Live-in Relationships

@cobradene (1171)
India
May 11, 2008 3:35am CST
When will live-in relationships be accepted in the Indian society? There was a time in ancient India when the thinking was liberal, and man respected a woman's freedom of choice and also every individual had his/her freedom to choose and live the way they wanted to. But, now it's totally opposite. Today, a common Indian man or woman doesn't have the same freedom of choice of lifestyle. We have to adhere to so many rules of tradition and family etc..which make no sense at all. How do you think this change can be brought? My another question is, when two individuals are willing to choose a life for each other, what do the parents and brothers and sisters have to do with their decision and why should they stop them? Who gives them the right to do so?
7 responses
• India
11 May 08
Yeah? i didnt think so, i never heard of a time in ancient india, like that...Any ways, im from india and i m completely against live-ins, not just because its our tradition, but beacuse marriage is a bond of respect for individuals. Marriage has society's respect and also benefits. Now dont consider me all conservative, im also totally against arranged marriages in india. I just cant think how is it possible for two individuals who barely know each other except their names could just confine and live for their rest of their lives? Its like at this age, they gotta marry, at this age you gotta have kids and whatever ur partner is...just live with them...
@cobradene (1171)
• India
16 Dec 09
Look back at the history of Indian culture. There was a time when there was no system of marriage.... A few events led of one boy whose mother left his father for another man, and that's when he decided when he grows up he will see to it that no child loses it's mother. So he and his friends worked together to bring a system of marriage and family that doesn't get broken. There is a tribe still in Madhya Pradesh, who live a far more liberal life than any Indian community, and they have the system of boyfriends and girlfriends... India was way way liberal before... Very liberal... A lot of things changed around the constant invasion of Muslim rulers.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
16 Dec 09
Look back at the history of Indian culture. There was a time when there was no system of marriage.... A few events like, one boy whose mother left his father for another man, and that's when he decided when he grows up he will see to it that no child loses it's mother. So he and his friends worked together to bring a system of marriage and family that doesn't get broken. There is a tribe still in Madhya Pradesh, who live a far more liberal life than any Indian community, and they have the system of boyfriends and girlfriends... India was way way liberal before... Very liberal... A lot of things changed around the constant invasion of Muslim rulers.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
11 May 08
Hi cobradene, I agree with you. The choice should be with the two individuals, and families should not get involved. Blessings.
@cobradene (1171)
• India
19 Aug 09
Hi pose, long time. I like your answer and I agree with you that two individuals should be given their choice and the families should not involve, but continue to support them in times of strife or difficulties.
@aowaow (1517)
• Indonesia
13 May 08
I'm not from India, but I have the same weather the subject you're talking about in here. It's their era gave them the right to do so. They live with it, and die with it. Remember, they live in a different atmosphere concerning marriage's tradition and its snippets. Then they come and suggest because they appear as the older, which they found the same treatment in their era. They also treated like the way they treat you now. I won't blame them. I respect their behavior. Because if we confront their idea, we will make a bad contraction in our family relationship. I will adapt which one suits the best and make which properly approaching to get a best mixture to both sides. Liberty doesn't mean we can ride freely without obstacles. Liberty in Revolution may give another new problem, just like the one you mentioned above. It's up to you now.
• India
12 May 08
I'm not exactly sue whether every man and woman is facing this problem in india . But as far i'm concerned my parents are very much acceptable to my decision on selecting my life partnet. My gal is well known with my family .so no probs. But aroundthe story goes this kinda relationships are centre stage at the scripts of many indian movies.Go for any indian movie u find relations of both the boy and gal fighting each other ..god only knows when this tradition comes to an end .
@james_22 (14)
• India
11 May 08
it is left to us what v decide and what we do. the society is formed with people like us, we only make the society and we only can change the society. if two individual are willing to stay in a live in relationship, then they should not be stopped as they are major and can decide what is right and wrong, the family people must be lovingly explained why they want to live in relationship, this is the only solution that through logical explanation and discusion we all can live happly, in a mordern society with new morden thinking.
@eihdra (3116)
• Philippines
11 May 08
I guess it goes the same here in my country. Some people are open minded thus accepts the idea of a man and a woman living together and not married..But most of the society shuns the idea..You see, I live in a Catholic society..and the pope doesn't agree with living in..it's a clear violation of the catholic church.. well, maybe in the near future, living in wouldn't be a violation in your country and mine..
• India
11 May 08
yes thats true that now a days live-inrelationaship is catching in the youngsters but i think that it will harm our indian culture, i think love marriage is good option but staying together with your partner and that too without marriage that can affect the india society