Do Mothers Still Sacrifice?

United States
April 19, 2008 9:55am CST
I'm a baby boomer, and when I was a kid I think all moms sacrificed for their kids. It was not unusual for a mother to have the same winter coat for 10-15 years, while her kids got a new one each year. It wasn't unusual for a mother to have only 3 bras that needed to be repeatedly washed. They wore their underwear until they wore out. And many had only a few pairs of shoes - something for around the house, plus a pair of dress shoes for winter and summer. When I was in the grocery store the other day, there was a young woman in front of me who was buying lots of 10 for $10 cans of spaghetti and ravioli and about 30 packages of ramen noodles. She told the check-out person, "My kids are eating cheap this week, 'cause I just got me a $40 blouse." What do you think? Is that typical of today's moms? Or do they still sacrifice for their kids?
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@mssnow (9484)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think they still sacrifce. How do you know this mom, may have not had a new blouse in years and she finally decided it was her time. I think we all need something nice once in a while. the kids dont always need everything their way. But i still think moms sacrifice a lot.
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• United States
19 Apr 08
You're right. She may not have had a new blouse in years. But I'm not sure spending $40 makes sense. Not when it means your kids get to eat canned ravioli and ramen noodles for the next week. I think moms should be able to buy for themselves sometimes. But I also know that you can find some great clothes - with tags still on them - at Goodwill and Salvation Army or other thrift stores.
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@littleone3 (2063)
19 Apr 08
Yes i think some mothers still do. I do, as i am happy to do without as long as my children have what they need. As my children always come first.
• United States
19 Apr 08
Whew. I'm glad the responses are in favor of making sure kids get what they need first. I guess I was more shaken than I realized when I hear that mom in the grocery store.
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• United States
20 Apr 08
Sadly I think there are more mom's like the the one in the supermarket. Me and Mine comes first and then everything else.But I think there are still mom's like the ones in our youth but they aren't the only type out there.
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• United States
20 Apr 08
I think you're probably right and it is sad. And if it is true, then kids are learning - both at home and at school - that what matters most is what makes me feel good, not what's good for the family or those around us.
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@leeesa (884)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think that mom you mentioned is a horrible person! I'm a single mom, so I sacrifice all the time. It's more important to me that my daughter has a good life, eats healthy and has clothes that fit than it is for me to have a new shirt! My daughter's needs always come first. That doesn't mean I don't buy things for myself, I just make sure my priorities are met first.
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• United States
19 Apr 08
I understand, leeesa. When I was a single mom, it was a struggle. I only had one son, but his needs (and sometimes wants) came before mine. He's 24 now, and thinks I did a bang-up job...'cause he never really knew how poor we were. :-)
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@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
19 Apr 08
I think that is pushing the limits. I sacrifice for my children and I'm only 22. I always buy food they like, not what I like. I buy them the new clothes while I suffer with clothes I've had since I was 17. I believe that some moms dont sacrifice anymore for their children but then you have the moms that believe nothing is more important that their children!!
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• United States
19 Apr 08
You should be proud that you put your kids first, magrylouyu. Obviously - from the woman in the check-out - not everyone feels that way.
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• Canada
19 Apr 08
i still sacrifice for my five kids. any extra money (if there is such a thing) goes to cell phones, movies, new running shoes. i stay at home for them . if i do need an bra or blouse i hop on over to giant tiger and spend very little. i like to spend a little more than others so i can cook large family meals . they love my cooking and tell me so and that make it worth all the effort and time :)
• United States
19 Apr 08
Good for you! Cooking family meals at home should save money in the long run. It also gives that special time that families used to have long ago. When they talked about their days - the good and the bad. Not enough of that takes place anymore.
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@mbs730 (2147)
• Canada
20 Apr 08
It's not so much that I sacrifice money for my kids but definitely time that I SHOULD be using for myself. It's okay for a mom to be a bit selfish from time to time. In the long run, it will make her a better mother!
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@ifnalife (323)
• Indonesia
20 Apr 08
That is an awful mom. So selfish mom. I hope her kids aren't listen beside her because they will remember it for the rest of their life! they will put her in old institution for sure in the future.
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@silkyt34 (324)
• United States
20 Apr 08
wow i still have only 3 bras that i wash repeatedly and wear my under clothes until they have to be thrown away . my youngest will be graduating next month from high school and my oldest is in her second year of college so i am sure i will still have the same 3 bras in 5 years after that tho i will go out and spend some cash on me...lol i dont regret at all spending all my money on my kids they are more important to me then i am .. but i do make sure to take a few dollars and buy myself nice smelling bubble bath or something i really want just so that i dont start resenting all the sacrifice i do make for them, now i have friends who have kids younger them mine who dont care if their kids have good clothes or plenty of food its all about them and think nothing of telling their kids no i on the other hand dont have spoiled kids but they have decent clothes and have a full belly of good home made home cooked food in their bellies every night
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@peisiyi (123)
• China
20 Apr 08
absolutely,from my point of view ,i still believe that mom naturally,care for their own children without any expectation of being returned in the future from them.it is the common phenomena for almost any mom to take the priority of thinking of them before their own demands for themselves.in their eyes,it is not socalled sacrifice ,but a unselfish love and concern with their children.
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@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
20 Apr 08
Hello, Kenzie. Times are different, and you have noticed well, that some mothers are not willing to sacrifice themselves for their children. Some mothers don't even love their children. However, I have to tell you that many mothers are caring. Many mothers LOVE their children and would do anything to keep them in a nice outfit, give them the best they can. The age is different, but the mothers are still mothers. The only mothers that won't sacrifice for their children are those who had them unplaned. They didn't expect a children at all, and this child came in the wrong time. Then, they won't move a finger for the children. However, there are cases in which the mothers love their unplaned children as much as any other mother. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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@wy2008 (185)
• China
20 Apr 08
hi kenzie , that reminds me of my mother , she is 53 years old now , because of marring at an old age , my brother and i are still students now , my mother is old , and she looks older than her real age . from the day she married my father , she sacrified herself to the whole family , as i remembered , she seldom bought new clothes , and she usually wear my old clothes she is so saving for herself but generous to my brother and i , i will try my best to give her a happy old age , and i believe i can .
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
20 Apr 08
Yeah,we knew that most of mothers has the consecration to their chilren.They afforded of scanty food to their children.And now,as the improvement of live condition,most of chidren has enough food and dressings.Today,the parents offer them good education,and hope them to get good store.But,I don't agree on what they do for the children,they pay less attantion to their thougthes.So,I don't think the mothers still Sacrifice.
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• United States
20 Apr 08
i know that my mother sacrificed a lot for me and my sister when we were growing up. she had to go with out alot b/c of me and my sister. and i have to admit that i do have thoses same qualities that she had. i willgo without alot of things for myself just so that my kids have food and shelter and clothes.if i need a new shirt or my hubby needs a new shirt or one of the boys needs something i will get it for them and not me. i feel like they should have the thing that they need befor i do. and yes my hubby gets upset with me.
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@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
20 Apr 08
Well, my mother does a lot of sacrificing when it comes to that. I think it is an inherent character to being a mom to insure and perhaps gives up what they want and give more for their child or children. Once a person becomes a mother, her happiness is the happiness of her child. Thus, it doesn't really matter if she only has 1 pair of shoe or an old coat for as long as her children are at their best.