Guy Staring = Jailtime (Or should it be "Pro told you so...")

@theprogamer (10539)
United States
April 25, 2008 8:12pm CST
Another "ugh" story but this one has a couple of extra links. Italian guy jailed and fined for staring at a woman on a train ride. http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080418/od_nm/staring_dc;_ylt=Apmcgqjkhn79t3shA6knO1Cs0NUE A few things that struck me. - How did she know there was long duration staring... if she didn't stare back - Why so long for this sham case to come full circle? - Was he REALLY staring... or was it all in her head (could have been looking at the front cabin or daydreaming but nah that couldn't be it right /sarcasm -_-) - I told people this would happen in an earlier discussion http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1346540.aspx - No violence or trespass occured but there is jail time... all on a person's word. Contrast this to a recent discussion/story I posted. 22 year old rapes a 14 year old... no jail time. Gotta love "justice". http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1492069.aspx
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@Hatley (164777)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 08
oh goodness I didn't know staring was a crime so guess I had better be more careful not to stare at anyone .lol. this sounds like a rather silly case to me. She had to have been staring back to know at all that he was staring at her. and where was he supposed look anyway? I mean some people get bent out of shape so easily. I just glanced at a teenaged girl with a multi colored stripe down the center of her head and she snapped, whats with you old lady?" I just walked off but I would like to have said if you didn't want people to stare at you you should not have tie dyed your hair young woman. I wonder how many people know just how offensive it is to us senior citizens to be called old lady or old man. those are not kindly words as they are usually sneered at you.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Hatley you are not old or senior. If anything, I'm the old man here, and don't forget it ;) I did appreciate your story here. While people are free to do with their hair what they want, I can understand your curiosity and I can understand (somewhat) the girl's reaction here. I've had ideas of putting a bit of green and blue in the head but nothing ostentatious. There is no reason to snap at people though. I feel your pain at the remarks towards the elderly. If only we had honorifics to go by instead of some rude remarks, well much better than this... just have some more respect toward the elderly.
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@Fidget (291)
26 Apr 08
I have been know to dye bits of my hair odd colours in the past but I was under no illusion that it would draw attention. If I didn't want attention I wouldn't have done it *sigh* Perhaps I should go and get tested for common sense, I hear it's rare and valuable these days!
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@Fidget (291)
26 Apr 08
Wha? WHAT?! That's just... silly! Personally, if it had bothered me that much I'd have got up and moved, even if it meant not having a seat, and then IF the guy followed me I would have complained to someone.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Completely correct. Now I do deal with some odd stares and mutters here and there... but no one should be arrested or anything. Just take yourself and move on. If the person goes out of their way to trespass on you, then something can be done.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
26 Apr 08
It is an unbalanced world that we live in, always has been always will be by the looks of it. Previously I think it was fair to say that it was the male gender that was favoured by most aspects of the law. However now it is definitely more a case of the female having the upper hand when it comes to the eye of the law. I have read both these articles and as already stated I am appalled, disgusted, outraged... the list goes on I'm sure you get my point
@Fidget (291)
26 Apr 08
Whilst there is still some unbalance between genders, I hate how in some cirlces there seems to be women using the whole 'victim' thing. I believe in equal rights not misandry and misogyny.
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@LouRhi (1502)
• Australia
26 Apr 08
oh yes I agree whole heartedly, women are often only a victim because they choose to be. Of course this isn't always the case but it is not uncommon for women to play the victim to see what benefits they can reap. It makes me sick and ashamed of my gender when women go around doing this
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I have to agree there should be equal laws, equal rights, and most importantly equal responsibilities. People are sovereign but we are not to trespass upon each other. That's one of the main things that bothers me about stories and situations like this as there are benefits to some and handicaps to others... along with a lack of common sense to boot.
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@AmbiePam (47821)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Wow. What a joke. Do you think there is any hope for the ridiculousness of this story to get out and shame them into letting the poor guy be? I mean, how do you prove that? Last time I checked, there had to be proof. Crazy doesn't even begin to describe it.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Apr 08
"Crazy doesn't even begin to describe it." Hence my facepalm. The only thing that could be done is to spread the story, but thanks to "he said - she said" and a few "what" moments, its hard telling what really happened here.
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
26 Apr 08
Yes, that was definitely an "ugh" story. So often nothing really makes any sense at all. People get so caught up in what they perceive to be the truth that they are blind to what is truly factual. Two people on a train stare at each other...one goes to jail because the other perceived an issue when there truly wasn't one (most likely). Ahh...a crazy world we live in.
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Apr 08
I'm so glad I'm finally setting into weekend mode though. The stories were about to get me. In terms of the story and how weird things are getting... maybe its time for Plan Oedipus (uh... the blindness thing not the obvious thing -_-). This way, guys are blind and are therefore incapable of stares.
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• United States
26 Apr 08
Even if the guy was staring, whatever happened to "They're my eyes and I can look where I want"? I mean this is ridiculous. He got put in jail, because he looked in this woman's direction for an extended period of time? Things are getting too outrageous in this world. He wasn't hurting a soul by looking at this woman. Had it been me, I might have taken it as a compliment, after being weirded out. But I definitely wouldn't have called the police, let alone pursued jail time for this individual. I have to read this other story about this rape with no jail time. Was this in Italy too? This country is really messed up if it was. You can get jailed for staring, but you get off for ruining a 14 year old's psyche for life. Gawd this is a mess.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
26 Apr 08
The other story was in the US. The staring story was in Italy. "Gawd this is a mess." Definitely. That's why I'm glad I put up a free-for-all and a "bees" thread. Any more odd or "ugh" news and I'd go crazy.
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• United States
26 Apr 08
Ambie Pam just made me think about something. When I've noticed people staring at me in the past, I just spoke to them. Opened the lines of communication so they didn't feel so intimidated, as they obviously were since they were staring instead of speaking their mind. This situation could have been solved just like this. Obviously this man wanted to say something to the woman, he was just shy or didn't know what to say. All she had to do was say hello to the man, and started a conversation. She might have found out that this was a nice man that just wanted a little conversation during the train ride. Instead now this man is in jail for admiring her beauty. I guess he will keep his eyes to himself from now on -_-*
• United States
26 Apr 08
Leave it to the US to have a double standard. I will come back and comment more on this when I read the story.