8 Apr 08
i've said for me :D it's just an opinion ! He asked if he have to tell to his parents who'll never understood. Nt all people are with same mind on this argument, i think his parents are against this , if not he hadn't to ask us if he can .... so i think he had to hide ! Simple , only logic not a position against gays !
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Apr 08
According to your profile, you are 18. I don't know how customs in your country deal with age, or when you are considered an adult, but I would see you as being an adult. As such, you don't really have to tell your parents unless you just want to for some reason. Have your parents voiced any opinions about homosexuality in the past? Have you heard them saying it is wrong? If so, then I can see how coming out would be a dangerous situation for you. If you still live with your parents and depend on them, you might want to think about waiting until you are more independent to tell them, so you don't find yourself homeless or something if they have a bad reaction. I think, if I were in the situation of deciding to tell my parents I was gay, I would try to do it as straightforwardly as possible. But be prepared for a bad reaction if it happens. My father is gay, and after hiding in the closet for many years, finally came out when I was in junior high or so. He had been hiding to the point that he was actually married twice, and when he finally did come out, it destroyed his relationship with my grandmother, who is very intolerant of homosexuality. The great thing is, they've actually made up now, but it took my father having a stroke and my grandmother realizing how much that affected her to bring them back together. I've had some issues in my family over my bisexuality as well, but because there was also abuse in my family, I wound up just moving far enough away that I don't really have to deal with them.