Have you ever cried so hard out of the blue?
By jessa
@jesbellaine (4139)
Philippines
April 12, 2008 5:01pm CST
Yesterday, my boyfriend and I went to meet her mom's friend from Saudi. He was here to interview some people that want to work in Saudi...
My boyfriend got interviewed as well and he passed. I am really happy for him. We talked about me getting there once his work is stable. I am really fine with this! Really!
Here is the thing:I was sitting and waiting for my boyfriend when suddenly reality strikes me like I won't be seeing him for 2 to 5 years, for those yearning years, he will not be by myself and thought of he might find someone near him...
When we were about to eat, he asked me once again, "Honey, what do you think?", I stutter and said "If you like it then I am cool with it".
He ask me again, "Are you okay with it?"In the restaurant, I asked, "WHEN WILL YOU COME BACK AGAIN?" then then after that, OUT OF THE BLUE, Tears fell down into my eyes and I CRIED TERRIBLY AND SO HARD, I just can't stop crying that night!
I wasn't suppose to cry since am really happy for him and I know the reason why he want to get there is for him to save money for both of us in the future.
My heart become so sad that I can't think of any good reasons anymore... Boy am I terrible!?!
Did this ever happen to you when you suppose not to cry then you just cry?
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18 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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12 Apr 08
Oh that is so hard for you, it is a hard situation to be in. I went through a really hard time in life a couple of years ago, and there were many times when I was not supposed to cry but I bawled like a baby, and I am not a crier, I will do anything to avoid the crying thing, but sometimes our emotions just take us unawares and we cannot help it, or stop it. It is very strange when that happens I think. I hope it all goes ok for you I am sure it will, love always finds a way you know.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Thank you so much! It is really hard especially when I always see here and we always do the same things together. And I swear I really didn't plan or feel that I am going to cry that moment but I did!
It is really true that we really can't stop our emotions sometimes.
@tigertang (1749)
• Singapore
18 Apr 08
Hey, I think there's nothing wrong with letting your emotions go. At least you let it go rather than having it dragged out by binge drinking. I remember 10-years ago, one of my good friends was killed in a military excercise. It was shocking but I think events moved so fast that we forgot that we needed time for ourselves. It was only months after the incident when I was at a friends house - had to much to drink and the next thing I knew was I was crying uncontrollably. Not an incident I care to repeat.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
Thank you for the response and advice. I really do appreciate it!
@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
12 Apr 08
You did cry for no reason. You had a perfect reason to cry: the man that you love is leaving town (not you) for a couple of years. It's going to feel like eternity when he is gone and yes, you have every right to wonder if maybe someone else will keep your sweetie company while in Saudi. Be honest with your feelings to him. Let him know that you are very happy and proud of him but that your only human and can't help but to have some insecurities. One day while thinking of the problems me and my sweetie were going through and thinking I was losing him, I broke down and cried, and cried, and then cried some more. So your not by yourself. Just have that talk with him and have faith in your relationship and in him.
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@Linda4ualways (2282)
• United States
12 Apr 08
I'm sorry, I meant to say that you didn't cry for no reason.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
No worries. Yes, when I cried, he just hugged me so tight and told him that I am really happy but I am going to miss him so much! For Heaven's sake, that is eternity for me... years...
He do understand that. I was about to start to cry but when I looked at him, he was like close to crying too.. andthat surely made me sad that he had to leave me somehow.
thanks for the advice!
@marababe (2503)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
As in out of the blue? Yeah. I was with my friend and we were in a Clinilab having our medical examination for pre-employment when I suddenly burst into tears. I can't stop my tears from falling and my friend really got worried. My tears kept falling until we got home. I don't really know why I cried.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Correct. I wasn't suppose to cry but I cried horribly at the restaurant. I thought I was good awww... I will miss him so much!
@dolce_vita78 (8062)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Well, this happened to me several times already. But of course, there are reasons why I end up crying that much. In your case, I believe that you love your boyfriend so much and probably have spent considerable time with him. That is the reason why even if you are sincerely happy for him, you feel sad that he will be away for quite some time. However, it is really very important that you keep communication lines always open. I am sure that you will really miss each other and it would be very helpful for both of you to communicate as often as you can. Take care my friend.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
You are right. We spent so much time being together and we never really separated that long so this is a new challenge for me or so... Yes, we need to not lose communication. Thank you my dear friend!
@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
12 Apr 08
It's only natural that you would cry if you were seperated from someone you love. Even the thought of being seperated from my boyfriend for any long periods of time crushes my heart immedietly.
If you are strong, and he is strong, you can do it. Take it from me. I was in a long distance relationship for 2 1/2 years. He was/is my first boyfriend. I only ever got to see him like once every 3 months for a few hours. It was horrible. I have been living with him now for the past 3 years, and don't know what I would do if someone told me that he was going to be leaving again. I feel your pain, and am more than possitive that if you two love eachother, you can get through this!
@jenni7202 (1598)
• United States
12 Apr 08
No problem. I wish you two all the best, and have faith that you are strong enough to do it.
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Yes, hopefully we will get through this. We have never really separated for a long time so this is a "test". I admire that you two are together again after 2 1/2 years of being in a long distance relationship.
Thank you for the advice guys. Really do appreciate it.
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@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Yes it happen to me last march 26..
My boyfriend had to go to Dubai.. Actually he doesn't want to go there but he must because of his family. he wanted to stay but he can't. i'm happy for him too coz now he have his chances to work and earn for his family. i also have a plan to follow him there but im not yet sure when.
i thought it would be easy for me to take that he's leaving but when i talked to him on the phone while he is waiting for his flight i just can't stop crying. he wanted me to stop crying but i can't. i know he'll be back after a year or two. i know we'll exchange mails, text messages and calls and even see each other on YM but it's really different to be far from him.
for a week, i always cried at night. i miss his voice so much, his presence and warmth.
in time we'll see them again...
smile my friend... you're not alone.. and love will keep you and your man forever....
