Con joined Twins, should they be separated by Operation?

@winterose (39887)
Canada
April 13, 2008 12:39pm CST
sometimes twins are joined at birth sharing the same skin and can be separated and life separate lives. Of course every parent would want that. But what would happen if they were joined in such a way that they could not be separated with both of them having a chance to live? 1 - Would you as the parent still want to go through with the pregnancy. Most conjoined twins I just heard on CTV WFive, don;t survive child birth, they organs are not fully developed or they share them or they are just to small too survive. 2 - If you keep the twins would you be worried about their quality of life, always attached never living a normal life, 3 - would you be afraid of laughter, shreaking and rude remarks from neighbours and strangers. Some people call these babies freaks of nature, including some doctors who believe these babies should never be born. 4 - and finally would you opt for the operation if you knew that one child could live a normal life while the other one would die because of the separation? These are very hard questions that most parents will never ever have to face, but some parents do, what are your thoughts would would you do in all these situations. For best response please answer all the questions
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@drumbum04 (171)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
I believe that the con joined twins should be given a choice. It should be up to them if thwy want to go operation and be separated from each other. After all, it is their lives that would be greatly affected if something would be done. I think that they should have the sole right to be in control of what they want to happen.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
they are babies, and both of them will die, if you don't try to save the healthier one, there is not time for the children to grow up they never make it that far.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
13 Apr 08
well I dont see going on with the pregnace. I just dont think I would want that kind of life for any kid. No I wouldnt like them being called freaks and they operation is so chancy yup I know I would have it aborted haveing normal kids is hard enough to raise them right.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
spoken as a mother with experience under her belt.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
18 Apr 08
got that right
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
to answer your questions: 1 - Would you as the parent still want to go through with the pregnancy. Most conjoined twins I just heard on CTV WFive, don;t survive child birth, they organs are not fully developed or they share them or they are just to small too survive. - I will take the risk. God may help me and by his miracle and my faith, the babies might be born normal... 2 - If you keep the twins would you be worried about their quality of life, always attached never living a normal life, - Yes, of course i would want them to live a normal life and not be the center of mockery, etc. 3 - would you be afraid of laughter, shreaking and rude remarks from neighbours and strangers. Some people call these babies freaks of nature, including some doctors who believe these babies should never be born. - these people do not fear God. I think they do not have the right to tell me, or these kids' parents what they should or should not do.. i am not asking them money so they better shut their mouths and stop teasing these kids. they too, are people with feelings. 4 - and finally would you opt for the operation if you knew that one child could live a normal life while the other one would die because of the separation? - i guess i would have to rethink it over and over before i decide onthis. i would want them separated so they can be normal... if being together could keep them alive.. then so be it.. but if being together also poses danger to one of the twins, then i will opt for an operation to save at the very least, one baby.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
I cannot imagine how hard it is for parents to have children like this and then cruel people laughing at them. It is just terrible.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Apr 08
its really hard thing to tell. i think the parents should always consult trhe doctor. also they should enquire how much is the chance of survival. also if their life is raelly hard being joined, why not try to separate them?
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
because in the situation I mentioned they cannot be separated they only have one brain between them.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 May 08
I think conjoined twins should be separated at birth if there is a risk for both of them dying and one of them can be saved. If the twins are perfectly healthy as they are, then they should not take the chance of separation and have the possibilty of losing both lives at once. I think it should be their decision on what to do as they grow older and can possibly make that choice together.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
31 May 08
in this particular case, one will most likely die if separated, but the other one's heart has to work for both of them and she could die if it is not done.
• United States
14 Apr 08
Oh, that's tough to contemplate. It's such a complicated situation. 1. I would go through with the pregnancy, unless it was absolutely certain my twins wouldn't survive outside the womb (such as if an ultrasound showed missing/underdeveloped organs). 2. I would be worried about the quality of their life, yes. That said, I know many pairs of conjoined twins have lived happy and fulfilled, if not completely normal, lives. I would do all I could to make life good for them. 3. Yes, of course I'd be worried that people would treat them harshly or ostracize them. I'd try to raise them to have good self-esteem despite ignorant or judgmental people, but I know it'd be difficult. (And if a doctor remarked they shouldn't have been born, I'd look for a new doctor. I think that's a very unprofessional and disrespectful thing to say in any situation.) 4. That's the hardest. If it was a case where separation had to occur or both children would die, I would opt for separation because losing two children is worse than losing one. But I don't think I could ever "sacrifice" one so that the other could live normally. That's not my decision to make.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
excellent answer, for such a hard question. as a parent it would probably be the most difficult question every do answer.
@raydene (9871)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I have heard that many don't want to be if they are older...I guess if done early the kids are glad it has happened.. Familiarity breeds content! xoxoxoxoxoxo
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@rockvixen (894)
• United States
13 Apr 08
It sounds like a traumatic thing. I mean some are born and then separated, but if it was me and I knew that one would have to die but yet I'd still keep the other then I'd want at least one to have a chance to live. Not that I'd want the other to die, no one would want that, but if it causes it, I'd want to see one live. It also sounds painful. I know many parents have their kids. I saw a show once about a girl with 2 heads, and they could not remove one of the heads because it would have killed them both. Twin girls with one body. I never knew whatever happend to them. I've read about twins being conjoined at the head, or even the stomach. I think it would be sad, and knowing my family they would probably want me to get rid of them, if that were ever to happen if I ever have kids, I think I'd die of sadness.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
16 Apr 08
yes it would be a very hard decision but I would do the same thing.
16 Apr 08
If i know this during pregnancy,definitely i try to abort them.In such situations we have to think practically not emotionally.If it is mandatary to continue we give birth and groom them to face the world boldly and not feel for the things beyond our control.during seperation if only one survives, we accept the reality.
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@mnsrwt123 (2057)
• India
14 Apr 08
its really a bit difficult question for me to respond, and i am not able to respond all but i think they should have some operations to be seperated, and rest i can't say...sorry..
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14 Apr 08
yes they should be seperated by operation if not they will face many problem in future.They cann't run with speed ,they can not protect themselves when some one try to attack them ,they even can not perform many activities like swimming ,danceing ,etc.They can face problem while playing .when they grow they face difficulty in job too. So they should be separated by operation.
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@rlc456 (415)
• United States
13 Apr 08
All I have to say is God puts us all here for a reason, and I'm not going to question that.
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