i have been around that when I leave them I wonder what happened. I just feel as if I've gone a week without sleep, that I was hit by a truck and just weary all the way around.
@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Wow the desciption you give about feeling like you haven't had sleep for a week is spot on. I also tend to get a headache too with it. It seems like I am not the only one to experience this. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
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@emeraldisle (13160)
• United States
7 Apr 08
You are definitely not alone in this. I agree I too end up with a headache but I get those a lot anyways so can't say for sure if it's from that or not. I hope you don't have to be around the person very often.
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@p1kef1sh (45648)
4 Apr 08
I don't know whether individuals do drain you. There are those that always have something to moan about, and those that you just can't escape from - like me!@! But I am off to bed too. See you tomorrow, sleep well.
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Morning, I have managed to escape them for a few days learnt this morning they have gone away until Wednesday. Will give me time to recharge and then I be away myself the following week, they just seem to wear me down within minutes whenever I am around them, its not like the conversaion is boring or anything and they are not a moaner either, I'll just spend limited time near them in future I think. Ellie :D
@p1kef1sh (45648)
5 Apr 08
Good Morning Ellie. Don't you just love it when you hear that someone that makes you a bit grumpy is going to be out of your life for a while. Like being told the boss is having an unexpected day off. Qualifying today. Whooo.
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@winterose (39916)
• Canada
6 Apr 08
no I don't believe in energy vampires, that is giving power to an outside source, you are in control of your body, it is mind over matter as they say. Don't even begin to think that this person is drawing your energy every time you are around them think that you have more and more energy,
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@ellie333 (21030)
6 Apr 08
Thank you for some sound practical advice Winterose. I will rise my energies levels in my mind. Ellie :D
@olivemai (4739)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I think this happens when we are around negative people! If this person is not negative, then I am not sure why it is happening! Does she touch you? Or are you picking up bad vibes? Does she talk about things that get you upset, or are you hiding your anger from her?
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@ellie333 (21030)
6 Apr 08
Good point I could be hiding anger as their mother is a very nasty woman who physically hurt mum son but fortunately she lives a couple of hundred miles away and they organise her to visit on times they not babysitting my son. I went ballistic at the time and they said that she was old and that was her way. Perhaps I'm still harbouring some. Good point Olivemai. No on the other things you mention other than theri car I will not allow myself or son in the car I have a bad feeling about it and the weird thing is last week a tree hit it smashing the screen and they said you were right about the car. Ellie :D
@gemini_rose (16208)
5 Apr 08
I think this is perhaps true, I have known many people in my life time that have drained me when I have spent time with them! But I do think it is also possible that you are tired too, so hope you get a good nights sleep and feel a lot better when you wake up.
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
A combination of both maybe, but being around this particular person even if I am full of enegry and not tire I will start to tire after a few minutes. I did sleep well thank you and learnt this morning they have gone away for a few days so I will have time to recharge eh! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this one. Ellie :D
@Ravenladyj (22994)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Absolutely and I've known a few Psych Vamps over the yrs...One person I use to have in my life was SO bad for it that whenever she came to visit our hosue for the weekend I would have to smudge and cleanse after she left..Sometimes at the request of my husband actually who really isnt into that sort of thing... If its a specific person who makes you feel this way then I would lean towards him/her being the cause of your drained feeling rather than just needing a good nights sleep (of course if you are in need of one that would/will jsut enhance the draining from this person)...Best way to handle it for me was to charge myself and do visualization type things before having to see someone like that and while I'm with them as well...Its never completely STOPPED it from happening but it definately minimized it all which is better than nothing IMO..
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Hi Ravenladyj, Thank you for sharing I really appreciate it and even though I have heard of smuding not sure exactly what it is but after posting this discussion I asked for extra strength and energy and went to sleep. This morning the strange thing was I found out that this person had gone away for a few days so I have chance to recharge and the first thing I done was have a salt bath to cleanse and now I'm having a cleaning frenzy around the house so maybe I am doing this naturally by getting rid of their negative energy I don't know. Feel much better today anyway for wahtever the reason. I get tired immediately I around them no matter how up and lively I am at the time. Weird. Ellie :D
5 Apr 08
Yes i feel certain people can have a negative ora on you..this universe is all about energy..positive and negative energy...So it depends on the vibes you get from a person
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Wow bajaj_akshay333 I'm Ellie333. Like that. Well I found out this morning this person has gone away for a few days so I will get chance to recharge and upon their return will try not to spend too much time around them. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D
@sanell (2116)
• United States
5 Apr 08
yes I do think there are people out there that are that way. There also could be something like a chemical or something that she carries or he carries on her, or is on her home, in her home or what have you that may be causing you to lose this energy or feel tired. IT is cool that you are feeling better but yes I think you need to figure out what it is that may be causing you to feel tired just from your neighbor.
