How long would you allow an in-law to sit at your house...
May 19, 2008 9:10pm CST
I remember my mother-in-law coming to sit at my house, and she stayed a long time.. She stayed about 8 hrs. She sat on my long couch the entire time, except to use the bathroom. My father-in-law would be working in town for these hours. My mother-in-law does not have anything to eat, only but a bottle with some liquid in it, that she can drink out of. She has one drink but no food. What do you make of this?
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• United States
20 May 08
Oh no, she can't eat anything you have and sits there for 8 hours?! At least you offered. She was probably lonely, what did you do all that time? I think I might have offered her a walk in the garden or a game of backgammon but other than that I would be at a loss! Did she talk at all, or just sit?
20 May 08
Hi cream97! I think your mother in law has so much pride in herself that she doesn't want to have anything that you will offer her such as food or any help. She may be uncomfortable with being in there in your house and she wanted nothing else except to just wait for her husband to pick her up. That is really uncomfortable and I think, in this time you can make this work for your benefit. She is vulnerable and helpless because she is in your territory, so you might as well show her that you are not like her. Be good to her and show her kindness but of course, you have to show her also that she can't cross the line with you. I know that it is really difficult dealing with these "mils" who have the attitude but whatever she does, teach yourself not to be affected so much with her since she is really out there to annoy you..and if she sees that she is not getting into you anymore, she will get tired of her games and hopefully realized that she is at the loosing end for she never gave herself a chance to know and feel how it is to be loved by a daughter in law. Take Care and God Bless! Happy Mylotting!
• Davao, Philippines
24 May 08
it seems that you have a cooled war with you mother-in-law, it's nice to be true than pretending that your okay even it is not, if you can't take that this person stay long time in your house maybe you can request to your husband if ever that your mother in should not stayed in your house for a long period of time because you are afraid that something bad will happened if she stayed always in your home maybe because of the attitude his mother. be transparent to your husband so that this will not turn to serious problem.