Am I too picky....
By taface412
@taface412 (3175)
United States
May 17, 2008 3:43pm CST
Am I too picky, you be the judge.
My list:
A man who is employed with a stable and good job.
A man who knows I can take care of myself, but still wants to spoil me just a little.
A man who can respect me and anyone else that I care about in my life (as in family and friends).
A man who seems to know what I am thinking before I even say a thing.
A man that I can trust as much as he can trust me.
A man who can make the first move.
A man who understands that time away from each other is not a bad thing, and we don't have to check in with one another.
A man who values honesty.
Oh, and last bu tnot least....
A man who values education (and he does not necessarily have to have a degree).
Years ago I would have said he would have to have a college degree because I had one. I now know that there are many men out there who are very intelligent without a degree. My main focus on that point was it would be nice to find someone who had goals....one of them not being a "kept" man.
What brought this on was someone told me I needed to lower my standards about 2 notches....I had no idea so many men were afraid of pole vaulting...silly me. LOL
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3 responses
@peeohdee (40)
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19 May 08
Hey, I'm picky too! I just figure I'm worth more and I'm not about to settle for just anyone. I don't think there's a time frame to find someone for yourself, and I most certainly don't believe that you have to feel pressured just because people around you are hooking up. It will happen when it's the right time. Besides, I find many who have rushed into a relationship and getting married right away suffer a lot of problems somewhere down the line. I say, if you're not ready, then don't push it. Also, I fond that if you have other interests to occupy you, not only will you not feel like you HAVE to be dating someone or whatever, but you come across as someone with substance instead of just being someone whose sole purpose is to find THE ONE.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
19 May 08
Good point. It seems like everyone talks about finding THE ONE, but then just go with ANYONE. I have actually began to come to terms with my life and understand that everything happens for a reason and I never have been one to settle for less, because as you said "I'm worth more".
Everyone seems to want to rush things now days, but it's not like I am. I have been single almost my whole life, so I think that is why I started to wonder....but faith is being restored.
Thanks for the response.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
19 May 08
no you are not too picky and I lucked onto a man who had
most of those assets but he had never got a college
degree while I finally got mine when I was in my fifties
which tickled both of us. he was definitely a keeper though
and I loved him and he loved me so it was a good marriage.
'I have been a widow for many years now.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
19 May 08
I am sorry to hear you are widowed, but am happy to know that there are still quality men out there.
And after I posted this I realized that is all I needed to remind myself the qualities I want in a man. And I realized that maybe the problem is not me, but maybe other people need to raise their standards a notch or two LOL.
Thanks for the input.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
17 May 08
Whoooaaaa.. that is a good list for a man. I remember I had a list for my perfect man but when I met him, I forgot my list... he is not perfect but almost everything to me so that is okay. I don't make a lot of list for a man lolz.
