my engagement

@babymar (361)
Philippines
April 15, 2008 7:35am CST
time is really running fast...my engagement day is about to come....it's on April 27, i was excited but yet i also worried...i never thought that an engagement would be that expensive....imagine? i have to buy and expensive watch for my fiance and a necklace also for him....it's a chinese tradition...i'm 75% chinese.....i don't think its really practical to have an engagement party....most people don't do it, they just get married.....
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@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
16 Apr 08
wedding - wedding picture
thats true its quite too expensive to marry someone these days...and with all the customs and traditions,it all adds up to how much money you will have to waste just for marriage.why not use the money in business so the couple can get a good start for their own family....and get a simple celebration instead.i think it is only applicable to those who can and to those who are able to shoulder the expense of an expensive marriage....
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@babymar (361)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
yes, that's right...it's applicable to those who can....but we cannot and our parents still insist....we got really a headache because of this....it's expensive and of course who don't just waste money, we also waste time....imagine? we have to prepare all these gifts and we have to order a dress from a dressmaker....
@johndur (3049)
• Pasig, Philippines
18 Apr 08
family - family picture
why do oldies have these mindset to see their son's and daughter in an elegant wedding?dont they see that its just a waste of precious time and money.what happens to couples after that?im completely against it,thats why i had my marriage in a simple and solemn as possible,and we didnt take in material gifts,we told everyone to give a gift of money so we can have a good start for our life as married couple and for our future...so far it has worked wonder for us because the money we got from our wedding was invested in a good business that until now is helping us to achieve more for the future of our kids...
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
18 Apr 08
i'm against it too...but i have no choice, our parents want it...
@youless (88904)
• Guangzhou, China
15 Apr 08
Congratulations! I am very happy for you. Well, I am also a Chinese, but I don't know we will have this tradition here China is a very big country, so it may be different in other places.
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@babymar (361)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
i'm 75% chinese but i live in the Philippines, chinese here in the Philippines have such traditions....
@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
15 Apr 08
Wow. that would tend to run into alot of money, wouldn't it? I agree with you on this. I would just have the wedding if I could not afford the gifts. I would not want to go in debt just to get married or engaged either.
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@babymar (361)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
well, for me, we don't need engagement party but our parents insist....it's really very not practical coz the gifts are really expensive...but it's a tradition and our parents wanted us to have an engagement party....
@xtinelee (3379)
• Singapore
15 Apr 08
Hmm. Yeah, I'm an asian too, but I don't think engagement parties are that big in chinese traditions. Real marriage, yes. People don't usually celebrate engagement with the rest of the relatives.
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@babymar (361)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
people don't usually celebrate engagement....it's really not practical, but our parents insist that we should celebrate it, especially my fiance's parents it's because my fiance is their eldest son that's why they want it to be special...
@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
22 Apr 08
I like the way that you have an engagement day. I have not heard of that before. I see how an engagement could be expensive if you have to buy all those gifts, I hope you get some in return! It is hard when parents have such strong views and are so heavily involved but it is a credit to you for honouring and respecting their wishes. May you and your husband to be have a long and happy life together
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
22 Apr 08
thanks.....i really hope that we could have a long and happy life together....
@4xmyworld (183)
• Malaysia
18 Apr 08
What i will respond to this can hurt so i should not. Instead wish you a happy engagement day and all the best in your future undertakings. Will talk to you further later on Forex. Take care
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
thanks friend....
@sharay (2776)
• India
18 Apr 08
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! I hope it is not compulsory that u follow ur traditions, if u can afford to spend then u can, after all it is going to be once in a lifetime function, in case u think u r going to be put under some stress monetary wise, think before making the expenditure!
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
thanks....we have already spend a lot, like what you said, it's once in a lifetime function....but i don't really think it is practical.... this sunday is already my engagement, the next thing we should prepare is for the wedding day....
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
16 Apr 08
Moderation is the key word here. As much as one does not see the significance of an engagement, I would tend to observe what the other party and party's family would favor and afford to have. It does not matter what race and / or custom you are, for love and relationship is about "we" and "us". So I'd just like to convey my heartiest congratulations here and may the both of you find the happiness and joy in each other.
@babymar (361)
• Philippines
16 Apr 08
thanks...may we really find happiness and joy with each other....