hiv/aids

@kerriannc (4282)
Jamaica
May 18, 2008 12:30pm CST
Why do person's discriminate. Is it because they are ignorant of the causes. I started a discussion about unfaithful partners when I join the MYLOT family and in in I was honest about my positiveness. But since disclosing this I have wrote topics that I know each person can participant in and still I am unable to receive more than five responses. Discrimination hurt and if you know someone living with this disease I would implore you not to do it. We who are infected didn't just go out there and pick it up. Yes there are person's who deceitful and make it their point of duty to be revengeful. But there are geninue infected person who was given wrong blood or their partner give it to them not knowing themselves was a carrier. This is a man made disease and because of evilous men millions are suffering daily. I would like everyone just to give this thought. Spread positiveness among those you know has it. Give a hug or encourage those to think positive. This is all I am asking you my MYLOT friends.
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@Remmie7 (168)
• United States
19 May 08
Dear kerriannc, My brother has a very close friend that has hiv. We all grew up together as kids. I haven't seen him in over 30yrs. I finally got a chance to see him. My brother had a party at his house and I was so very glad to see him. He told me about him having HIV and how he was honest with his so-called friends. After telling them, they started to act funny with him, not answering his calls, nor answering the door when he would try and visit them. They just dropped him like a hot potatoe. All except my brother, even though they aren't blood brothers they grew up as brothers. You never seen one without the other. My brother kept intouch with him. My brother has his back and none of us my brother, myself and my mother has ever treated him any differently. As he was telling me about his experience with the so-call-friends I could see the hurt in his eyes and I will never make him feel like that. It hurted me to see him like that. Who knows it could be one of us in his shoes. So people don't discriminate, try to give an encouraging word, show that person LOVE and be compassonate. We are ALL in this together. Thank You kerriannc for bringing this subject up.
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
19 May 08
You are so welcome Remmie. Alot of person do not know how it hurt when we are face with discrimination even when you try to be brave whenever you are by yourself you begin to cry. Since receiving this laptop from my sister I have found friends via the HIV/AIDS.com chatroom. I am so comfortable in there, you know talking with persons who are going through the same thing like me. Maybe you can tell your friend about it. My user name is kerry there. Mylot and this site is were I spend my day.
@Remmie7 (168)
• United States
20 May 08
Good Morning kerriannc, I forgot to ask you, can I add you to my friends list? I will tell my brother about the site so that he can tell our friend about it. I hope to get to know you and you know me. Thanks Remmie7
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
23 May 08
Yes dear you can add me to your friend list. Sorry for just responding back to you.
@MrNiceGuy (4148)
• United States
20 May 08
You think people are discriminating against you because you are HIV+? I would venture to say it is because your discussions are probably uninteresting or because your grammar and punctuation are very bad. And HIV isn't a man made disease, that's ridiculous.
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
21 May 08
I know why you are licking out against me because I go through your profile to see the type of person you are. Well because I speak against the War on Iraq you come to my discussion and try to insult me. I have seen worse grammar, punctuation and spelling on this site and no one pay it no mind. Thanks for responding it was well received.
@MrNiceGuy (4148)
• United States
26 May 08
I had no idea about your other discussion, but if you were as melodramatic and accusatory as this then I do not doubt that I left an unfriendly remark to your comment/response. And I have seen worse grammar as well, but that is received the same way among english posters.
• India
19 May 08
Kerri, I have just read your side of the story and was also happy to note that already 10 people have responded to this discussion. And I should be the eleventh. Friend, it is absolutely normal that a posting gets about 5 responses on an average and if you are already getting that many, that means you are actually in the leading position, and there should be nothing to worry. And about being positive, about being positive, the feeling should be great. And no cause to worry. And that should not be and will not be a basis for discrimination. Remember, peoples memory online is very short due to the number of people that we meet on the internet. "Out of sight is out of mind" - And this is exactly the adage on what we all live in, and is it absolutely true, especially with internet based virtual friends. So dont worry, just keep writing and posting with a big smile on your face. With best regards SmileyDevil
@kerriannc (4282)
• Jamaica
19 May 08
Thank you so much for your uplifting thoughts.
