Choose you parents or your boyfriend?

@salonga (27957)
Philippines
May 21, 2008 11:08pm CST
Your parents warn you to give up your boyfriend or forget that they are your parents. But you can't because you love him so, but you also love your parents and would not want to be disowned. I believe, If my boyfriend deserves my love, I would choose my boyfriend because anyway, I also have a life to live. My parents may perhaps have reasons but it is for me to decide my life. Anyone who can give better opinion?
6 responses
@Pigglies (9339)
• United States
24 May 08
It would depend on the situation. I already am expecting that my parents will probably disown me when I get married. But I can't stay single forever just to please them. You have your own life to live and if your parents don't want to be part of it, in some cases you just have to decide that that is too bad for them, and move on. If I married a man, my parents would probably not care who it was. But since I'll eventually marry a woman, they are not so pleased.
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22 May 08
Always my parents because of course they love me the most! Though I don't think my mum would ever ask me to give up my boyfriend unless there was something very wrong with him. So I might find it hard, but I'd know which choice I should make.
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@mykmari_08 (2466)
• Philippines
22 May 08
Honestly, I believe that no offspring could choose his or her parents because it is more of the parents' decision to bear or not bear a child. And even if one decides to forget that he or she is not connected or related to them, there will come a situation in his/her life that he/she needs to consult them or talk to them. It might be regarding wedding or parenting or problems with his/her own children in the future. Now that I'm already married for a little more than five years; I guess my perspective on life in general and on a lot of things have gradually changed due to certain situations which affected me and my life. I'm assuming that you're still unmarried and on the verge of deciding whether to break up with your boyfriend or have your relationship last to forever. The only advice I could say, based on my own experience is; take one moment at a time and think ten times before making your final decision regarding this relationship. Perhaps you're right; your parents might be seeing something in your partner which they believe you don't deserve to endure with him or they just might be too cautious with you. No one knows the exact answer unless you open up to them. They definitely wouldn't put you in danger. Just do be careful and always bear in mind that our parents are God's eyes and custodians of us. Take care and God bless.
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@janaraji (154)
• India
22 May 08
your parents gave face and addresss to you in the earth!! you can get more boy friends provided you are looking good and ready to enjoy the life - but - think of future - your parents will tell only good for you. you will not get the real affection from your boy friend, but with your parents.remember always your parents made you big and ask this kind of unhealthy question!!! look for long peaceful and happy married life with the blessings of your parents. dubai jana
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@rirbry (353)
• Malaysia
22 May 08
how long do you know your boyfriend? instead of your parent? parent is a very protective person sometime they dont allow us to do something maybe because they feel there maybe something bad will happend to you, you have to convince your parent about your boyfriend, you dont have to choose while you can have both, my parents dont like my boyfriends either when they first met but i convince my parents that he was a good person and after 4 years we been dating as a long distance couple we are getting married and i got my parent blessing too =)
@mentalward (14695)
• United States
22 May 08
Do you know why your parents have this attitude? It may very well be that they speak from experience and only want the best for you. It is up to you to decide, yes, but you really should hear them out to understand why they feel the way they do, and perhaps you can explain your side of it in a calm discussion and not with voices raised in anger. I know I should have listened to my parents a long time ago. They were right, but I was too stubborn to give in and learned it the hard way.