No Gift for the Birthday girl...Do I show up at the party?

If I invited a friend over to my birthday party, I would never expect a birthday present. It would not hurt my feeling if they came empty handed. If this person is really your friend they will understand your financial situation and not be upset your not giving her something. The one you might want to bring is a card. Even if you make it and be sure to include a nice personal note inside.

if your friend a true friend a present should not matter to them,the fact that you when to party,made the effort to go to it,should be enough for them,and you can always explain your sitation and why you cannot give her a gift,but you could take a card write something nice in it and give her that.

Well I’ll be very frank with you…I love receiving gifts. So whenver somebody is invited to any occasion in our house, I at least, expect a gift. It can be a small bunch of flowers, a small bar or chocolate or just a card with a box of sweets. Its not that if somebody doesn’t bring anything then that person is not welcome. No not at all and then what would I do with all the food I cooked if anybody that doesn’t bring gift doesn’t turn up? My friends are always welcome but if it’s an occasion and they come without anything, its just that I feel a bit let down. But one thing I must tell you is that if you do indeed land up without anything, don’t make excuses and promise of a belated gift. I feel that such gestures insult the host as if to the host, not the guest but the gift is more important. No need of mentioning, you can always gift somethng later.

I would try to make up a handmade certificate (like I'll cook you dinner or I'll spend in an evening doing whatever free activity you'd like). My monetarily poor friends made me such a book at Christmas; I found it really nice.

If it was my birthday party then I wouldn't expect a gift but if it was one of my kids and you were bringing kids then I would expect it since I put out alot of money to entertain the kids and they go home with gift bags besides feeding them.

its ok if you have no gift for the birthday girl as long as you're there. it's the presence and the thought that counts. i know she'll be happy if you're in her birthday even though if you don't have a gift for her

Often times just your presance at the party is gift enough. That says that you care about your friend enough that you are willing to shar in this day with them. If you find that you cant afford a simple card why not make one. I have found that the BEST gifts are the ones from the heart. Gifts from the heart to me are ones that personally made not bought in a store. Hope this helps.

Well I guess it is unanimous! You should go, have fun and not worry about not having a gift. A card with a heartfelt message will be great! If it REALLY bothers you to not take something there are many things at the dollar stores that are inexpensive that you could get for her. Small things like a picture frame, a small floral arrangement, etc. can be bought for a dollor or so. They also have cards for 50 cents or $1.

I think if she is your true friend, she will not mind it if you attended her bday party empty handed. Your presence is enough that you are there in her special occasion. Anyway, if you really want to give her something later on, just give her a card and write there, your gift will be sent later. You don't have to purchase expensive item. Just wish her all the best of health and happiness and that's enough for the moment.

It seems we all agree that your presence will mean more than anything to her. Go and have a great time. Perhaps your could pick up a card or even make her one if you feel funny walking in without anything. Birthday parties are about celebrating with people in your life that make your life great. Go and be proud you were invited.

I would prefer that my friends show up without gifts than not to come at all. I want my friends around me, not what they can bring me. If your plans are to buy her something later, than tell her that in a card. If not, simply take a card and don't worry about it. I am sure she would rather have your presence there than not have you there to celebrate with her.

I wouldn't care if my friend shows up to my birthday party empty handed, just as long as they show up. As friends she should know your situation and understand.I put more value into my friendships than i put into material things.My advice is to buy her a card, and in it explain how you feel about her tell her that if you could you would buy her the world, but seeing that you can't you'll just give her your heart. If she's a true friend she'll be touched... Good luck but please go.

The answer depends on her personality, lol. Some people are just happy to see you, others expect a present and will talk behind your back about your lack of consideration in showing up without one. Only you can give the answer as to what type of person your friend is. Isn't there something personal you can make for her? Maybe just something like a gift card for a personal treat to be redeemed later?

hi wayz, iam you true and good friend,. so i want to give you a new and special gift for your birthday.take care.

Give her a homemade coupon! Does she have kids? Offer her a night of babysitting. Does she need a day off? Offer to come oer and cook for her. ...stuff like that.

I think it's better for you to show up. A nice gift may not always have a relationship with money. You can DIY a gift and it's still a wonderful and may even a better gift. If I was that girl, I wouldn't mind whether my friends bought me gifts or not. The most important that is they say happy birthday to me. I love China

Your presence is enough if they are a good friend. When I have a party of some sort, I don't expect to get a gift, I just invite people to enjoy their company so I don't think it is wrong of you to go giftless and I don't think the person who invited you is thinking about a gift that you may bring. If you can, just get a birthday card or make one. Or do nothing and just go and enjoy your time with them as they think enough of you to want to spend some time with you on their special day.

Personally, I wouldn't show up empty-handed. I would feel too uncomfortable. Now I have been to parties where gifts were not expected so that was different but if they are expecting a gift then it would be wise to bring one. However, being that you are strapped for cash, get her a belated gift. Better late than never as the saying goes. I would stay home too, I wouldn't go without anything unless you call her and ask if it's ok.

Go !!just take yourself and go!!dont even think that you have to take her a present,if you havent got the mone at the moment then thats fair enough,its far better to be honest with yourself and say ..well I cant afford to spend anything at the moment.If she is a real friend which im very sure that she is then there will be no worries about you arriving without a pressie!and if you really wanted to give her something when you got paid,you could always say sometyhing along the lines of..well I thought as a special traet that when I was paid I could take you out for lunch!..im more than sure that she would like that promise.So dont worry,just go ahead and enjoy yourself,she will be more than pleased that you turned up.

hi friend, i think she is a true friend.