• India
18 May 08
Discrimination comes from ignorance. when people are not aware about something they apprehend a lot. Among the peculiarities of human mind we do find that probabilities towards untoward outcomes are greatest among fearful speculators. In other words people always fear for the worst. I am telling you about our hospital's Delivery room. many doctors got scared when after the delivery of a certain baby her mother demanded ART. Now this sent shivers in the spines of the care givers involved in the deliveries. the reason is in deliveries episiotomy is a very common procedure, many and I mean many a times needle stick injuries occur particularly doing a muscle layer stitching. After that incidence doctors in our hospital went for a strike demanding mandatory assessment of HIV status before entry into the labor room. The importance of which not only lies in the fact that it concerns the safety of doctors but also it ensures that other patients are also safe. Now this type of sorting out patient has helped our hospital in taking proper care of patients who are HIV positive. But I totally agree with you about not to discriminate patients just because they have a disease. I am definitely with you in this noble movement. May God Bless You
@ameeluv (388)
• Saint Lucia
21 May 08
Poepe out there discriminate so bad due to the ignorance.... out there. Lately people dont take time to read onf acts but otherwise they go aorund listening to all opinions and propaganda that the real thing fades in such an instant blur.. so many critics out there and little of them rather is ay few dont know half of what they are saying rather refering to.. and they call them selves philosophers or saviours.. well whatever they are.. hiv/aids is growing and becoming quite rampant within our population and some things that are being done isnt helping to salve this epidemic AT ALL we stereotype everyone with the virus.. unaware of ways that it can be transmitted... we exclude patients from our meettings due to their status.. now is that fair?? I say no.. our attitude about this whole thing needs to change.. If not... it will be going on for centuries to come until we have all been plagued.. and yes there comes suffering with this plague.. and no im not being religious I am jus givin out what i think... so here stop the discriminating
@bellaofchaos (11553)
• United States
20 May 08
But since disclosing this I have wrote topics that I know each person can participant in and still I am unable to receive more than five responses. I honestly don't think it has nothing to do with discloser of something you have said to the mylot community. Your new and sometimes it takes a while to get a discussion that you get a lot of responses to . I can say I still have a whole page of discussions that aren't answered it has nothing do to with you. It just has to do to the flucuations of mylot and if you post a discussion that people truly want to respond to. nothing more nothing less.
@Sanora (23)
• Canada
19 May 08
Quite frankly I don't think it has anything to do with the fact that you are HIV+ (like someone else said). Personally, I respond to discussion based on the topic and not the member who initiate it (I don't even remember their names). I don't personally know anyone HIV/AIDS infected, but I am still trying to educate myself about it. I don't believe that you or some others in this state should be discriminated against. Only, as hard as it is for you (I can't relate), give people time to learn and get to know the facts. Because it's human nature: we are afraid of what we don't know. You see how all the MYLOT people responded; so, hang in there.
@Ravenladyj (22992)
• United States
19 May 08
But since disclosing this I have wrote topics that I know each person can participant in and still I am unable to receive more than five responses Dont read too much into it...you are new here and I know that MANY newbies have a transition period of sorts when they first join..I knwo that I didnt get many responses to a lot of the threads that I started when I first joined....Just give it time once ppl get to know you etc etc you'll find that you'll get more replies I'm sure
@rsa101 (13337)
• Philippines
19 May 08
I admire your courage in opening up your situation about having the disease. Although it could not be easily transmitted from one person to another except of course when you have contact with one another. But since the idea right now is that disease is considered contagious is what other people discriminate you. I think its true many are ignorant about the disease because when it was first discovered there were many information that cam about that the disease is easily transmissible to another person and that belief has not been erased despite the correction that the disease can only be transmitted through bodily fluids exchange. I am pretty sure it would take some time since the cases are still increasing by the day people being infected. The fright is still present from those who are not affected. I hope that the discrimination would finally be stopped in time and fidn a cure for this disease.
• India
18 May 08
discriminating ppl in any way is unfair and in this case on the basis of health issue is like a sin...who are we to say who is suitable for the society and who is not...we should all strive for the betterment of the society and not fill the world with hatred and jealousy
@Ldyjarhead (10161)
• United States
18 May 08
The reason you are getting so few responses is because you only have a few friends and interests picked here and are a fairly new member. Add lots more friends and interests. I guarantee that your responses will pick up (provided it is a halfway interesting topic). If people don't see your discussion, they're not going to respond. It's a numbers game, and in this particular case, I seriously doubt has anything to do with discrimination.
@teka44 (3425)
• Brazil
18 May 08
Hi kerriannc. I am proud to respond your discussion. I don't think that you don't receive many responses because discrimination. I don't receive many too. Only 4, 5 or 6. I give a response for the discussions of my friends but they don't do the same. Well, I never have luck with people. But it isn't the matter. I said that I'm proud to respond your discussion because I know what HIV is. All my friends was gays and all of them was die with HIV and now I'm feel so alone. I care of some of them because their families didn't wanted them near. It is a sad thing when the loved ones don't want to stay near and care about a person that is their family. I had proud to be a friend of them when they was live and still have proud to have been a friend of them now when them are die. I never meet a person that have more worth that them and I am sorry for them needed to pay so much for love. So I'm sure that here have many people that don't care about your HIV. I wish you the best luck my friend.
@irdsm1 (288)
• United States
18 May 08
I hear you. There is no reason to discriminate against people with HIV/AIDS On a side note, "This is a man made disease and because of the evilous men millions are suffering daily". I have no idea where you got that. HIV/AIDS is not "man made". It came from an immunodeficiency disease from monkeys that was zoonostic (transferable between different species because of mutations of the virus). It was likely gotten from a monkey bite or from a person who got cut when butchering a monkey for food. This disease spread from Africa and may have come to the US through a homosexual flight attendant. When he got back to the US he spread it among the gay community. There are a few different theories of where the virus originated, but it is usually accepted that it came from a sub human primate. HIV/AIDS is no longer primarily a gay disease. It is achieving rates nearly equal among the straight community, so discriminating against people because their HIV/AIDS may make them "gay" (or discriminating against people because of their sexuality in the first place) does not make sense. Dan