my brother's trying to kill me .

@rhane7315 (5649)
Philippines
April 25, 2008 5:56am CST
this was really getting on my nerves. my brother and his gf loves to smoke. in fact, they can always consume about 2-3 packs of cigarettes a day. they even loves to smoke inside our house and even in his bedroom. i can smell the smoke of their cigarettes because his bedroom has no door in it. my mother and i always told him that whenever they smoke, they should do that outside the house because i have an allergic rhinitis. he just said ok but he still always smokes inside the house. what the heck, is he trying to kill me or what? then last week my mother went to our rest house and as usual my brother and his gf smokes everywhere inside the house...in his bedroom, in the bathroom, living room, everywhere! is that what you call an educated person? then when he and his gf quarreled at about 1-3am, it's not a typo lol they really quarreled that time. they were shouting at each other and they don't even seem to care about the neighbors around us and we (my youngest brother, my cousin and i) also can't sleep because of their high voices, shouting at each other. most of all, they think that it is their house to do some things that they wanted to do. if i tell my eldest brother to keep quiet so that every one of us, even our neighbors could get a good sleep, he would just shout back at me and told me to be quiet if i don't want to get hurt. he just listens to himself and do all the things he wanted. is that a brother i can call? i guess not, enough is enough and i can't take it anymore .
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@Sir_bobby88 (8231)
• Singapore
25 Apr 08
So sad about that prehaps it is time for your parents to step out and say something to him yea unless your parents also doing the same thing , then what else can you do beside enduring?
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
25 Apr 08
i guess i'm gonna kill myself lol he won't even listen to our mom and our dad can't do anything about it either because he works abroad and he can only be with us once in a year
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• United States
29 Apr 08
Smoking is a big problem in the US too. Luckily my parents and brother are all 100% against smoking, except my dad smokes about 6 times a year and only at parties. Anyway I can't say I feel your pain but good luck and I know you'll make it through.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
thanks ricardosan, at least you're still lucky that your dad only smokes whenever there's an occasion
@spyjob (214)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
This brother of yours has no values (sorry if i say that), no wonder he has a girlfriend with no values too. i wonder how painful it was for your mother that he doesn't heed or make a little respect to other members of the family. You should talk to somebody older that he respect to talk to him about this and maybe enlighten him that he's "killing" his family.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
you're definitely right about that. i guess the one that he gives respects was his gf and his good for nothing friends also
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@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
2 May 08
That sounds like a somewhat dangerous situation with your brother. I'm not sure what to tell you to help out or anything I've never been in this situation. The drastic thing would be to call the cops on them if they fought at that time of night: disturbing the peace.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
3 May 08
yeah that's right. thanks for the suggestion, it would really put them to shame if i do this
• United States
28 Apr 08
You or your mother (not sure whose house it is you live in) needs to put your brother and his gf out!!! He is not respecting anyone in the house. He has to realize that he is not under his own roof, and needs to respect the others in the house, especially your mother. I wouldn't dream of smoking in the house if my grandmother was a non-smoker, and I wouldn't dare cause or participate in a loud argument with anyone late at night, especially a night when my grandmother has to go to work the next day. You (your mother) needs to sit him down one last time, and tell him what will be accepted in the household, and what won't be. If he doesn't abide by those rules, then he needs to get his own space.
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• United States
28 Apr 08
Since that is the case, unfortunately I would suggest you moving out. You can't make your mother stand up to him if she doesn't want to, and you can't put him out yourself. I was going to come back if he just isn't leaving, your mother could file eviction papers on him and have him and his gf escorted out by the police (at least that's how it works here in the States) but if she wouldn't do that, you can't do it for her. I know that it costs a lot to move out, but this is your health we are talking about. I would check in on your mother periodically, to make sure that he isn't running her over too bad, but I would definitely leave that house if I were you.
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
i would really love to do it if i have my own job. but the problem is i'm still studying. if i move out i don't think that i can pay my own tuition fees as well as paying some monthly bills i guess i'm the unluckiest person in the world
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
28 Apr 08
we both live in our parent's house cos were still studying. my father told him that he should get his own space if he doesn't follow the rules around the house. but the bad news is, our mom always tolerates him even though she knows that it's wrong. she's also afraid of our brother and that's the reason i can think of why she's always tolerating him. my brother was a goody goody when he has problems with his gf or if he needs a money. but if he doesn't need anything from our mom he's being very stubborn, and he doesn't want to listen to other people that lives in our house. and when i'm talking to him that he shouldn't do this or that, he just talks back at me by saying that i'm not his older sister so it's not my right to talk to him that way
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• India
2 May 08
i agree with you and must be painful, but please try and calm down. well all i could suggest right now is you should move out for a while. may be take up another apartment or move inwith a friend. and if you are living in your house then you would have to ask them to leave. think it will be a continuous struggle for youll to live under one roof. hope it works out for you dear
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@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
3 May 08
thanks for your suggestions dear, i appreciated it
@figjam00 (1445)
• India
1 May 08
I think your brother is addict and you should find some other way to break his habit. You and your mom should threaten him that if he ever smoke again you won't let him in the house. Why don't you complain it to your dad. Maybe he can do something about that.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
2 May 08
i wish he can do something about it. but he's in abroad right now and he just only comes home once a year because of his job's contract
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
29 Apr 08
i think your mum should be more strict and firmer with your brother and his gf... smoking in an enclosed area is really not good for health... and you are very right that he can slowly kills you... i heard that passive smokers have a higher risk of developing diseases due to inhaling the smoke... so please don't let this go on for too long anymore... say or do something... good luck and take care...
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
yeah i agree with that, thanks for the concern
@itsmepinky (1300)
• India
2 May 08
tell ur dad about it
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
29 Apr 08
what a scariest situation you have now. i am the older among all siblings but i am responsible with all my doings inside our house. i love my siblings and i don't want to be their head ache. even he is you older brother but you can tell him that they are disturbing others, if he will hurt you, you can call the police to assist you.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
29 Apr 08
i would be happy if i have a brother like you. i'm not treating him as my brother anymore from what he have done to me since when i was in high school. one of the reason that i could give to you as that he kicked me in the chest when i was 14 and still now he's treating me and my younger brother like an animal