@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing. I very rarely enter their her actually as it makes me feel uncomfortable they tend to visit here or I see them out. I will have the occasional cup of tea there thoug. I selpt well and upon waking discovered they have gone away for a few days so I will now have time to recharge and get some energy back. Ellie :D
@polachicago (19143)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Oh, yes. I do believe that some people can drain you energy. The are many forms of being a vampire. Some people can talk without letting you speak, and it is one of the forms. Next form is someone who is the blamer, always finding other people responsible. Some people are always "the victims" and world is acting against them. Some people have tendency to talk about sickness over and over again. I know one lady who is always talking about her depression that was taking place 25 years ago. Any time I see her, she starts the story like new story to talk about. No matter what the reason, I am separating myself from energy vampires to stay positive and healthy. HUGS
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing. I believe this person has the 'poor me' scenario but usually their conversation is okay and they are friendly enough but I just feel so tired after only being minutes around them. Learnt today though that they have gone away until Wednesday and I'm away the following week so I will get the cahnce to recharge. Ellie :D
@raydene (9875)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Yes Sweets some people do drain you... It's not what they say or do but an attitude.. A rolled eye.. a shrug... a sigh.... a glance.... nothing you can explain but you can feel. You need a vacation from your neighbor! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Hi Raydene, After posting this discussion last night I asked for extra stength and energy and guess what, how weird is this just like you suggested I have been given that vacation, I heard they have gone away until Wednesday and then I go away myself the following week. Time for me to recharge eh! Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
• United States
4 Apr 08
I know exactly what you're talking about. It's not about how they act or what they say, right? It's just a physical sensation of energy drain. Yes, I do believe it exists because I believe I have that ability. I can control it and I don't do it as often as I did when I was younger. but some people don't know how to control it and can have a tendency of unknowingly drawing from a high-energy person when they're around them.
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
100% spot on as their conversation isn't boring they are a nice person but it is almost immediately I feel tired whenever I am around them. Thanks for sharing. Ellie :D
@dixie1 (1330)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Yes, absolutely, other people can drain you physically, mentally and even spiritual at times. In my life time, I have been friends with 1-2 such persons. If you stop and listen closely to what they are saying you might notice that they are negative, depressed, sarcastic and the main focus of the conversation is about them always....even if u try change the subject, the person goes right back to it later. Your situation is not an easy one if they are a neighbor. I no longer put myself in a position to be with the person that did that with me. I rarely see that person. You could just sit down and talk to her or him and explain how u feel. You might also, want to try and understand why you feel this person effects you. It really is not worth being around a person that bugs you that much. Best Wishes
@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Morning, I slept well and woke up to be told they had gone away unexpectedly until Wednesday so I am being given a break from it. Wow, timing. I asked for extra srength and energy and seems it has happened. I will try to spend less time but it is difficult as I babysit their child and they mine whilst I work, but I think instead a stopping for a cuppa I'll just leave it like I'm running late, drop my son and go again initally. Bit more difficult when I look after theirs but will work something out. Thank you for sharing. Ellie :D
@jhl930 (3607)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I know exactly what you are talking about I mean I can be on top of hte world and have a lot of energy and then all of a sudden you get around certain people and you feel like you are just so tired and you just want to go to bed and sleep for awhile...so I do know what you are talkign about and you aren't crazy lol I figure that I just spend as least time around them as i can and then everything will be ok.... JHL930
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@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Hi Thanks for sharing, I was beginning to wonder if it was in my mind but around this person literally within the first couple of minutes around them I start getting tired and its not because their conversation is boring or anything even though they do seem to have the poor me scenario a lot of the time. Strange thing though since posting this discussion I have heard they are away for four times so plenty of time for me to recharge eh! Then I am away too so if it happens when I next see them I'll know for sure eh! Ellie :D
• China
5 Apr 08
Oh,it sounds strange,or mazing. Just like some scene in movies. I don't know the feeling like that. But i think it is possible.Something we cannot explain in science is always around us. Your neighbor maybe someone who has strange power in heroes.
@ellie333 (21030)
5 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I don't think they are like the people in Heroes, have seen it a couple of times but they do seem to drain me of my energy when I am around them. Ellie :D