This weekend is going to be so hard for me...
By mamacathie
@mamacathie (3928)
United States
May 23, 2008 2:36pm CST
if you would would you please pray for me. If you go to my profile and click on my bog and read my article on How to Grieve it has my story up to now. This weekend we will finish getting everything out of my parents' house. They both have passed away and I am an only child. My hubby and kids and their families have helped me get things moved out. This weekend should end the move. That will be the final chapter on that part of my life. I am 53 but it is still so hard on me. Even with my precious hubby and kids and grandkids I feel all alone, like an orphan. I will be closing that chapter of my life growing up in that house. It is so hard to explain how this hurts to know my memories are all that will be left after finishing with the house. If you believe in prayer I would like to ask you to whisper a prayer for me. I don't want to say good-bye to that part of my life but I guess it is time to let it go. Thanks for reading this and thanks for your encouragement and support. God bless you.
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
23 May 08
I am so sorry that you are going through this. My husband lost his Mother a couple of weeks ago and his father many years ago. It has indeed been hard on him. I let him talk and try not to say anything too stupid (everythings going to be alright,for instance)and i also talk about her. I don't want my children to think that they can't talk about her, i would have given anything to have had someone to talk to about my Grandmothers (pretty much raised me)but it upset everyone so much that i didn't and i grieved for years, because they were gone and that part of my life was over. As the years have slipped by i relize that they are both very much with me , in the way i raised and taught my children, the way i think, even in some of the ways my grandchildren have i can see them, then i have to laugh because my granchildren are being raised a lot like they raised me and when the time comes my g-childrens children will probably get taught the same lessons in the same way. I still take comfort in the fact that i passed my grannys to my kids, my kids are passing them to their kids and so on, my Grannies never did leave me, i just lost track of them for awhile because i couldn't see them! I will keep you in my prayers and remember your mother helped shape you into who you are and she will never really leave you.
@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
23 May 08
Thank you so much. Oh yes, let your family talk about those loved ones. I love to hear things said about my mama and daddy. It brings them alive and right there with us again. Yes, I see my mama and daddy in my grandchildren. My daughter was pregnant with one of our grand-daughters when my mama, her Granny, passed away. She was due any day. Well, guess what, our little 18 month old grand-daughter is so much like her great- Granny that my mama is still here with us. Then my grandson is so much like my daddy, his great-Granddaddy that he is still with us. God works all this out for our good and we can continue to be with our loved ones. Thanks for your prayers and thoughts. God bless you.
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
26 May 08
I'm so sorry for your loss.
I know it must be hard for you being an only child and losing that connection to your past.I have also lost both my parents but i have a sister and brother to remember them with. I wish you GOD's tenderest mercies as i know your heart must be full of pain. Just lean on your love one's. And believe that there is no pain that GOD can't ease. Best wishes and GOD BLESS.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
26 May 08
Dragonfly! That was so special what you just said to me. I thank you so much for your encouragement and support. With my loved ones and friends on mylot, like you, I know all of you with God for sure and carrying and getting me through this. Thanks and God bless you.
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
27 May 08
I know what you're going through.
I know how it feel's to be surrounded by friends and family and yet still feel alone in your grief.
But i have proven that GOD never leaves nor forsake us and it's just at these times that he's with us even more.
So be of good cheer and know that who he keeps is well kept. Thank you so very much for best response. Hold your head up and know that although the pain of your loss will never fully go away, it will get better.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
24 May 08
mamacathie my prayers go out to you. i went through'
the same thing with my parents too. that was a long
time ago but I still miss my mom so much as old as
I am now.You do have to say goodbye and move on and
in 1991 I had to do it again when I lost my husband.
we were supposed to have gone through old age
together but fate decided otherwise. now it is my
adult son and I.
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@mamacathie (3928)
• United States
24 May 08
I am so sorry for your losses also. I know it is really hard but as friends we can support one another and get through all of this. Thanks for the support and encouragement. God bless.