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@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Hi, I hope your relationship with him will be more stronger since you are miles apart. I guess I will cry too while waving goodbye when he is leaving!
I would have to believe that "If the relationship is truly yours God will make a way to make it happen no matter what" but ofcourse, we need to work on our relationship as well..
Thank you for your advice dear! At least am not the only one! Thankyou!
@maxsee212 (799)
• United States
13 Apr 08
not really... i never cried because my partner had to go to another place to earn some money. i cried so hard because i could not a toy when i was a little. i wanted a special toy when i was a little kid and i couldn't get it. they won't buy me that special toy. for me as a kid, that was very special for me. a toy is like a lover for a child and i want that toy so much that i had to cry to try to persuade my parents to buy it for me. i was throwing tantrums all day long, kicking and screaming on the floor of our house and my parents just keep ignoring me like everything is normal. maybe it was a great idea to do that to a little child but at least they could have told me the reason why they did not want me to have a toy. when i was a little kid, i used to dissemble the electric toys that i had and try to assemble them back again. maybe this is the reason why my parents did not give me another toy because they know that i am going to do that again. i hope my story relate to you. thanks for reading.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
Hi there. Yes, I can relate to it. As a kid, we really tend to do what we want and if we don't get it, we throw tantrums just to get what we really want. I do as well as a kid though not often. Thank you for sharing!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I agree..It's a risk to say Yes and to say No....Its very hard to decide if you will consider different factors you know! news that we heared, stories being shared and all! you were just doing great, its a normal reaction of someone who truly care and love! and just pray you know!
In my case, I'm a crying lady, I do cry when I'm happy , when I will be surprise, and when I am sad! hahahahhaa....
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
15 Apr 08
you got my point! but, I know you can handle that with the power of love! Just continue to communicate and sincere to each other! God will always be there for all of us, I believe!
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
That is right. Very hard to say No because I know that it will hurt them as well if we disagree but hard to say yes knowing I will miss him and will not be able to see him for years.
Thanks!
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
13 Apr 08
Yeah definetly its horrible and it takes courage to let go of some1 you love, at least for few years. But if thats what both of you want, you shud just go ahead. Time will make you better and if love stands, nothing can make it fall, not even long distance...
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Yes, that is right.
"If the relationship is for me then I know God will make a way to make it happen whatever it takes"...
Thanks gurl!
@GirlStaringAtU (24)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
when my husband and I seperated, i cried all the time, in the morning,all day, all night. i regret the times i was with him. i cried over funny movies. i cried while walking on the streets for no reason. i cried just talking about him. but i have moved on now. im wiser, more mature to understand that things happen for a reason and God's plan is better than my plans.
it's really normal to cry out of the blue, when u hear a song, or when u remember an incident. or when u realized the loss.
its' a good way to feel better and to get over it. to release the intense emotions.
just keep the communication lines open and be faithful to each other. and pray to God.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
24 Apr 08
Thank you for your reply. Yes, God has really a plan for all of us. I trust in him. Good day!
@leocatubig (409)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
If He is not for you... JUST FACE REALITY AND HOPEFULLY YOU WILL LOVE AGAIN TO ANOTHER....
YES I CRIED BUT I'M FIGHTING MYSELF TO SHOW MY TRUE FEELINGS TO THE OTHER ... THATS ME..hehehe
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Correct but HOPEFULLY, he will stay inlove with me eventhough we are far from each other. Cheers!
@rhzrhz (15)
• China
13 Apr 08
i understand you .i think you love your boyfriend so much.the imagination of girl is rich. as the old chinese saying:if the love between both sides can last for age,should they stay together day and night.so you must trust your love.nothing can destory it.
i have the same experience too.the things occurs in the evening,after dinner,my boyfriend was sitting on the bed.
he said :"a thorn gripped in my hand", i was nervous about
it.so i sat besides him and watched his hand.he side:"go away" angrily.i know he was busy his thorn with tool.he was afraid i will bring trouble to him.i was so sad my tear burst out.i cried all the night with no reason.at that time my heart was very sad too.so i think i can understand you very much.
i am a chinese girl. my english is bad,so if there is some mistaken pelease point it out to me .thank you
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
I appreciate what you have shared to me. i understand now that sometimes when we really love a person, our emotion can't really be hold... Thank you for your reply! Btw, your english is not bad, I do understand what you have said. Thanks again!
@regal_aeros (2605)
• Singapore
13 Apr 08
oh my yes.
nothing was going wrong but i just couldn't help but cry. my heart just felt so tight all of a sudden.
i think it's PMS
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
Yes, that is right. Knowing that there is nothing wrong that should be happening but then we feel so lonely and just cry! Thank you for posting here.
@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 08
It's a touching story. I agree that it would be rather sad and difficult to make the decision whether to allow our loved one to leave us for quite a considerable period. It's natural to tear when our loved one is going to leave us. Anyhow in pursue of future fortune for both, separation is inevitable. Of course I will cry if I were to face such situation like you.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Aug 08
Yes. I have doine this many times in the past and in the present. I think alot of stress and worries about life brings it all on when we get overwhelmed.
@sweetpunch (915)
• Pakistan
16 Apr 08
No infact i find strenght in my self when i leave it on God and He does it all well.my husband had to go for four weeks out of station when i gave birth to a daughter and she was just 15 days old.i really felt that i will cry a lot behind him but when the time came i was very strong and never cried. All this strenght was from God since he was going for preaching in the way of God
