is living together witout marriage right according to u?

India
May 19, 2008 4:32am CST
there have been many examples of couples who live together in the same room without even marryin each other.accordin to me it is ttoo unethical n not right coz then u start takin ur partner for granted n not value him/her as much as u would after marryin her!!
8 responses
@kezabelle (2985)
19 May 08
Personally I dont see the problem, if my man cant respect me before we are married then im not marrying him, we have lived together almost 7 years now and we are very happy and have two gorgeous little girls I know many people dont think its right but that makes it their problem NOT mine therefore I dont concern myself with how their opinions upset them over how I live my life basically its none of their business! I would expect my man to treat me with respect and value who I am wether we are married or not if he cant while we are not married why would marriage vows make him change? I think as long as you are happy and treat each other right then marriage or no marriage it doesnt matter
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• India
24 May 08
obviousy marriage or no marriage matters!!! coz after marriage ur man is answerable n responsible to u!! in 2day's no world no 1 can take ne1's guarantee coz ppl have bcome veryselfish!! without marriage ur man can leave wheneva he wants n u have no choice to fight ne kinda legal battle against him coz u have nothin on paper!! this is just a supposed situation!! so wat would u do in such a situation wid ur heart-broken n u all alone? plz reply if u have an answer!!!
@kezabelle (2985)
24 May 08
He doesnt have to be answerable to me married or not thank you! and he is responsible to me and our two children! As for if we split up well I would manage my god im 24 not 14 and if he wanted to take everything we had then thats his choice but as a responsible father he wouldnt leave the kids with nothing so I know it wouldnt happen. Say he did that though well we would manage i am quite capable of supporting myself and my children without him. You cant judge us you dont know us!
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• United States
19 May 08
hey there dude..thats my cats name too lol.anywho..first off where and how do you see if getting married would stop anyone of them taking granted of each other hun,,its realy the same for both kinds of relationships..and i see nothing wrong with living together without being married..i treat him as if we already are..heck the only difference betwen the 2 is a piece of paper..i have been living with my b/f for 5 mths now..and though we are engaged..we love..hate..fight..make up..laugh..and raise our son like we are..and i dont value him any less becasue of it..have a good one and great post! April
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• India
19 May 08
Nice point raised there. But i think you got it all reversed my friend. Its generally after marriage that the couple tends to take each other for granted. I don't say that "live-in" relations are unethical or right. Its just a matter of opinion of an individual, or a society. It is acceptable in a society where people have a broad mind towards modernization. In a more conservative society like is, this kind of relationship is bound to raise questions. Anyways i think i made my point. The bottom line is no matter what someone says it all depends on the two persons who have decided to live together.
19 May 08
That's not true. My partner and I have been together for six years. We love and respect each other and are grateful to each other for everything we do for each other. A ring and a piece of paper don't change how much I love him or how much I value him.
• India
24 May 08
so y dont u marry him?? plz reply!!
24 May 08
Why do I need to? We're happy, respectful and peaceful. There's nothing wrong with our morals.
@maquisa (316)
• Philippines
19 May 08
now a days i'd rather live without marriage than marrying and got divorced just because of differences,actually now i don't believe that every relationship last long,and i know someone that they didn't get married but happy with each other.nice day
• India
24 May 08
so accordin to u marriage brings in problems wid it???? or do u think tht by living together b4 marriage helps u know tht person n if u r not staisfied u will not marry him/her.according to me it would be like playin wid tht person's feelings coz in LIVE-IN relationships there is no kind of commitment as such n u relationship alwayz hangs on a thread!!!!
@excellence7 (3477)
• Mauritius
20 May 08
I think that co-habitation is purely unethical. Its always pinpointed that its far better to escape a divorce; divorce are merely legal, yet the emotional trauma when a couple break its the same, infact in cohabitation its very often more common, as it lacks the security that a matrimony offers.
@Ben101 (120)
• United States
19 May 08
i dont see how it would make a difference in whether they take each other for granted or not but i dont think that people should live together before marrige
@gloreymay (882)
• Philippines
19 May 08
Depends on the commitment or status of the couple. But for my own opinion i would consider first marriage before living with a partner. Respect for the person and the family is more important and so asking for marriage is one way of respecting the partner as a person and a lover.