Help--It's going to be a long summer!

I wish I could help you on this one. I have three grandsons that were the same way. They aren't brothers, they're cousins. I don't know what makes them do that. Conferences with teachers did no good. One mother even talked to the school counselor. Nothing anybody did had any effect on them. The fact that he can't participate in band activities if he doesn't keep his grades up motivates the one that's still in school now a little. So other than knowing you're not alone, my response won't help you any.

Wow, I wonder if he is being challenged enough. I mean he sounds brilliant. Most kids don't even care how sloppy homework might be as long as they get it done. Has he always been like this, or is it since he started maybe puberizing? My 13 year old just seems to have lost his mind someplace and gotten very absent minded all of a sudden. Things I have never had to worry about such as forgetting his homework at home he has started doing..... Lord Mom I sure don't know, each child is so unique that it takes a brainy parent to know what they need.

I hope you have really good success with this discussion.

Let that boy relax and enjoy the summer. maybe by the time school starts back he will be matured a bit and you can quit getting wrinkles from worrying about it. Of course his brother is going into the 7th. next year so maybe not!

I don't know how you can help him come to terms that that is what life is about, making mistakes and learning from them. I would just keep hugging him and encouraging him. As for the not turning in his school work and stuff, could it be part of his age? I know they get to an age where they have like a vacuum between thier ears or something. They live in the moment. My son brought home his first B this year and I was shocked, then upset because the only reason he got the B was because he messed around and didn't add a table of contents to a project he did, that one thing brought his whole average down. When Jon started the 6th grade they were given an organizer to help keep track of all the home work they had for each class. I thought it was so cool. That lasted about a week, then the organizer became history, still don't know what he did with it. Other than staying on him everyday during the school year to help remind him of what needs to be turned in and if he turned it in, I don't know what you can do. Just be glad he only has what, four years left?