Do you feel guilty when you complain about your lot in life?

United States
April 9, 2008 8:39am CST
Do you ever hear yourself complaining about your lot in life and feel guilty about it? Yesterday, I was complaining about the long day for which I was scheduled. I had to work from 8:30 in the morning until 9p. It turned out that the manager of my department had to work those hours also, but he had to do so with his father dying in the hospital. Can you imagine? And here I thought I had it bad. As soon as the words left my mouth, I realized I really didn't have it that bad, after all my father wasn't laying in the hospital about to pass. Other times I have complained and realized the person standing next to me, had it alot worse and I wished I had never uttered the words that I did. I hate feeling stupid like that.
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15 responses
@winterose (39916)
• Canada
10 Apr 08
since I am a therapist no, because we all have feelings to say my feelings are not important because somebody else has it worse, is saying I am not important and you know what everyone is important, own your feelings they belong to you, just because you feeling you had a bad day and are exhausted does take away from the fact that somebody else father is dying, actually they are totally different situations, not even on the same level no person is going to be happy 24 hours a day every day of their life even if they tell you they are, some tell you that just to sell books, others tell you that because they just don't want people to know when something is bothering them, so be careful of that own your feelings or you get sick, but then move on, look for the brighter things in life and you will feel better
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
I really do. Before, I always think of problems and negative stuffs that's why I never feel satisfied leaving me frustrated the whole time. Now, instead of complaining, it's better to express your gratitude for the things that are happening. I always look up to them as mere challenges that will soon make me stronger and a better individual.
@ryzach (1546)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I find myself complaining sometimes about different things in my life and then start feeling guilty because I know my situation is minor compared to many other people. I have a job, a family, a home, our good health, not alot of money but we cover our needs and get a few pleasures as well. There is nothing wrong with wanting more or wanting change but we must all be grateful for the things we do have and realize what we have.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
10 Apr 08
yup, i do sometimes but in the end when i realize that im wrong i feel guilty. because it will not easy to judge or complain to the people r to GOD.
@sprout (135)
• China
10 Apr 08
Don't worry.I think it's just a human nature.So sometimes the best method to console somebody is presenting that you are much worse than him:)
@YangJoey (37)
• China
10 Apr 08
Life is alway unfairv . of course someone get all the things worse than us or better than us.So do not be so pessimistic and vain.Just be yourself
@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
9 Apr 08
Wow Katherine, you are working some long hours. I know how you feel and have been in that situation as well, feeling silly for complaining when I know the guy next to me has it so much worse. Hard to be humble that's for sure. Sometimes it is good to get those little reminders so we remember how good we truely do have it.
@lishiwei (1553)
• China
9 Apr 08
Yes,I also always complain too.I think there is nothing wrong to do it though there is no help for our work.But it may be make us have a better feeling. But I think we still should do our best to do the work though we complain it because no matter what we do,we have to do the work.So why don't we do it well?
@Shaun72 (15968)
• Palatka, Florida
9 Apr 08
I have complained a few times myself and have felt bad about it later also. When I have had to work from 9 am to 10 pm before at Walmart because someone called in. I was really tired but I made it and place my check was better when it was pay time.
@Elixiress (3893)
9 Apr 08
No I don't feel guilty. If I am complaining it is usually because something bad has happened and I want to get it off my chest, therefore I am focused on me and only me. Yeah worse things are happening to others, but should I put their load on my shoulders as well as my own, or lighten my load by getting my problem off my shoulder? I go with lightening my load.
@gemini_rose (16194)
9 Apr 08
I am always complaining about my life and how unfair it all is, and then you always read or hear about someone elses life and what they have been through or are going through and then it makes you feel so bad! That was a long days work you had there though, I bet you were shattered by the time you got home!
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
Well, that's okay. At least you now feel a sense of remorse and you reflect about what you did. That means extra care next in the future. Just charge it to experience.
@ellie26 (4128)
• Malaysia
9 Apr 08
Well, I have many times complain about my ever problematic life, money problems and marital problems to one of my best friend. All the time I was complaining and sharing to her, she seems to understand it all. Then one day a friend of her told me that she was in the midst of divorcing her husband, unemployed and have borrowed some money from her friends because she was having deep financial problems. I was shocked and feel very guilty. My problems were much lesser as compared to her. Poor her, she has to endure hours of listening to my complains and yet she didn't even say a word about her gigantic problems. Sometimes, it is better just to stop complaining about life. There are other much more important thing to do than complaining.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I hate feeling like that especially when you're telling someone how miserable you feel and then to hear about what they are going through, just makes me feel silly too. It happens here in mylot with me some times.
9 Apr 08
I must admit i have had it pretty hard so far all thru my life but i always look on the bright side, i have to because like you say there is always some1 worse off than you and i am totally greatfull for the wonderfull things that i now have, i have 2 beautifull children a good job, nice home and i cant complain at all xxx