How long would you allow an in-law to sit at your house...

@cream97 (29166)
United States
May 19, 2008 9:10pm CST
I remember my mother-in-law coming to sit at my house, and she stayed a long time.. She stayed about 8 hrs. She sat on my long couch the entire time, except to use the bathroom. My father-in-law would be working in town for these hours. My mother-in-law does not have anything to eat, only but a bottle with some liquid in it, that she can drink out of. She has one drink but no food. What do you make of this?
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@dragon54u (31632)
• United States
20 May 08
Oh no, she can't eat anything you have and sits there for 8 hours?! At least you offered. She was probably lonely, what did you do all that time? I think I might have offered her a walk in the garden or a game of backgammon but other than that I would be at a loss! Did she talk at all, or just sit?
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
20 May 08
She talked when I sat down in the living room with her.. It was not much that I had to do.. Or could do for her... Her husband never called to check on her at all.. Nor did he brought her any food to eat on..
@dragon54u (31632)
• United States
20 May 08
Well, he was at work. She knew she was on her own, so she must've been lonely. Poor lady! It was very nice of you to let her enjoy your hospitality.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
20 May 08
Yes, I try to be very nice to her. My mil has treated me like crap in the past. But I try my best to over look these issues. I still think about it from time to time..
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
20 May 08
Hi cream97! I think your mother in law has so much pride in herself that she doesn't want to have anything that you will offer her such as food or any help. She may be uncomfortable with being in there in your house and she wanted nothing else except to just wait for her husband to pick her up. That is really uncomfortable and I think, in this time you can make this work for your benefit. She is vulnerable and helpless because she is in your territory, so you might as well show her that you are not like her. Be good to her and show her kindness but of course, you have to show her also that she can't cross the line with you. I know that it is really difficult dealing with these "mils" who have the attitude but whatever she does, teach yourself not to be affected so much with her since she is really out there to annoy you..and if she sees that she is not getting into you anymore, she will get tired of her games and hopefully realized that she is at the loosing end for she never gave herself a chance to know and feel how it is to be loved by a daughter in law. Take Care and God Bless! Happy Mylotting!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
21 May 08
Yes, she is at my will now. Either like it or leave!
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Hi cream97! I completely understand my friend. I sometimes have mixed feelings with my mil too. Just try to keep calm and don't worry too much dear. God Bless! Happy Mylotting!
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
22 May 08
Yes, this is what I will do. But just seeing her makes me cringe!
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@julyteen (13259)
• Davao, Philippines
24 May 08
it seems that you have a cooled war with you mother-in-law, it's nice to be true than pretending that your okay even it is not, if you can't take that this person stay long time in your house maybe you can request to your husband if ever that your mother in should not stayed in your house for a long period of time because you are afraid that something bad will happened if she stayed always in your home maybe because of the attitude his mother. be transparent to your husband so that this will not turn to serious problem.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
24 May 08
Yes, and this I will do. I feel that my mil is out to get me. She takes pleasure just trying to ruin me... I don't understand this.... I seriously think that she needs some help...
@Gollywog (1092)
20 May 08
Your mother-in-law must be lonely at home on her own for 8 hrs. Maybe you could include her in a little house work, she might feel useful in the 8 hrs she is with you! You could make her a snack and a cup of coffee and chat to her?
@jer31558 (3683)
• United States
20 May 08
LOL, my mother in law came to stay and help out when our last child was born. It was supposed to be for just about a week. She is still here (and I wouldn't have it otherwise) and that was over 12 years ago.