Mother in law - Like her or not?!

@ebsharer (5517)
United States
May 13, 2008 8:04am CST
Do you like your mother in law? Is she nebby and always butting in or does she go with the flow and leave things alone? I am very lucky my mother in law only gives her opinion, or advice if asked. We get a long very well. We go shopping together, out to dinner, and so on. When she watches my daughter she is respectful of our rules with her (our daughter) she does just as we ask. I love that about her. I know that she doesn't spoil her like the other grandma does. So what is your rant about your mother in law if you have one? Or what is great about her??
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7 responses
• United States
13 May 08
I just hate my in-laws in general. When we were dating, they were tolerant but never actually welcoming. When I tried to help with Thanksgiving dinner one year, not only did his mother yell at me and make me cry the night before, but the day of or after I never got a single ounce of appreciation, thanks or anything. But when his 16 year-old brother knocked up his 17 year-old girlfriend they were all over her and if ever she made them Hamburger Helper, all his mother could do was gush over how wonderful and helpful their great new daughter was(they weren't even married). Then, when we got engaged, they were too enthralled with the pregnant teenager to even congratulate us, much less act like they gave a damn. Then they started insulting me, not to my face but when they knew I was in earshot and I come to find that they'd been insulting me behind my back the whole time. Not only that, but they constantly insult, offend, manipulate and guilt trip their own son. It's now 2 weeks before our wedding and they probably won't even attend. Not that I really want them there, but it's still just sh!tty of them to do that to their eldest son.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
I understand your point of view. It has to be hard to become part of a family that doesn't accept you. For me my mother in law was the only person in his family I knew until 2 days before our wedding when I met his sister. I didn't meet the rest of his family for a couple months after we were married. My husband and I have been married for 4 years in July and it took about 3 years to get close to the rest of his family. We now live in the state where his family lives and although we get together for holidays thats about it. Other then holidays I see his mom, dad, dads wife, and sister. I guess in time things will change and hopefully get better for both you and me.
• United States
17 May 08
I'm not becoming a part of their family, I want nothing to do with them. I've been living with my fiance for 2 years and I haven't seen them once in that time, especially not for holidays. I don't intend for that to change anytime soon, either. I do hope things get easier for you.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
19 May 08
Sorry its that bad for you and you don't think things will get better. I wish you all the best!
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
14 May 08
My fiance's mother, or my mother in law is a very nice woman. She does butt in on occasion but only when she feels that she should. It's more of a motherly thing then any kind of evasion of privacy. She's respective of us and our privacy.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
Thats good that your mother in law knows her bounderies. I love that about both my mother in laws. They know when to say some thing and when not to.
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
15 May 08
I am a bit confused, you say "both" by what do you mean?
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
If you had read my other comments you would have seen. I have a mother in law and a step mother in law. My husband's mother and father divorsed years ago and he remarried. So I have 2 mother in laws, thats what I mean by both.
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@Essie119 (673)
• Canada
14 May 08
I have the best MIL imaginable. She is totally respectful of the fact that we have a life apart from her, but she is always welcome. She calls before visiting, and is always willing to help us if we need it. Too, we are always willing to help her.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
It sounds like your talking about my mother in law! She only give opinion when asked and even then doesn't like to. She calls to make plans not just show up. She would give us anything she could as we would her. Glad to hear you have a likeable mother in law unlike a lot of people.
@mimm45 (168)
• Australia
13 May 08
My mother-in-law has been good to me. We get along very well. I like her very much. Though most of the time she wants to control things and sometimes puts words in my mouth or does my thinking for me - like what food I might not like - I don't react negatively to it. These are little things not worth arguing about. She gives us a lot of advice but we only take what we think is right. What's great is that I think (and my husband thinks so too!) she likes me. She loves bringing me my favorite food or going out to the movies with me. And for the record, my husband's aunt (his mother's sister) like me very much too. She always asks to speak to me first whenever she calls.
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
I am very lucky to be liked by my husbands whole family. I have always welcomed them to my house with open arms so they have done the same for me. Its nice to have a good relationship with your mother in law - it really does help.
• United States
13 May 08
I do like my mother in law she does alot for us but yeah she buts in alot trying to tell us the "right" way to do things. hubby kinda gets mad and yells about it but I usually just smile and say oh okay I didnt even think about doing that then I go ahead and do it my way anyhow.
@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
15 May 08
I know the feeling of telling a mother in law "okay" just to shut them up. I don't have to do it with my mother in law but my husband has to do it with his - my mother. My mom is always tell us how she did it ... which works becuase I am basically doing the oppsite lol. Some things never change.
@Nykkee (2523)
• Canada
13 May 08
I can't stand my mother in law. SHe is the queen of negativity. YOu could tell this woman that you found the sure for cancer and she would find something negative to say about it. Also she tries to make everything about her. She didn't even acknowledge our first anniversary and when she was called out for it, she started bawling crocodile-tears and tried to turn it into something where we shoudl feel bad, not her.
@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
13 May 08
I know some one like that - my boss. He is the most negitive person I have ever met. I try really hard to help him see the "bright" side, so I understand where you are coming from.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
13 May 08
I absolutely ADORE my mum in law....Shes a very sweet and wonderful woman! I wish I could have met her husband too whom my husband says I would have gotten along with amazingly but unfortunately he passed away before I even met my hubby...My mum in law is a very kind-hearted, accepting Christian woman who has welcomed my children and I into the family with open arms...She's been nothing but loving to us and I couldnt ask for another...My kids just adore her to pieces too
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@ebsharer (5517)
• United States
13 May 08
I am lucky enough to know my father in law and he too is wonderful. He is remarried and his wife is really nice too. In fact she watches my daughter during the week for about 2 hours a day. I am lucky enough to have 2 mother in laws that I adore.