If your teenage son messed up and got his teenage girlfriend pregnant would you

wow good post first off I have daughters an hope an pray if it happens the guy will be there for my daughter an I would let my daughter know I would help her an her boyfriend anyway that we can an make sure I have an open line with his parents because the baby will be part of both lives his family an ours if I had a son IO would have him get a part time job to help his girlfriend out an do what I could to help

I would have supported him to marry her because there will be a big problem if i ask him to leave her. This is the major problem most of them face today.

I would make sure my son found a way to both continue in school and find a part time job to take care of his child. It is not just the girls responsibility to work out what to do, it takes two people to make a baby. Yeah it would be a shock at first but I would be there to support my son and make sure he stood by his girlfriend and did the right thing. Mistakes do happen and they are still young so they need our guidance and support.

Wow. I lived this scenario just this last November to January 08. My son and his girlfriend found themselves with the baby issue. At first it as a shock. But my son whom I am very proud of was so supportive of her. He goes to school and has a job; pays his own bills. He had every intention of standing by her- He had every intention of standing by the child even if they seperated at some point. He had a name chosen for his daughter or son. She was all cute about it and looked up the due date and baby names and all that. She went home and told her parents about a week or two later. The choice, the situation, everything gone. Her parents told her to have an abortion as she was too young, she did not want to go on welfare or have anyone help her to raise a child, she was to wait until she was old enough and financially stable to be a parent. Hmm. Man I am 38 with 5 kids and I still need help. My mother in law watches my 4 year old while I work, who can afford daycare.. My son cried, I cried, the family cried. I tried to give her the pro's and cons of both situations explaining that she could do it with support from our family. They could work different shifts and we would all help both taking care of him/her and financially as well. I had a crib, clothes, the works.. I told her to research online other teen moms to see how they dealt with keeping or aborting. But in January after much persuasion (no choice) by her parents she did as she was told and aborted her baby. Man she was three months, I could see her baby belly. I cried and cried-but I did not show anyone as it was her body and my opinion didn't matter. That was my sons baby therefore a part of me too. It was a sad day...January 3, 2008. Oh by the way, due to dissappointment in thier daughter, dad kicked her out in March..she now lives with us full time. go figure....

I don't have any children yet, but I know that I agree with many of the people who are posting answers in saying; I would not support an abortion, I would talk to the parents of the girl. I believe it is just as much the responsibility of the man as it is of the woman because they are both involved. I would have major issues if the girls parents forced her to have an abortion as it would be my son's child and my grandchild. I would rather help raise the baby then to see it killed. I would require my son to get a part-time job and help support the child but still continue his education.

i dont know what to tell you to do about this problem my friend i have a son he is only 6 years old i dont like the ideal on adorted maybe she can gave the baby to a good home i hope things works out for you take care

I may make him complete school and college atleast as its just not the question of the child he has but also his future. Kids are kids and and you sometimes have to look other way and forgive them , you can not shrink from your responsibility. I would ask the girl's parents too to help out to make something out of the life of these two stupid kids. getting a job and taking care of his own kid is a good idea and part of the finances could be borne by both sides. If everyone teams up , it can work out for all of you too.

No I wouldn't want him to drop out of school. No I wouldn't consider it to be the girls and her parents problem (takes two to make a baby). I would not provide complete financial support for the two of them but I would help them out as much as I could. Yes, I would want my son to take responsibility and continue his education and working as well. Yes, I would be STRONGLY opposed if the girls parents wanted her to abort. I would beg and plead with them to not do it.

i will make sure that my son will stand on his responsibilities like any noble man will do, he did that in the first place although it will break my heart to decide i will still decide for the benefit of the child in his girlfriend's womb. we are all human and so everyone has the right to live a decent life.

I won't let the girl abort the child she's carrying. I will not let my son drop out from school. I want them both to finish their studies. Also, I want them both to live separately and mature on their own.

Hi tjades, This is something that everyone involved should discuss in a reasonably manner. See what the two young people want, but remember you and the girls parents are the adults here. I think that they should both finish school, but that your son should help support the baby, if that is possible at all. I don't believe that the girl should be left carrying the bag, as the responsibility lies with both. As for abortion, that is a private matter between the families, but I think how the young people themselves feel about it is very important here. Blessings.

Either i`m a boy parent or a girl parent the things which seems to b wrong is wrong for me.I`ll give sugetion for abortion.

I think you forgot about giving up the baby for adoption. It also depends on how mature the teens are, some are still kids in their minds at that age. It would be a tough call and I would sit both parties down and come to a solution. Then I would support whatever was decided. Teens need to finish their education first.

hi tjades, no i would not make him drop out of school but he sure would be working a lot when he was not at school. that child would be considered family and be treated with respect and compassion as we would the mother of the baby. we would help anyway we could but we would not do it for them. we would be dissapointed and angry but life goes on and would only need a few hours of selfish tears.

for me i will let my son to finished thier study till my grandbaby will born, we sit together & talk about thier situation we cannot even let them thrown away in that kind of problem we need to be there for our child even what big or small problem, we know also they made a mistake , so we are there to make staright thier road.

I have 3 sons and 2 daughters if this happened to them at a very young age I will help them no matter what. I wouldn't allow abortion. I will take care of both of them and I will support them in any way I can. They just have to help me on this as well. I will never turn them down at the time they need me the most.

If my teenage son and his girlfriend messed up and they got pregnant, they would both be responsible for things. I would be supportive of them and help them complete their education and/or obtain better jobs (my teenage son is already done with school, his girlfriend is not) but they would need to act like adults and get it together for themselves and the baby.

This is a discussion my hubby and I had just the other day. He stated that we would push for adoption. I am an adopted child of an unmarried mother and carry a lot of baggage. I told my husband we would care for the child and help our son as much as possible. He would still be in school and work a part time job. We would also welcome the girl with open arms if she and her parents would let us. Everyone makes mistakes, but a child shouldn't ever be considered one...we would make the best of it.

Hi, I would choose option 4. Although its early in thier lives to be "burden" they must be held responsible and do the right thing. Abortion is totally out of the question - matters like this despite the "cliche" could not be solve with that. The sayings say whats goes around will come around - so do not do something where they have the life time to "haunt" them. Just take it this way - its not the end of their worlds. And look at it this way - its the beginning for a new life.

I would let him make his own choice but i would strongly suggest to him to stay in school