Couples Arguing

Australia
April 29, 2008 9:42pm CST
How often do you argue with your partner? Do you live with your partner? If so what happens when you argue-is it really bad and you don't speak for days or do you usually get over it pretty quickly?Or arre you one of those lucky people who say "My partner and I haven't argued in twenty years!" What's your arguing style?
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@abbey19 (3129)
• Gold Coast, Australia
30 Apr 08
My hubby and I have been married for 42 years and had our fair share of arguments, especially when we were younger! In those days I would sulk and not speak to him for a whole day sometimes, and that made me feel worse! Nowadays, although we still have arguments, they are very few and far between, and when we do, they are over and done with quickly. Life is too short to argue - it has taken me a lifetime to figure it out!
@selby70 (283)
30 Apr 08
We argued a lot when the children were growing up he always moaned if I bought them something not that it did him any good, now we dont so much I guess we have got older and cant be bothered anymore.
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• United States
30 Apr 08
My fiance and I don't argue very often, which is a good thing. We occasionally have misunderstandings, and one of us will sulk or storm off, but it's always a brief "cooling off" and then we're fine again. We've lived together for most of the time that we've been together, and we've never had a time when we wouldn't speak to each other for more than maybe half an hour.
@anawar (2406)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Oh yes, we argued when we lived together. (We're not together now, but it's not because we argued.) Arguing was a new concept for me. I never let anyone yell at me and this relationship was no different. However, this was the first relationship I had where it felt okay to argue. Sometimes he would make these drastic statements, like 'well, if that's what you think, I'll get out of the car right now.' To which I would reply as I pulled over, 'okay, get out.' We'd both have a good laugh at our games and the making up part was well, just like most people say_ worth the argument. I always lived by the motto of 'don't use the big, I'm leaving you words' unless you really mean it. But, this time, I think I kicked him out three times, which was surprising and shocking to me. I always let him come back. I guess I let him back in one too many times. We ended up parting in a sad way, and I will always miss the love and the arguments we shared. I can still hear us laughing on the front porch after making up. Life is an interesting experience.
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
30 Apr 08
In the 16 years we have lived together I can count our big arguments on one hand. I don't like fighting and so I found someone I get along with. We disagree sometimes but we always work it out. We have a policy to never go to bed angry so we work things out quickly. It always blows me away when I see couples that do nothing but fight and argue, why bother even being together? I guess whatever floats peoples boats.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
30 Apr 08
i have a live in partner and during our first few months we argue often until it became lessened as the months went by. we have been together for more than a year but we still argue on different issues but not the petty ones like before. you see, if two people in love argues that means each one is trying to communicate and each one is trying to figure out how to be together so their relationship would work better than before. i would like to ask you to change your perspective on this issue, people who have not argued are not lucky because they it's either they do not care what the other partner does or they simply do not love one another.
@mummymo (23709)
30 Apr 08
My partner and I have lived together for almost 11 years and we do argue regularly! Sometimes it is about communication or if one of is is crabby or whatever but we don't give each other the silent treatment - I think he sometimes wishes I would give him the silent treatment so he could get a break but tough! lol xxx
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@minnie_98214 (10574)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Mw and my hubby have calm arguements we dont yell or hold grudges. I cant tell you the secret we are just calm and not get to emotional. Plus my hubby is smart he knows im always right hehehe.
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@tammyr (5969)
• Etowah, Tennessee
30 Apr 08
We haven't fought but about twice. We often fuss at each other a bit. you know how it is, we are both right!lol I don't think there is a time when we stopped talking to each other. Maybe for a short time, but we get along pretty well. But boy when we have fought... !! I don't like when we have a REAL argument.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I don't argue, my husband gets puffed up or mad at different things such as if i go somewhere and do not get back when he thinks i should...My husband gets mad all by himself,pouts,and i just ignore him and go on about my business...He stays pouting and i just ignore him and when he gets ready to talk he talks,until then i just let him pout his little heart out....Thats how it is around here.....I will not argue.......
@Bebs08 (10691)
• United States
22 May 08
Well, not really arguing but we disagree in some points but not very often. I should consider that it is very normal for couples to disagree in some areas. If I think I am right, I have to speak up and if I'm wrong I won't insist. It is very impossible to believe that there are couples who never disagree or even argue ever since in their married life. That's a lie.
@golfproo (1841)
• Canada
12 May 08
Hi There, I have been in a 14 year old marriage where arguing was just part of every day. It was very stressful. Needless to say that marriage has ended. I am now in a year old relationship with somebody I have a lot in common with and we virtually never argue. I would have to say I certainl prefer the latter! cheers, :)
1 May 08
My partner and I have been together for four years now and I can honestly say that we haven't had a row at all. There have been times when we have *agreed to disagree* but we have never had an all-out ruckus.
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
1 May 08
Hi coffeeshot! Hubby and I do argue once in awhile. Probably, we do have arguments once a month or sometimes once every two months and if things are really not doing well, we do have arguments twice in a month. haha... When we have arguments, we really don't talk to each other for at least 5 days but that is because he does not want to talk to me. I usually try to talk to him, he is the difficult one! haha.. Just my thoughts dear friend. Take care and have a nice day!
• Philippines
1 May 08
We dont argue often. We follow this simple and quite funny rule. "whoever gets mad first has the right to rant. The other should shut up." hehehe So whenever he gets mad, i shut up and vice versa. We give each other time to rant and then time to think and reflect on the words that has been said. Then we talk and apologize for things said and not said. Sometimes it takes days, but we always end up reconciling.
@reinydawn (11651)
• United States
1 May 08
We don't really argue. We do disagree sometimes, but we can't always agree... Last night we were watching our tape of The Medium and one of the characters was saying something about the other characters having a fight. Well, they were just not agreeing, that doesn't mean they were fighting...
• Malaysia
1 May 08
apparently i dont live with my partner but i often argue with him just because he dont like me
• Australia
30 Apr 08
I am happy to say that my husband and I rarely argue at all. When we do, I wouldn't really call it an argument but something around the lines of Me : "Did you take the garbage out?" Hubby: No Me: Can you take it out because I have been busting my butt over here and I'm exhausted?" Hubby: Errr alright, meanie! (he then sticks his tongue out and smiles) Meaning, it's usually a few words and then it's done... We have had a few major arguments since we have been married but not many and most of those were over his family. However, now that I cut the bad seeds out of my life, we get along really great. He and I are pretty close, he's really patient and I can talk to him about anything. He's a pretty mellow kind of guy, which really has helped me tremendously. I used to be married to a man who used to abuse me. I married young and so, I'm so happy and content that my current husband is nothing like him and that we get along so well. It really makes me so happy and I feel safe when I'm with him. I love him, he is my whole world!
@ruthinian (2311)
• United States
30 Apr 08
Argument if part of any relationship. That is something we cannot avoid considering me and my hubby have totally different values, culture, orientation and up-bringing. We are barely one year married and we are still in the adjustment period. The honeymoon stage is over quite literally and figuratively. So we are dealing with our differences everyday of our lives. But we are able to resolve any differences with understanding, acceptance and openness. Kiss and make-up always works for us.
@dreamy1 (3818)
• United States
30 Apr 08
I rarely argue with my bf. We can go months without arguing. Sometimes when I'm mad at him I don't even want to look at or talk to him. We live together so it's not like I can go home. A couple of times I have just left and took a walk. I'm usually fine the next day and we are back to speaking again.