Can i borrow money from you?

@julyteen (13261)
Davao, Philippines
May 6, 2008 7:06am CST
this is the words come from my friend. everytime they need money, i always help them to solve their their problem but it happens this day that i don't have money at home, so i refused to give him. i don't want my friend felt bad with me. what i did is right or wrong?
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@gemini_rose (16193)
6 May 08
I would not feel bad, you cannot give what you have not got, and if your friend is a real friend then he will understand and if he does not then he is not a real friend. People do start to expect you to always be able to help them when you have always helped them before, but this can be a bit of a pain because then you start feeling that you should be able to help them all the time. You did the right thing.
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@stephcjh (32328)
• United States
6 May 08
You did the right thing. If you do not have the money, then you just don't have it. Why don't they do some online work like you are to get some extra money? It drives me nuts when people say they need money but then they will not do the simplest thing to get it.
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• Philippines
6 May 08
uhmmm.. i think its just Alright**... it cannot be denied that some point of time we don't have or had short this sort of amount or things...CO'z we don't and we CANNOT even own everything in this world... its OK to help others need and Its always OK to refused sometimes if and if we really tell the TRUTH that we can't offer HELP for a moment of time comes...## *so just feel OK for yourself and don't mind it as a BIg mistake you'd made to your friend..ITS NOT a CRIME ...## @jam@ ~enjoy life~ be contented****
@aseretdd (13709)
• Philippines
6 May 08
It is not always that you can rescue your friends from money matters... it is sometimes good to turn them down so that they can think of other ways to get the money (good ways, of course)... I myself find it difficult to turn them down... but since i experienced not being paid a lot of times... i now try to say no as often as i can...
• Philippines
6 May 08
You don't have to feel bad about it. Ok, yeah I know that it is in your heart to help your friend that is in need. But you should remember that you have limitations too. In this case, you just tell them the truth, that you don't have extra money to lend them. Once in a while, people experience that losing money or having no extra money, once in a while, and that is natural and your friend should know and understand that. Helping a friend should not cause you any difficulties or hassle. If it cause you trouble then you need to stop. Cheer up
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@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
6 May 08
No can be a very difficult thing to say to a friend but at times you have to. You were not wrong to say no if you didn't have it you didn't have it. They should understand that they can't always lean on you they need to stand up on their own too. You may have helped them to figure it out on their own so next time they will have the skills to do it on their own again. So try to think of it as a positive. It was the right thing to do.
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@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
7 May 08
you cannot give what you don't have. if you keep on lending money to friends, that is ok , so long as they are paying it back. worst is , if they are not paying their obligation. it is alright to turn them down, it is not your obligation to lend them money. if they felt bad then they are not your friends.
@blindolf (15)
• Philippines
6 May 08
you don't have to feel bad about it, you're just being honest. it is alright to lend or give money to your friends to a certain extent. if your friends kept on asking money and it becomes a habit then you must draw the line. you're not a bank for goodness sake :)
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• Philippines
6 May 08
What you did was neither right nor wrong since you didn't anything in the first place. :P Just kidding! Your friend would understand that you cant help him financially right now coz you're also broke. I would.
• Singapore
6 May 08
A friend is not only willing to lend friends her/his money. A friend is also understanding if his/her friend is not able to do so sometimes. A friend is a person who truly understands if you express it well. Even if you don't want to do so. It's your money, not his. You don't have to feel bad or anything.
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@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
6 May 08
No, you did nothing wrong. It is not always easy to lend money to friends or family.It is not a problem if you have it to give and may not need it back, but if it might cause you to be in a bind dont do it. If your friend is a good friend he will understand. We lent money to my son a couple of years ago and he never paid it back.
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• United States
6 May 08
You did exactly the right thing, further more you shouldn't lend your friends money everytime they ask. It will become a habit and they will run over you. Then when you don't have it, they will get mad, as your friend did this time. Sometimes friends take kindness for weakness, and it isn't right. You have to learn to stand up, and not support your friends all the time. They will be mad at first, but they will come to understand and respect you.