The four C's of a healthy relationship tell me if you agree
By foundmyangel
@foundmyangel (607)
United States
April 12, 2008 2:02am CST
I have a saying for the basis of a great relationship I call it the four C's.It starts from the moment when you meet your partner.The first is compassion. The first thing happens is whatever got your attention to that person whether it be a look a sense or just physical you go through compassion. if the relationship grows beyond that you come to commitment. this is the part where you have found that you are becoming a couple. Now you commit to each other in a more serious manner. Next is compromise. After you have made a commitment to each other you have to meet in the middle so you compromise to give to each other and not make the relationship one sided.This will allow each of you to be more comfortable around the other. The last is the most important of all... conversation. Without this you can not have any of the rest and without and of the rest you will find that the conversation will not come to where you can talk about anything and everything with each from the darkest secrets to the most intimate feelings. Until you can achieve all four your relationship is not complete. if you agree or disagree on this i would like to hear about it
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@FrangipaniLady07 (22)
• Malaysia
12 Apr 08
I agree as well. My marriage just gets better and better as the years go by.
Our conversation/verbal communication is better than ever compared to our first 3 years of marriage-adjustment period...lol..Hubby and I were pretty hot tempered, hard headed individuals but that has changed tremendously.
We agree to disagree and respect each other's opinions, no matter how different.
Kids help alot when it comes to improving our patience...
Compromising, compassion, communication are major key factors in a good relationship.
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@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
12 Apr 08
it is great to hear other people talk about there relationship in a good way. todays relationships dont have the same meaning as it did years ago and it is harder for couples to last. My first marriage lasted for 15 years because I was old fashion and believed that you are married and you stayed married. We had no conversation except for this bill is due and things of that nature.I stayed in it for my kids not for me. My wife now is the best thing that has ever happened to me.we have the perfect relationship. tell each other anything and everything no secrets
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@Elixiress (3878)
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12 Apr 08
I would say that conversation becomes before everything else, because even before compassion, you need to converse. If you can't converse then the relationship is not going to even get to compassion.
@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
13 Apr 08
that is true i only put conversation last because it is the most important part of the whole pathway. it being the last thing you see is easier to remember that way.
@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
14 Apr 08
its like impulse buying when you go to a store they put quick grab items at the register to remind you of the cheap things that you can just through up there to get for your kids whether it be candy or whatever it may be.... Darn I just gave away my money making scheme on here didn't I LOL.... try it it works on every day living as well.
@Elixiress (3878)
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13 Apr 08
That is a good technique to put the most important thing at the end, so that the reader remembers it.
@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Yes it does and you always have to be truthful with yourself first. If you have doubts about the relationship you need to think it all the way through kinda like looking into the future to see where it will lead you. But the four C's is a perfect guideline to get you on the right path... Look for my book one day you will see it published. it will have many different ways to compare everyday problems with easy to understand examples of how to and what not to do.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Apr 08
foundmyangel that is indeed the basis for a great marriage as without compassion to start with then committment to a marriage then compromise for the bumps of life and indeed conversation conversation is so important and so many people tend to err in this. talking things out firms up a marriage and means you trust each other and can disagree without causing a rift in your marriage.
@foundmyangel (607)
• United States
12 Apr 08
so true this is just one of the pathways to a happy marriage. the rest is up to the individual.remember its what you can put up with rather than what you will put up with. You have two minds thinking all the time and its hard to be on the same page always. if you give dont expect a return because if you are expecting it then you will receive it in false pretenses. Meaning it wasn't giving to from the heart. Many times we take the little things for granted. I have learned that the little things is always the problem, they only grow bigger if you dont deal with them at first.
