how long did you wait between kids
By only1shi
@only1shi (404)
United States
May 3, 2008 1:20am CST
my husband and i have been together for six years. though it is hard to believe it has been that long, our families have been pressuring us to have children for as long as we've been a couple. we now have a nine month old daughter. you would think that would shut up our friends and family for the moment. but no!!!! before i even gave birth, they were all asking when the next one is coming. the nerve of them.
we've decided that we want to wait until my daughter is at least three years old. she'll be out of diapers, be in some sort of pre-pre k program and be old enough to understand what is going on without(hopefully) a whole lot of jealousy. and even though she is already walking, people are trying to jinx us with another one.
i guess what i'm getting at is, how long is a good enough amount of time to wait between children?
3 responses
@blueangel_7298 (362)
• United States
5 May 08
there are two years between my two boys. i think that is a good gap. but i think that a good gap between the two is when ever u feel ready not when the rest of your family feels ready.
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@liquorice (3887)
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5 May 08
I'm with you. I think that bigger gaps are best. Our daughter's two now and I can't imagine having to run after her, deal with her terrible-twos' tantrums and look after a new baby. I know that loads of people do it, and I'm in awe of them but like you we'd rather wait until she's settled at nursery school.
I still think that there would still probably be jealousy with a three year old, and maybe at any age, but by three they can at least understand more than at two.
It's obviously a personal choice and I can see that some people have them close together so that they can be good friends and grow up together which is lovely, but I think there are pros and cons to any age gap and what works best depends on the temperaments of the children.
@kezabelle (2974)
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3 May 08
The best age gap is what ever you feel happy with just ignore everyone else. We have two years and 27 days between our children, it was hard work but totally worth it! We plan one more and wont do it until our youngest is at school in two years mostly for health reasons though
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